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What is a grandchild?
Oh, there are so many smiles and miles to go!
What Is A Grandchild?
He was sleeping soundly.
He had just been born.
Passed gently to my wife, his grandmother,
he opened his eyes looking directly into hers and closed them again in sleep.
Was he checking to be sure he had arrived in the right family?
It was the thought that crossed my mind.
He had looked nowhere else, only into her eyes.
His eyes would look again at hers over the years.
They would look for love, approval, understanding.
His life is still unfolding, the elder youth, the only boy with five sisters.
He will be in college soon, looking into other eyes for the same things.
What is a grandchild?
Each one starts as a small human filled with immense imagined promise.
Along their paths are found cuts and bruises, tears, and laughter, triumphs, and failures.
Those are the pauses and hurdles, the mountains and green valleys of their mortality.
For their grandparents observing their lives unfold, each grandchild is seen in the foggy mirror of the grandparent's own life's lessons.
Correction, discipline, support, and nurturing love are their parents' job.
Love, approval, and acceptance are a sharing for the grandparents to give.
These days the path to adulthood can be a very troubled one.
The old saying used to be, "Too soon old, too late smart."
These days grandchildren seem expected to be "old" as teens.
Exposed to tobacco, alcohol, drugs, and sex before they are old enough to drive a car, but are thought old enough for the expanded "wisdoms" found in PG-13 movies, or anywhere on no limit websites.
Friends are still more important than at any other age, with the possible exception of old age.
Learning to choose those friends wisely is a lesson few grandchildren ask for.
Too often it is their own "trial and error" undertaking, too often with more tears than laughter.
Parents have just gone through such experiences.
Grandparents recall their own, and those of their children, a double dose.
They are anxious to save their grandchildren from needless tears, pain, and suffering.
Those special times when they are listened to are too precious to waste.
Mistakes they may have made in raising their own children, can become available wisdom useful in easing the safe progress of their grandchildren.
Their own example, above all else, teaches what busy parents may themselves still be mastering.
All bonds are only as strong as they are made.
Parents and grandparents are the architects of the children's structure of life.
They have the potential, more than anyone else, to help children fashion what they will be.
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