What Lies Beneath a Woman's Heart? A Poem and Prose on Discernment.
One of the hardest lessons I learned in life happened to be one of the best blessings I ever received; and that is, discerning the heart. Many people may feel that you cannot tell what lies in the heart of another person and truthfully you can't. You can, however, receive insight to the motive of others if you look deeper than the words that come out of their mouth.
Many years ago I was fervently praying for something I wanted. One day after praying, I was watching one of those reality television shows, and the women were fighting and throwing drinks and the word "ratchet" came in my heart. Unfortunately, those words didn't come alone and other words followed. Words that described the deceitfulness and treachery that comes from deep within the heart.
What was so powerful about the words were they appeared to be addressing the motive behind the carefully, chosen words, I chose to use and not the words themselves. This loving rebuke taught me a valuable lesson that turned into a blessing: "You can impress people with words but you can only impress God with your heart.
Prose: The meaning behind this poem.
I've had the most fun with this poem. When I wrote it, I first read it to men and oh, I wish you could have seen the applause and appreciation I got from them. I was applauded for my insight-fullness especially since I'm a woman. Every man who read this poem thrilled me with all their stories of treacherous women in their lives, past or present.
Then I read the story to women. I almost got slapped, cursed out, got the cold shoulder, and one of my dear aunts confided to me that women only become treacherous after dealing with cold-hearted men. I was seen as a traitor to the women race!
I absolutely loved the controversy this poem has caused after all, (I'm such a little stinker) But before I lose all my female followers, although I might have gained a few men, I have to explain the meaning behind the poem.
The Heart Of a Woman
The heart of a woman can be treacherous indeed...
Her words drip with honey, her mind is full of schemes...
Her ways are devilish and oh, so selfish...
Yes, even at her best, she's a conniver no less...
She's bitter as wormwood, or so this may seem...
Yes, the heart of a woman can be treacherous indeed...
Breaking the Poem Down Into Understanding.
The poem is about "motives" and because I am a woman the poem is about the heart of a woman, which is probably my heart. This makes sense because I do not know what lies beneath the heart of a man in that case I can only speculate. However, because I am a woman I can speak on what lies in my own heart:
Lets examine these words and break them down:
The heart of a woman can be treacherous indeed:
We all know that evil lurks in the heart of everyone. We are all capable of being good and bad.
Her words drip with honey, her mind is full of schemes:
Sweet words drip from our lips because we've learned to tell people what they want to heart while our true motives are hidden in our heart.
Her ways are devilish and oh, so selfish:
Let's be honest, most of us won't do anything without a self-fulfilling motive meaning, we expect a return on all of our investments.
Yes, even at her best she's a conniver no less:
The best way to understand this is "manipulative" constantly finding ways to have things flow our way, which doesn't feel conniving but actually feels natural.
She's bitter as wormwood or, though this may seem:
This line that came from my own heart baffled even me. We are chameleons and we are able to change or, adapt to any situation, this is because we know that "man" judges by outward appearances but only God can see our heart; so, a person may not always be what they appear to be.
Yes, the heart of a woman can be treacherous indeed:
Discerning the Heart.
The poem is not so much about a woman with a treacherous heart, but about treachery in the heart of us all. When I began to understand discernment, I was led to the scripture in Romans 3:10-31.
We label others by what we perceive as being bad or good. The truth is we are all capable of being both. Even a murderer is capable of doing good deeds, and a holy-filled, sanctified person, is capable of doing bad.
Discernment has a purpose. It teaches us to not be flattered by sweet words. To not be impressed with every action. We are not always able to discern the motives of others, but God discerns all things because He searches the heart.
Discernment also helps with understanding ourselves and others. In order to understand others and human nature, we must understand ourselves and be honest about what we are capable of doing under certain circumstances.
We constantly build celebrities up only to become disappointed when we find out they're no better than us. I was famous for looking up to people who I thought were better, only to be disappointed when they didn't live up to the pedestal I put them on. We look for people to idolize because we want a standard to strive for, but we cannot find that perfection in people it only exists in God.
Are Your Motives Pure?
This poem was most likely watered by seeds planted from my heavy meditation on proverbs and psalms. Most of my work, which I call my fruit, are biblical inspired. And although this is a fun read and I can honestly say I have had the most fun with it, there is a message that lies beneath. A wise person considers before they speak. The same mouth that will uplift and speak life to the spirit can also tear down and injure the soul. Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it springs the issues of life. Know that we serve a God who knows all, sees all and is all. For man may judge by outward appearance but God judges the heart.
Based on this poem how would you evaluate your heart?
How would you rate your heart?
© 2014 Dana Tate