WILL YOU BE MY VALENTINE - Every Day
Love Should be every day!
I remember it well, the panic in the local mall with all those poor guys waiting in line for boxes of candy. They all looked miserable and I really wanted to snap a photo but I couldn't because I really felt sorry for them. The point is that it was last minute on the BIG candy and flower giving day (Valentines Day is about LOVE remember?) and these guys did not want to get the wrath from their women! (or men or whatever!) ha
So, I decided to write about this subject again. Just think if you put a penny in a jar every day it would eventually add up to a lot. I once heard about a man that put a penny in a jar every day for 50 years. It added up to enough that he could buy himself a nice car when he retired. Think about that. If you did a small gesture every day for your love, it would all add up and when it comes to Valentines Day, candy or flowers would just be a nice "extra" love gift. Not the end of all chances of "getting it perfect on that day." Honestly if that much pressure is on one day of the year, you have a HUGE chance of failing!
I learned many years ago that men and women speak different languages when it comes to love. So to realize when a man is doing something "special" at that moment for his love/partner, the words "love gift" were coined. So, whenever someone felt like they were doing something extra ordinary, they would announce that it was a "love gift." This way their partner would not think that they were doing more then the other. Women express their love in a much different way then men do. Sometimes they do not see when a man does something special unless it is given in gifts (flowers, candy, jewelry).
The Boys/Men I Have Loved....
Most of the boys/men that I have loved have gone way and beyond Valentines Day. My first love always wrote me adorable love letters and told me he loved me every single day. Sometimes he said it a lot and this made me feel really loved. If he didn't have money, he would try to do chores for his parents to take me out or give me something that meant a lot to him at the time. He made me feel loved every single day and this made me feel amazing! Candy, teddy bears and flowers were great but I don't know about you.....I would rather have love every day and not just a few times a year on Valentines Day or Christmas!
Other past loves have sent me cool postcards a few times a week, given me their football (American and UK) jersey to wear, sent me poetry books and more......Sometimes getting flowers for no reason is better then waiting for a holiday. It means that they are thinking of you and doing it because they want too. There are so many things you can do without trying to "impress" the one you love....
If the feelings are true, you will need less gifts from the person you love. The moments you have with that person will be much more important. Not just a bouquet of flowers and a box of candy. Go and buy your own flowers or some yummy truffles and enjoy them without expecting someone else to do it for you. Then you will not expect too much from someone who tries their best. Less arguments over stuff that really doesn't matter.
Watch a cool movie and make a nice dinner at home or at his place or yours. Or order in and then break out the treats later in the evening. Indulge together and make it about the relationship and not just about a Hallmark Holiday. If you know your love is having a hard time with finances, then flowers from a garden should be enough.
Enjoy the moments.........
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