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What is a grandchild?

Updated on September 12, 2015

Oh, there are so many smiles and miles to go!

By this age he was already a champion runner.
By this age he was already a champion runner. | Source
Music, dance, profession.....all those are ahead.
Music, dance, profession.....all those are ahead. | Source
Ball player, scientist, dad....only time will tell.
Ball player, scientist, dad....only time will tell. | Source
Family outings in the park, later outings with their own children and grandchildren.
Family outings in the park, later outings with their own children and grandchildren. | Source
Building the bonds of strong family support.
Building the bonds of strong family support. | Source
Growing up is serious, but not to the exclusion of fun.
Growing up is serious, but not to the exclusion of fun. | Source
School with teachers and friends, only family is more important to the process of growing up.
School with teachers and friends, only family is more important to the process of growing up. | Source
Holidays and parties get celebrated.
Holidays and parties get celebrated. | Source
Cousins and siblings are part of the ladder to adulthood and beyond.
Cousins and siblings are part of the ladder to adulthood and beyond. | Source
There is a special, loving role for grandparents.
There is a special, loving role for grandparents. | Source

What Is A Grandchild?

He was sleeping soundly.

He had just been born.

Passed gently to my wife, his grandmother,

he opened his eyes looking directly into hers and closed them again in sleep.

Was he checking to be sure he had arrived in the right family?

It was the thought that crossed my mind.

He had looked nowhere else, only into her eyes.

His eyes would look again at hers over the years.

They would look for love, approval, understanding.

His life is still unfolding, the elder youth, the only boy with five sisters.

He will be in college soon, looking into other eyes for the same things.

What is a grandchild?

Each one starts as a small human filled with immense imagined promise.

Along their paths are found cuts and bruises, tears, and laughter, triumphs, and failures.

Those are the pauses and hurdles, the mountains and green valleys of their mortality.

For their grandparents observing their lives unfold, each grandchild is seen in the foggy mirror of the grandparent's own life's lessons.

Correction, discipline, support, and nurturing love are their parents' job.

Love, approval, and acceptance are a sharing for the grandparents to give.


These days....

These days the path to adulthood can be a very troubled one.

The old saying used to be, "Too soon old, too late smart."

These days grandchildren seem expected to be "old" as teens.

Exposed to tobacco, alcohol, drugs, and sex before they are old enough to drive a car, but are thought old enough for the expanded "wisdoms" found in PG-13 movies, or anywhere on no limit websites.

Friends are still more important than at any other age, with the possible exception of old age.

Learning to choose those friends wisely is a lesson few grandchildren ask for.

Too often it is their own "trial and error" undertaking, too often with more tears than laughter.

Parents have just gone through such experiences.

Grandparents recall their own, and those of their children, a double dose.

They are anxious to save their grandchildren from needless tears, pain, and suffering.

Those special times when they are listened to are too precious to waste.

Mistakes they may have made in raising their own children, can become available wisdom useful in easing the safe progress of their grandchildren.

Their own example, above all else, teaches what busy parents may themselves still be mastering.

All bonds are only as strong as they are made.

Parents and grandparents are the architects of the children's structure of life.

They have the potential, more than anyone else, to help children fashion what they will be.










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© 2015 Demas W. Jasper All rights reserved.


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    • Perspycacious profile imageAUTHOR

      Demas W Jasper 

      4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      RTalloni - Any parent and grandparent can decide how to use the money and the TV, and keep an eye on the Internet usage. What will we recall of life here on Earth, if we have perfect recall in Heaven?

      teaches12345 - We grandparents know what was good before and what has been changed by now. With the new good, came some new bad. We can help our grandchildren distinguish between the two, and still be their "special buddies."

      aviannovice - There is probably still a lot you can learn about them from Ancestry.com . That site now allows for people to put in their memories of individuals, and you might find some about your grandparents.

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      Deb Hirt 

      4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      There is a very deep wisdom in what you have written. Your job perhaps, is the most structured of all, yet the most opportune in teaching the finer points of life. I wish I could have known my grandparents.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      4 years ago

      You've reminded me of what I enjoy about being a grandparent. It is such a blessing to be a part of their lives. Yes, they value their friends but grandparents are extra special buddies.

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      RTalloni 

      4 years ago

      Good slogan. Maybe we could just stop pouring our money into the entertainment world and use it to do things with the kids that are really profitable to them…

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      Demas W Jasper 

      4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Thanks for all the comments. We do expect a lot of our children and grandchildren. Indeed, let's let them enjoy being children, and find a way to "freeze the sleaze" that is so horribly prevalent in this age of "anything goes." Perhaps a bunch of candidates and supporters can rally around that "freeze the sleaze" slogan and clean up Hollywood at the same time they clean up Washington!

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      Audrey Howitt 

      4 years ago from California

      This really is a wonderful view on how much you love your grandchildren--beautifully rendered!

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      RTalloni 

      4 years ago

      A meaningful read--thank you. Grandparenting is such a wonderful privilege!

      Another old saying comes from the world of gardening and is applied to forcing adulthood on children in their early years is true but sad: Early bloom, early rot. Can we speak up loud enough against denying children the innocence of childhood? Must we thrust ugly, violent, and hateful sights and sounds on them? And isn't it amazing that it's being down out of one side of the mouth, so to speak, even as out of the other side questions about what's wrong with our children pour out of homes, churches, schools, and doctor's offices?!

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      You pushed all the right buttons to boost the grandparents' pride, also to emphasize the importance of the role they play. Thank you and the best of you and your wife and your beautiful grandchildren.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      4 years ago from Daytona Beach, Florida

      A heartwarming hub. Love the pictures. Our grandchild just celebrated her first birthday. Cannot believe that Monika can already be one. It's too bad that my hubby's son and family live in the U.K. You are lucky you get time to spend with your grandchildren. Bless you all.

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      Denise McGill 

      4 years ago from Fresno CA

      Really precious reflection. I too, am a grandmother of 9. When my grandson, the eldest, realized that I was his mother's mother, he went to me in earnest and asked me to MAKE her let him do something. I was so amused and sorry I can't do that anymore. Mine are into soccer too. Although the most recent one is only 2 months old and hasn't decided on any sport except the wet-diaper-marathon. She's winning.

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      Demas W Jasper 

      4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Oh, we grandparents have it so good that most of us agree that "had I known how great grandchildren are, I would have had them first!"

      Enjoy another football weekend. While I played five years of football, I am reasonably content that, so far, none of my grandchildren have. They prefer soccer, track, cross country, and baseball. The latter three I also did, but wish now that I had also played soccer.

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      Lisa VanVorst 

      4 years ago from New Jersey

      What a wonderful hub. I too am a grandmother of three beautiful granddaughters age 13, 6 and 3. Yes we are the architects as are their parents. Although being a grandmother is share joy and fun, with it comes guidance in a destructible world of drugs, alcohol and sex as you mentioned. I really enjoyed the pictures and the story you told from first becoming a grandfather and your wife a grandmother to your grandchildren becoming adults as well. Thank you for sharing.

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