"They Said What" © Rolly A. Chabot
Hi Everyone, welcome and make yourself at home for another of my ramblings about this thing we call life. It is chilly here this morning and the winds are blowing and we are anticipating another of these winter surprises. On the bright side the snow we have is getting dirty looking so we need some fresh new stuff.
For those who have followed me for the number of years I have been around I think it would be safe to say most of my babbling is about life, sprinkled with nature and garnished with some love. OK so I had an awakening in the 60's and I have not fallen asleep yet.
I saw something take place a few weeks back that was hard to watch and it has been reignited over and over again ever since. Seeing as how I got this unforeseen slap at 2:36 am to get up and beat up on the keyboard I would like to share with you an observation.
Fresh coffee is filling the Fireside, Tea for those who prefer. Cuddle in close to your neighbour and lets sit a spell. Know that you are all loved... OK it's the 60's thing happening...
Oh Ya !
Know This Little Guy
Sorry for making this little fella so big but I wanted you to grasp the fact he is determined to accomplish what ever goal he desires. Look close and you will notice he has used every available resource he has, even his tail.
What do you see in this picture. I know, I know a rodent. Maybe some are saying he should be swatted and exterminated but would it not be a shame to destroy his efforts to reach the prize. What do I see and what the heck am I writing about a silly mouse hanging on for life. Right I was getting to that... personally I love this little guy, you see he is a winner, a doer and a survivor. Go for it my little friend, if you need a little boost, just squeak and I will help.
Have you ever watched a child being scolded for something. Maybe the parent has even taken it a step further and struck the child. Even worse has the parent called the child stupid, spoken the words you will never amount to anything. Have you as a child heard those words, has that old feeling of failure and rejection been sparked. We all like to think we are a loving society and yet we all have faced words that have hurt.
What I mentioned earlier of what I had witnessed was a parent telling a little girl she was stupid. You see the child wanted a candy bar at a check out. We have all seen them displayed right there. Placed strategically to be able to temp a child or yes even us as adults. To me they are yet another of those subtle yet clever in your face merchandising efforts to get that last dollar from your pocket schemes. Miss the parents but lets get the kids ploys. OK I am done bashing the marketers.
Back to little girl and Mom. The child wants a treat and Mom gives a menacing glare to the child. Maybe she was having a bad day, maybe the child was having one as well because she made the mistake of asking again. What flooded out of the Moms mouth was the most vile display of parenting and lack of love I have ever been witness too. I understand that parenting is a hard job when a child is unruly. I have never had children and yet I can appreciate a situation like this must be hard but the child became a victim of what verged on hatred. This poor little girl was crushed like a bug under a shoe in an instant in front of all who were within ear shot. The look on her face was far to familiar.
I watched this Mom grab her groceries turn to the little girl and toss one last insult her way. "You don't need anymore candy, look at you you are already fat and ugly." She stood and glared at all the adults waiting for someone to say something with fire in her eyes. Well I stared her back down and eventually she cast her eyes down after I said three words, "Shame on you."
After she left there was this buzz from everyone. "Did you see that, horrible, just terrible. After I paid for my things and walked out to my truck I could not help but notice the Mom on her knees crying and the child holding her whispering, "Its OK Mom." This would not have been a moment to disturb what was happening, it was a private time for them.
While driving home that day I could not help but think of just how many of us, how many of the younger parents of today were treated the same as children. Is it something we have learned and carry onto into the next generation. How many of us would never accomplish our goals and ambitions in life because we were told we were stupid. Were those the abusers also abused verbally like this little girl and it became a learned trait.
Over the years of being involved in Ministry this has been a reoccurring issue I have seen over and over again. Even as full grown adults that have wounded spirits, their own little child within carries this burden. It hears those haunting words over and over again. Much of it is connected to feeling unworthy and the worst of all unloved. I have been a part of the cycle and I have been a witness to the devastation it causes in life for people. Addictions, failed marriages, lack of confidence, emotional and physical illness and never feeling complete.
Can I say that I was unloved as a child. No not really but those few words I did hear effected me greatly. "You will never amount to anything, you will fail." Did they come true, yes in many ways because it became a part of my belief system. Our enemy satan whispers it in the ears of us all. My love of nature and the perfect balance opened the door to me to find my faith later in life. It was the place I could leave all those hurts behind and move forward.
My addictions in life were many, I thought they were a living hell. The withdrawals from them were in some cases worse than the addictions. It was my faith that taught me that I am truly loved and gave me the wisdom to love in return. The cycle was broken and I refuse to return to the world of feeling unloved. I am far from perfect after all I am only human.
The Lighter Side
Yes we can change. We can take control of our emotions and stand firm and say we have had enough. We can all go back and claim that little child in us and say come along self it is time to leave the past and move into what is important and that is today. It is time to forgive others and the hardest part is to forgive yourself. I am not here to preach to you or share with you my beliefs. We each have our own and I would never steal it from you. I will this though if yours is not based on love you will struggle. Please never pass your own struggles onto the innocent child or those around you in life. Love unconditionally and should someone speak something that offends then step forward and say something.
I adopted a quote years ago and I still stand by it today. "Limits exist only in your mind." If it is fed love and understanding and positive influences you will excel in anything you set your mind too. Take a long hard look at the person staring back at you in the mirror, follow your heart and know that above all else you are so dearly loved. You are special and unique and never let anyone take that from you.
© Rolly A Chabot
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