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These Six Words Can Change Your Life ...... "For Free" ..... No Really !!
Is It Time For A Change ??
Okay ... So you've messed up. In a grand act of selfless friendship you lent a friend your beloved Tony Robbins, "Personal Power," motivational course. Then you hear from another friend that the first friend has unexpectedly moved out of state, taking Tony Robbins with him.
You call his girl-friend. She's of no use. She's a sobbing mess because your friend ended their relationship via text on his way past her street. You politely listen. Agree that your friend is a terrible, terrible, man. You exhibit a pained empathy, then make your move. "Wow boss is calling gotta go" your thumb instinctively hitting the red phone on your cell. it takes a minute or two, but then suddenly you're angry. His girl-friend still has your Tony Robbins "Awaken The Giant Within" CD-Set. Now you'll eventually have to call her back.!! Won't that be just great ... AHHH !!!
Does this sound like you ? Have you been wanting to "Awaken The Giant Within" but can't shake loose from all the losers in your life.?? Just don't want to spend the several hundred "more" dollars you'll need to replace your Tony Robbins collection??. Is that what's troubling you - you "schmuck" with pathetic friends ??
Well then chum, you're where you need to be. Because I'm here to provide you with the equivalent of every self-help book, tape, CD, and seminar ever produced in these most blessed United States of America and all you need to do is memorize "Six Simple Words," and God Bless Me, I'm gonna do it for absolutely free,...all gratuitous pizza, suds, and Braves tickets not withstanding. So turn that frown upside down and prepare to motivated buddy. Ahh ... say you got any donuts ??
But Somewhat Seriously Folks
Seriously, after a few decades carefully listening to it's language, I've noticed that most self-help media produced after 1975 is, for the most part, just a variation on a theme. That's not to say I don't believe what current motivational speakers, including Tony Robbins, have to say isn't valid or useful. I've just decided to come up with a code of behavior for myself that I've managed to simplify down to six words. Actually, it's three- two word phrases.
Do I always remember to apply these three phrases ? ... NO !!
Will these three phrases help in your daily life ?... Well they could, if you want them to !!
Is this fantastic advice really free ? ..... Yes this really is free !!!
Okay, so you probably knew I'd start at the basics. No surprises here. But unless you can see yourself succeeding, you'll never know how to act when you do succeed. In which case, you won't be very successful for very long.
Throughout my life when I've ever come across someone that I can tell is just hating their job, be it a waitress, a store clerk, or any job of that nature, I've occasionally engaged them in conversation about the job or about their life in general. Eventually, I always get around to asking either one of two questions.. What would you rather do ? Or, what's your dream job ?
Invariably the answers come back something like, "I'd rather win the lottery" !! "My dream job is sitting on a beach drinking .... whatever". Though they may be unhappy they never seem to want to take any steps to change anything. Which isn't to say that many people couldn't eventually be sitting on a beach all day, but they don't have a plan to get there.
As far as the lottery goes, well, you know the answer. The point is there are many people who have no vision, hence they can't see where they're going. That old poster on the wall of my college counselor's office rings so true ..... "If You Don;t Know Where You're Going, You'll Probably End Up Somewhere Else". Purposeless lives truly are the saddest.
As far as personal, mind-focused visualization of success goes, only one example is required, that of Army Major James Nesmith. As a North Vietnamese POW, Major Nesmith was secluded in a cage that measured approximately (some accounts say 5x5 others say 5x6). For whatever reason he was isolated away from the general POW population
So Major Nesmith, alone with his thoughts for so long, and in fear of his sanity, decided he needed to unwind with a round of golf. Every day, for almost seven years, Nesmith played his favorite golf course in his mind. He not only played, he imagined himself excelling beyond his normal performance.
Not a detail was left to chance. He could smell the newly cut grass. He saw the beautiful trees slowly swaying in the wind. He could feel the clubs in his hands. He heard the whack as club met ball, or the distinctive tap as he putted. Every shot was perfect. Major Naismith visualized himself as the greatest golfer in the history of the game.
After seven years of intensely visualizing himself as the greatest golfer in history, Major Naismith was released and eventually made his way to the golf-course he'd been playing mentally for seven years. Despite his captivity, despite his radically deteriorated health, Major Naismith shot a 74, Twenty strokes better than his average score seven years before.
If that doesn't make you want start practicing daily visualization or at least take up golf, stop reading right here.
I won't delve into what respect is, because we all know it's manners, gratitude, inclusiveness, empathy, all that stuff we expect, but would have to think twice about giving. If you can genuinely work up some sincere concern and love for everyone with whom you come in contact, you're life will be much, much easier.So who's not for that ??
There's an old quote out there with so many attributions that it wouldn't make sense to give anyone credit for it..But it helps to make my point so here goes, "They may forget what you say but they'll always remember how you made them feel" Or in other words if people feel like you're using them, taking them for granted, or just plain regard them as insignificant specs of human debris, your words are meaningless.On the other hand if people believe you regard them as thinking, discerning, vital human beings, even if they forget your words or even your name, you'll always be welcomed in their circles.
I can't overstress sincere mannerly behavior. How many times, just today even, have you been the recipient of a mechanical hello, please, or thank-you. Doesn't feel to good right. Any time you're in a social setting, if you're going to say anything, at least act like you mean it . If you don't think you can actually speak something polite or inspiring to a certain individual you might want to consider the old "salute, grin and nod". It's a technique I used in the military when I didn't want to talk to certain senior officers. I've found it works. Who knows, if you pull it off with any kind of flair or professional bearing, you might actually impress the avoided party, which could lead to a great big non-mechanical hello upon your next meeting.
NOTE: If your "salute grin and nod" is more resembling of a "salute grimace and nod" you may want to just stick with the standard "salute and nod"
Yes, "Practice Serenity" is just my personal euphemism for "Relax Dammit". So how do you do it.? As you might suspect, the first steps toward relaxation all start with the mind regaining control of the body ... 1).breathe deeply 2) unclench your jaw 3) consciously flex and stretch your feet. It's almost impossible to remain tense if you're doing these three things. All of which can be practiced while performing your duties in even the most staid and repressive business settings.
Personally, I mentally recite certain verses of scripture. But you know what works for you. Even if it's Iron Maiden on your headphones or Smooth Jazz while standing on your head, what I'm telling you is if you want to remain relaxed you've got to commit to "practicing serenity" several times a day.
The standard formula is of course morning, noon, and night., which is a good starting point. if at all possible I'd also do it on an as needed basis. For instance, if you've got a particularly grueling commute, do your stretching and relaxing routine before, during, and after, that commute. Like everything else the more you do it, the more effective it will be, and the more you do it, relaxation will become a habit.
Let's face it friends, Life is a mental battle. There's a whole lot of folks and institutions out there playing mind games. For your own sake and the sake of your family you've got to have a strategy to fight back.
So now you have it. Six vital words that can lead to a brand new you !! Visualize Success ,... Think Respect, ..... Practice Serenity .... Simple stuff huh !! Stuff you already knew isn't it. Go ahead, share it. Remember it's free., But I was dead serious about those donuts .... Got any "double chocolate" ?