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VALENTINE'S DAY EVERY DAY - Intimacy and Honesty are key

Updated on February 1, 2012


GET READY TO BUY THOSE CHOCOLATES AND FLOWERS PEOPLE! Infact, make sure that everything is totally perfect on THAT day so your special someone will LOVE you. That is what you want, don't you? There are so many cards in the stores now and e-cards and lots of places to go for chocolate! You can order it all on-line this year too! Amazon is rocking this year I am sure!

FAIL. FAIL. FAIL. This is what the new generation says when things don't work out right. Chocolates and flowers will not fix issues in a relationship and if you think it does, you are delusional.


The main point is that you and your partner need to have a deep connection and discuss issues as they come up. Even if it is every single day. DO NOT WAIT TO DEAL WITH IMPORTANT ISSUES WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP. Flowers and chocolates only delay the inevitable. Conversation and discussing things with eachother when you hit a "road block" is the only way to a successful relationship for many years.

The old saying "brush it under the carpet" can actually create "explosions" when it comes to unsettled issues. If it has gone on for years, you need to find a way to communicate and settle your differences. I strongly believe in couple therapy when it gets to "crisis mode" but both partners have to be willing to do the work. This is sometimes difficult when one partner refuses to fix things, talk it out or seek help if they can not express themselves to their partner because of fear. FEAR plays a big role in destroying relationships because sometimes one of the partners will not communicate for the "fear" that they will get some sort of "negative reaction." Sometimes a partner shuts down completely. This is a very dangerous stage for a relationship because it causes the other partner to start building a protective fort emotionally and then they eventually shut down. This usually happens when communication is not happening and one partner does not know how to deal with the circumstances and stops trying. Sometimes people learn this behavior from a parent or someone they grew up with and they take it into their own adult relationships. The thinking is "shut down on communication" and it will just go away. WRONG. FAIL. DOUBLE FAIL. RESULT...END OF RELATIONSHIP. NO MORE LOVE. DONE.


When you love someone you do not just wait for one day during the year to show them. I learned a long time ago about "LOVE GIFTS." This helped me understand how different people show love and it was very helpful in my relationships. Cards and flowers maybe something you like to receive, but what about extra time from your honey's work day. An extra hour to spend with each other on the couch with no disruptions. A meal out when the kids are being looked after. Remember that sometimes men and women have very different ideas about LOVE. I show love sometimes by nurturing my loved one's and going the extra yard for them. When my honey sends me texts and says he loves me, that makes me very happy and if I need more, I just tell him. But the point is not to put pressure on someone who is trying to do the best that they can. Think about a child. Do you expect them to be perfect all the time? Pressure on your loved one is not the best thing either...

I have also learned that instead of always expecting the other person to show love, how about doing something yourself first? LOVE always brings more LOVE....makes sense doesn't it? Anger only brings on more anger. Hate is a disease and spreads rapidly. Remember the more positive stuff you put out there the better it gets. When I give someone a LOVE gift (which can be anything really...making nice meals and special goodies for my honey or/and kids) it makes me happy to know that they are all very happy. How about taking that attitude FIRST before you put the pressure on and then let your partner "chip in" when they are ready. Sometimes I create "special rituals" for my family and I announce it. TACO TUEDAY LOVE anyone? ha ha... Just saying that makes it feel extra special! Try it sometime! Ask your partner to do something for you that does not have to cost anything? Use your imagination! How about a long and loving CUDDLE or a long walk holding hands?!!!!!! SOUNDS GOOD TO ME!

Infact why don't you start "The Valentines Countdown Now!" A flower from the garden every day until the 14th. Or a note in their pocket before they leave for work. Remind them of the LOVE and the magic and little thoughts every day will bring lots of ROMANCE!!!! AMEN!!!!!

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    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from California

      Michael......always great to see you here! I appreciate your support as a fellow writer and virtual friend!!.......thank you so much for your lovely comment!!.....Best, G

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from California

      Eiddwen.....Thank you for being here.....LOVE should be shared every day in little watering a nice to see you here Eddy! Best, G

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from California

      tyler! thanx for stopping in.....GPAGE

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from California

      flaoutsider.....thanx for leaving your info for chocolate lovers! Best, GPAGE

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from California

      The Stages Of ME...thanks for being here and leaving such a sweet comment....Best, GPAGE

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from California

      researchpapers...thank you so much! Best, GPAGE

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from California

      Kadmiels...thanx for stopping in.......Best, GPAGE

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      Michael Ray King 

      7 years ago from Palm Coast, Florida

      Hey GPAGE! Yet again, another great Hub! Getting back to basics and Valentine's Day every day! Great advice. It is so tough to get out of disastrous ruts. I agree, when one shuts down, the damage becomes irreversible unless that person can open back up. Eventually, both shut down and everything goes capput! You give strong, specific, excellent advice here! Thank you.

    • Eiddwen profile image


      7 years ago from Wales

      You are so right Valentine's should be every day and not just once a year!

      Thanks for sharing this beautiful hub.

      Take care and have a great day.


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      7 years ago

      Thank you! I found this helpful and it rings so true! Like!

    • flaoutsider profile image


      7 years ago from Florida,usa

      do you know that choclate was considered a gift from God and when it melts it is like the river of life ? In the days of old mythology there are several sonnets and pomes about choclate and they are all romantic , good job

    • The Stages Of ME profile image

      Kathy Henderson 

      7 years ago from Pa

      Very good advice for all ~ Valentines Day is everyday and communication is the best give you can give. Listening is also optimally important. Thanks for your Hub

    • Kadmiels profile image


      7 years ago from Florida

      keeping romance in your relationship is key to keeping it fresh and new.


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