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WHO TOLD YOU THAT YOU CAN'T? - Inspiration At It's Best

Updated on June 22, 2011

Ok....No Listen.....

Who on earth told you that you can't? Now let's look back, shall we? There must have been that time or moment in your life that someone you respected or looked up too opened up their BIG mouth and made you doubt yourself. Someone who you THOUGHT knew what they were talking about or atleast proved to you in someway that "THEIR way" is the same as "GOD'S way."

Someone who had lots to say to you every time you crossed their path and every time they had no one else to impose their beliefs on. Right? Do you remember this person or more then one person who took your dreams and flushed them down the toilet with theirs?!!! Hmmmm?

Let me guess. I can imagine that this person never lived their dreams because they either had "low self esteem," "too big an ego," or "fear of failure syndrome." I remember when I was young and so many different people always had something to say. The point of this article is that one day I decided not to listen anymore. But the hard part is that sometimes the negative thoughts just creep on in and it has not always been because of me! And it has not been because of you either. Capiche?!



I guess the first thing to do at this moment is reach down into your heart and make a decision. Did you always love music but someone told you that you were not good enough? Hell, most famous artists can't even sing!!! It is all done in the studio folks!!! Anyone could sound good with a good studio, seasoned musicians and a lot of cash. Period. Now it is HARD to write a HIT song, this I will admit. But the biggest problem with the music industry and an artist is the lack of promotion and finances. THIS has nothing to do with talent!!! OK?!!!!! So if this is what you want and love...KEEP GOING. DON'T GIVE UP. SHARE THE LOVE.


This is really important. The support you have around you is very important and will aide in the process of your future successes and achievements. If deep down you know that you are with someone who has a personality disorder, mental disorder, is a narcissist or self obsessed psycho.....RUN!!!!!!! You will be swimming backwards for many years and let me tell you, they will only be moving forward because they have used YOU to support their self delusions and out of control behavior.


A life coach once told me to sit in a tub in the evening for an hour or more for three days in a row and do some serious thinking about what I really want to do in life. So I did and what I found out was that I'm really not much different then when I was as a teenager! Ofcourse I have grown up and I am much older and wiser!! I'm also a parent now too! That is not the point! The main point is that everything I loved then, I still love now. It is just now I have figured a way to make a living at what I love. So, what do you LOVE?


So, you love to cook or paint. Maybe one day you turn on the television and you have an AHA moment! Maybe you saw one of those Chef shows and you want to cook! Or start your own food business with some sort of food that you just can't live without. Maybe just maybe you are exactly where you want to be and if you are CONGRADS because that is the hardest part. Making that decision that is right for YOU. Remember that the best writer's always write about "what they know." The best cooks make food that they are passionate about. The best songwriters are the one's who have really lived life. People who know what it is like to be exactly who they are.



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    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      Thanks Hilary! i'm so glad that this article made such a great impression on you. One of the reasons I write is to inspire others. This brings me to a great place of calm. Somehow I feel like I'm putting something "positive" out there in the universe! Even if it is one article! I try...I really do......Thank you also for liking it so much that you would recommend it to others. That makes me even happier. You are a light Hil.....I'm so glad to hear your positive words all the time.....The world needs more people like you my dear. G

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      hilary nathan 

      8 years ago

      You just blew me away! I hung on every word. If I had to choose one article - Hubpage - one "self-help" piece of work - "WHO TOLD YOU THAT YOU CAN'T" would, without any hesitation, be the most inspiring, thoughtful, informative and COMPLETE ARTICLE I would passionately recommend one to read!!! It is so well written that each point, that is brought to the surface, evokes a very clear and precise connection to my own, and I'm sure, most every ones, "Life Cycle" for lack of a better description. It quite simply, and that is the key, bring to the surface the obvious. When brought to the surface so clearly, it all makes PERFECT SENSE!!!! It was, in someways, validation of things I had thought, but dismissed them as being a "fools dream!" In reality, they are anything but a fools dream - they are the keys to success and lifelong happiness! So beautifully and clearly written - I shall follow your path to success and happiness and, for the first time, I truly believe it is within my power to make it within my reach!!!!!! Thank you! Hilar

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      Oh Lovey, you DO know my other favorite Eleanor quote! But this one is good too. I can hear your passion in your comment here and I know that you are speaking from amazing life experiences. Infact, I can't wait til the next time I tell you "You Can't!! ha.....All kidding aside...your comment is "right on" and you are ALWAYS "right on!" ha ...AND I like the line where you say that even "average people can think in a more skilled way." I do believe "life" is like a chess board. You just have to know when to "make your move." Whether it is in career, relationships or taking chances because you know YOU CAN!!!

      You CAN, you DID and you DO! ; Thanx for the love.....LOVEY! G xxx

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      PRASETIO! Always lovely to see you here my friend! I'm so glad that I gave you such a good feeling! Thank you for alway being so supportive of my writing. You are such a wonderful person! You inspired me with your Lemon hub!!! I'm such a fan of lemon desserts! I'm so glad that I made you feel good here too! All the best, G

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      WordNLips...thanx for stopping by and leaving your comment. You are so right!!! I appreciate you dropping by here! Best, GPAGE

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      THANKS SKYE! For your lovely comment and even MORE inspiration! I left a comment on one of your hubs and love the way you let the words flow....I'm so happy you dropped by! I always get excited when I meet POSITIVE spirited people here! Glad to know that you are here and sharing the love! Best, GPAGE

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      THANKS IV! Always lovely to see you here S....Thanx for the love!

      I would love to inspire a crowd!!! Make everyone feel GREAT! It would bring me a lot of happiness....maybe that is why I started doing plays as a child! LOVED seeing the laughter and smiles!!! Glad I encouraged you! ; Glad you are here!!! G

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      Hello Thelma! Thanx for being here today! I appreciate your comment. About your friend, I always think it is best to "stay out of it" and just be as supportive as you can even with her life circumstances and negative partner. Unfortunately it takes the person to open their OWN eyes and see where they are. It is NEVER a good idea to be the "bad news" person. If she is not strong enough to leave her situation, she will just blame you. Thanx again for leaving your comment! Best, GPAGE

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      8 years ago

      Eleanor Roosevelt once said "No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent". And when I was told I can't in my life (on almost every level) I always asked: Who said? Why not? By virtue of the fact that I was born I have as much right to exist as any one else on this planet and as much right to freely explore my own self and the world I encounter.

      I wondered about these people who told me they knew better and that I ought to know my place and then my Dad said one day "Well educated people tend to have no common sense yet think they can tell the rest of us how things are". I went away and thought about what he meant and decided that he was saying that intelligent people are often limited thinkers. But concomitantly that doesn't mean that people of average intelligence can't think in a more skilled way. I mean it's not the horse rider in themselves but how the horse is ridden.

      Now, I look back and have to say thank God for the educated fool's I met on my journey because without them not giving my consent would hold no pleasure for me! I can, I did and I do!

      F**k 'em!

      Nice one Beautiful - love u xxx

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      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Very inspiring hub, Gina. You gave us good motivation about what should we do next. I had to say to you that "I can". And I believe this 100%. I never underestimate about me and I trust my ability though sometimes I have negative thinking, it's normal for human. Just trust your self, never heard other people who make you "little" in front of them. Fascinating information and I have new spirit now. Thank you very much, Gina. My love and my pray always for you. Rated up and I'll press all buttons here, except funny. Cheers....

      Blessing and hugs,

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      8 years ago

      This a good hub...there will always be ppl that try to steal your dreams away or down you but you have rise above every situation and become a great and determined individual.

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      8 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      Beautiful hub of love. I am so with you on this sister. DO not let the dream die. I believe God has given us many dreams, desires gifts and passions. On the path it is up to us to open the box of treasures He has placed there and go for it. Do not let the dreams die. A Great hub sister. Many Blessings. What a writer you are. Clear and direct yet heartfelt and loving. Great job. I voted.

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      Sylvia Van Velzer 

      8 years ago from Hawaii

      Great job G! I imagine you speaking to a large crowd, in a motivational conference, and getting everyone excited, to rise up and make something of themselves. I hope many get to read this hub and find encouragement. I did.

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      Thelma Alberts 

      8 years ago from Germany and Philippines

      Hello GPage,

      This is a wonderful hub and very inspiring to those people who are underestimated by their friends, partners and surroundings. We should never listen to the people who said to us "you can´t" because we can, if we want to and have the willingness to pursue our dreams...I have a friend who is very dependent to her husband, who keep on saying "you can´t do this and that" and always calling her from work to ask her if she has done her washing and other household chores. I could not even talk to her in the phone without the voice of her husband interupting our conversation. The worst thing is, she listen to him. But what shall I do? She is a kind woman and I don´t want to lose her as a friend and she is contented with her life. For me, I´m thankful to God that I have a very understanding husband and always supportive to what I do...Thanks for sharing. Voted Up!

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from California

      FETTY.....Thank you so much for mentioning your experiences here. I'm so happy things worked out for you. I'm so sorry that some people can be so cruel and young people can be VERY sensitive and I can see by your first reaction, you were very upset. I'm so glad that someone else came in at that moment and told you how much you were worth. WE all need people who support us and believe in us. People who will stand up and tell us to our face how special we are. One of the best sayings my father always told me...nomatter what I was experiencing at that time.......

      "I'm always in your corner G." I always think of that whenever I have even the tiniest bit of doubt. Best, G

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      8 years ago from South Jersey

      My junior year in high school, my friends and associates saw me bawling my eyes out sitting on the deacons bench in front of the Guidance Counselor's office. A second year counselor just told me even though my grades were excellent I should not hope to go to college. My family just couldn't afford this expense. She wanted me to test for blue collar jobs. I remember feeling like the wind was just kicked out of my chest. I was extremely shy , so I was not known for outward displays of emotion. I also was well known for tutoring and checking my peers homework as soon as I got into homeroom. My bus arrived sooner than most and I always had a small group of pupils waiting for my help. My homeroom teachers were very proud of my efforts. An athlete , who was on his way to my English class asked me , "What's wrong?" But he was unable to hear my response between my gasping for breathes of air. My English teacher sent him directly back to get me. However, I was to report to her tiny office and not to class. My friend escorted me there. After she taught our class, she met me in a much calmer state. She then lit into me " To NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO EVER STEAL YOUR DREAMS". "NO ONE EVERY! PERIOD!" She admonished me, told me to stop bawling and she never wanted me to react like that ever again. When I graduated I received a fully paid scholarship to a state college and I earned my expenses which were books, transportation and later housing. ( By May, that new guidance counselor was not asked back to our school . I learned later, that my English teacher , also, visited her that very same day. But she delivered a much different opinion of my abilities. ) Everyone in our school received financial aid if they needed it . No student was ever turned away from reaching their goals. We also had brilliant students that received scholarships to every Ivy League College . They were asked to choose their school early and release the scholarship so someother worthy student could receive this aid, as well. Their awards were announced on graduation night and the college they chose was also announced. I will always remember my English teacher's lecture and her apparent disgust of my crying. She felt I was so much bigger and stronger that that. But at that moment, at the end of my junior year I was not. I loved that school and really received a top notch education there. We had the finest teachers during all the four years I attended. I came from 8 years in a small Catholic School and had huge adjustments to make entering a huge public high school. All of my teachers were there for me and all other students as well.


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