Marriage Vow of a Wannabe Activist
Well, my husband liked this "vow", probably better called a mission statement. Maybe when you.re over 60 and getting married, you don't have time for fluff. However, if you're planning your wedding, you might not want to craft a vow like this. No one seemed to like it. Not that they said anything, mind you. No one said ANYTHING at all. Then I posted here on hubpages: NO COMMENTS. I can therefore assume again, no one really liked it.
Call the "vow" selfish, call it narcissistic, call it a reaction to aging. I wrote it and, geez, it took all that time, so I'm posting it.
However, I would add this advice. If you want to have a beautiful wedding vow, don't go with this tone. Try Gibran like we did in the 60's. (Gibran's essay on "Friendship", for example, would be a good choice:
And let your best be for your friend
If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also..blah da de blah}. That particular essay was more often used at weddings than the Gibran's essay on "Marriage".
Or maybe grab a passage from the "Desiderata" or from St. Paul, "love is patient, love is kind..."
To this day, I like the vow I wrote, selfish or not, and I like being 70 now because being called selfish doesn't scare me anymore. As we said in the 60;s, "What are they going to do about it, draft me - send me to off to war? It's a refreshing time in life when you can say what you want - even on your second wedding day. So here it is.
Nothing Little Do I Ask of You
Nothing little do I ask of you,
Only that which is beyond
the scope of even our own dreams
Sit not idly with me, but take my hand
So we can run and skip and laugh;
The world is dark enough
all on it’s own
Come paint with me -
one canvas that is yours,
the other, mine
and yet another that is both of ours
Adjust my light; stand back
and tell me what you think,
with kind, inspiring words.
And make me laugh so I can see
the flaw that needs to be repainted.
And I will bring you colors for your palate
and tell you where you might add red
to make some point
that moves the masses
or moves just only us
Let’s make the third, a painting
of some mountain, not a hill,
that we will climb together.
And buy me boots and ropes.
I’ll knit a cap for you
and mittens for your hands,
Then pull me up; and I’ll pull you
So we can stand and be much closer
to the sun
to make a point
and shout it to the world.
Let’s hurry up and not slow down;
there’s work enough
to do for each of billions’ hands -
Wrongs to right, pain to ease
If we but add our hands to theirs
who wave the signs
that make the change
and strive to seek the higher ground,
and never yield
That’s all I want,
Only that which is beyond the scope
of even our own dreams.
from Billie to My Beloved Mike