ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Books, Literature, and Writing»
  • Poems & Poetry

The Heartbreak of Verbal Abuse ~ A Poem

Updated on November 16, 2015
Faith Reaper profile image

When Theresa writes poetry, the inspiration comes from her or her family's true life experiences, which results in dramatic poetry.

Sad eye with tear
Sad eye with tear | Source

Song of Solomon 4:7


All beautiful you are, my darling, there is no flaw in you."




God sees you as a masterpiece, as you are made in His image!


Dedicated to all the Beautiful Women in the World, Who Have Been Told Otherwise


You gave him your heart at a very young age

Now, from jaded eyes, sadness emanates

Grapples, does your scarred mind with its

Constant companion . . .

The unanswered question of WHY, penetrates


Remembering back to the days of your youth

Running into the arms of your future full of hope

Oh, yes, he was the answer to all of your dreams

Dejected, now each day you are attempting to cope


This day will be no different than any other day

You just knew he was the one who could set your heart free

Yet through it all, your heart remains loving and tender

Despite, hidden deep within, a desire to one day just flee


Striving ever harder in an attempt to please

In hopes of dispelling the harshness of such vile speech

Still nothing you could ever do will make him happy

As the words attach to your soul like a blood-sucking leech


Held hostage by his words which are so demeaning

Despondent, your heart conflicts with what your mind knows so well

While he is enjoying every minute of your life full of torment

Forlorn, you will rise yet again to another day of pure living hell


Working tirelessly to help provide for your family

At times when your face may reflect just a little hint of joy

This day is no different than any other day

Soon, at you, he spews words that kill and destroy


Sacrificing for your children, whom you do so adore

Still devoted are you, a faithful mother and wife

And through all of this, your heart remains loving

Surviving this dismal existence full of unrelenting strife


Despite all, your heart attempts to continue to sing

So what, you wonder, is the reason behind such disdain?

Your loving heart aches each and every waking moment

Why must he cause you a lifetime of pain?


You are so very strong to have held on this long

It is past time to rise above this and set your heart free

Echoing, endless echoing, are his choice of words to wound

Revelation . . . this is not living life, nor who you are meant to be


Once unveiled eyes reveal this is anything but love

Daring to escape and the hope it creates

You gave him your heart at a very young age

Now, from jaded eyes, sadness emanates


POLL

Have you, a family member or someone you know ever experienced verbal or physical abuse?

See results

Scripture on the Tongue



An evil man is trapped by his sinful talk, but a righteous man escapes trouble. Proverbs 12:13



From the fruit of his lips a man enjoys good things, but the unfaithful have a craving for violence. Proverbs 13:2

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Statistics

* One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.

* An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.

* 85% of domestic violence victims are women.

*Historically, females have been most often victimized by someone they knew.

* Females who are 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk of nonfatal intimate partner violence.

* Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.

Reference: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

A Glimpse of the Love of God . . .



Beloved One,



My love for you is totally safe



My love is free for the taking



My love is overflowing in abundance



My love for you may be taken without question



My love does not diminish in its taste



My love is pure and will never sour



My love for you produces no ill effects



My love has healing properties



My love gives you strength



My love for you is pure joy



My love exhilarates the soul



My love, you are . . . my love




Love God

Beautiful Quotes of Truth from Scripture


I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, You're wonderful, I know that full well.

Psalm 139:14


For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart."

Proverbs 18:21


God Can Change the Hearts of Men


I just wanted to tell you all you're beautiful and that I love you,


and that no matter who you are, what you do, no matter what you believe


and no matter what you have done, God loves you too.


I love to pray daily for myself Psalm 51: 10-12,


Create in me a clean heart, O' God; and renew a right spirit within me. Take not your Holy Spirit from me, but restore unto me, the joy of your salvation to sustain me."



© Copyright Faith Reaper January 29, 2013 (All rights reserved)

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, darling and beautiful Missy,

      Thank you for sharing here to add much to the topic of this poem. You are a courageous and beautiful survivor, who deserves to be respected for the lovely woman you are. I am so glad you said "was" as in past tense. Yes, it seems those silver-tongued devils zoom in on the very young girls and attempt to dominant their spirit.

      I am sorry about the seven years of living hell you had to endure, but I am glad you have become free and who you are meant to be in this life. I am glad you prayed for He hears and He answers. Never believe the lies.

      I am happy you found this inspirational and helpful.

      Hugs and much happiness to you in this life ---You are beautiful, always remember!

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, my goodness, Audrey,

      Your comment has blown me away! I am so humbled you think so, especially being the brilliant and gifted true poet you are ...so thank you from the bottom of my heart. This one means a lot to me.

      Hugs

    • Missy Smith profile image

      Missy Smith 2 years ago from Florida

      Hey Faith, this poem describes my first long relationship I ever had perfectly. I was a 17-year-old naive girl who fell for a silver tongue devil that was nine years older than I.

      When I turned 18, I moved out of my family home and in with him, and it was seven years of hell. There were years I remember thinking I was never getting out of this misery.

      I cannot describe the verbal lashings I received, not only behind closed doors, but in front of family, friends, and even strangers. I still remember the pity they had in their eyes for me. It makes you feel so lost.

      This was a great poem with many important things added, such as, all the bible quotes. When I finally got out, I was completely destroyed, all I could do was pray and believe God would bring me back to life. I was so dead inside and out.

      Great work with lots of inspiration and helpful information. :)

    • AudreyHowitt profile image

      Audrey Howitt 2 years ago from California

      Dear Faith--this remains one of the most moving poems I have read here at HP--

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Vellur,

      Thank you so much for reading and I appreciate your kind comment. It is an important message which unfortunately must be shared.

      God bless.

    • Vellur profile image

      Nithya Venkat 3 years ago from Dubai

      Great poem with an important message, very well expressed.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi deergha,

      So great to see you stopping by to read! Thank you for your most generous comments.

      I appreciate the vote up and more and share

      Hugs

    • dghbrh profile image

      deergha 3 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

      A very heartfelt work dear Faith. Loved reading it. Very strong and much needed massage indeed. Take care and keep up the good work. Many smiles your way my friend.

      Votes way up and shared across.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Aw, Patricia! I cannot even bear the thought of you having to go through such in this life dear one ... and thrilled at the same time you have escaped such torment! I can see you doing such and being there for those who are suffering. I am sorry one of your dearest friends has also had to go through something like this and glad once again to know she found her way back to who she truly is in this life!

      Thank you for sharing here, which adds so much to the topic of this hub to bring awareness and to give hope that even after having been through such an ordeal.

      Angels and much love to you and your lovely friend. I sure do miss you and your amazing hubs.

      Always remember just how very beautiful you are ... VERY.

      Hugs and much love,

      Faith Reaper

    • pstraubie48 profile image

      Patricia Scott 3 years ago from sunny Florida

      Dear Sweet Faith

      The passion and conviction with which you speak for so many has moved me to tears.

      Having escaped such an experience personally, I have been the shoulder for a number of those who fought to escape this tortured life. I am passing this along to one of my dearest friends who has just found her way back to herself.

      Angels and hugs and hi and all to you...I miss you...love ps

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello WiccanSage,

      Thank you for reading on this painful topic. I am glad you found the poem to be moving, and I do hope that by bringing more awareness will move hearts to escape, change or do something to reach out to others who need someone, even just to listen.

      Blessings

    • WiccanSage profile image

      Mackenzie Sage Wright 3 years ago

      Very touching; such a painful subject, and this poem is very moving. Thanks for sharing your work.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Cresentmoon,

      Thank you so much for reading. I am sorry I did not see your comment until now. It just noticed the up arrow, but no comments showing. HP asked if you were spam, so I said no.

      I am so sorry about the many members of your family experiencing such. Yes, many times long after the abuse, it still holds a powerful grip on many it seems. It is always so wonderful when someone breaks free from that terrible cycle of pain and existence.

      I do hope this hub helps at least one person somewhere who reads.

      Blessings.

    • Cresentmoon2007 profile image

      Cresentmoon2007 3 years ago from Caledonia, MI

      This hub has a clear message about verbal abuse as well as other forms abuse can come in. There are many members in my family who have experienced abuse from the people they should have been able to love and trust. Some of us I call survivors. Others I still believe are under the power of a person who abused them who is well gone, his life no longer with us. Keep in mind that abuse can come from women as well... my uncle was abused by an ex gf for many years. I love this hub. It has a great message to share.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Mary rite,

      Thank you for reading. Welcome to HubPages and hope you will soon have some hubs to read! There are many, actually hundreds, maybe even thousands of writers here on HP and I hope you read others' wonderful work too.

      Blessings,

      Faith Reaper

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Thank you for sharing and your insight, dear Flourish.

      You are so right, we just never really know. I have a very close family member who went through this and we never knew a thing and thought her husband to be "Mr. Wonderful" but she is free now.

      I do hope that women or men who are going through such, are brave enough to tell someone and get out as quickly as possible for their life and those around them are in danger.

      Blessings

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Jamie,

      Thank you for sharing your experiences, especially from the aspect of a man, no matter, male or female, abuse in any way, shape or form is so wrong and breaks my heart whenever I hear of such.

      I love the person you are, beautiful and of high value, no matter what you were told back when you were growing up. I think you sharing here will help to bring awareness too, and that there is hope for all who have endured such in this life! You are brave, strong and beautiful.

      Hugs and much love,

      Faith Reaper

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Aw, dear Crafty,

      I am so sorry you had experienced such with your first husband. And thrilled to hear you are married to a wonderful man now.

      It is a sad reality for far too many women indeed.

      Hugs and blessings

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Thank you, Audrey, for your comment. These situatios are truly heartrending indeed.

      Blessings

    • FlourishAnyway profile image

      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      We have no idea how much abuse happens. A friend of my daughter's exists in a family where the mother is abused by the father. On the outside she is extra outgoing and you may never know it. The effects of abuse are showing up in the daughter's behavioral problems and acting out at school. We have no idea.

    • jhamann profile image

      Jamie Lee Hamann 3 years ago from Reno NV

      I am not a female and have not been in a relationship of abuse as an adult. But I grew up around viciousness and hate, screaming and torment, and even though I survived and I am the person I am today I feel like my heart was broken a million times at a very young age. Thank you for writing this, your message is very important. Jamie

    • CraftytotheCore profile image

      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      I was mentally and emotionally abused by my first husband. Fortunately, I've always had faith and turned to it when times became too much to bear. I am married to a wonderful man now, but I know all too well the struggles women face in abusive relationships.

    • AudreyHowitt profile image

      Audrey Howitt 3 years ago from California

      Just a heart wrenching write!

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi lyric!

      Well, my goodness, dearest lyric, I have been dropping the ball on seeing my comments! Please forgive me for just now coming across this comment here.

      Thank you so much for your most kind and generous comments as always dear friend.

      Yes, the stats are so sad indeed, far too many women are finding themselves in these types of scenarios. That is a wonderful thought for this article to possibly even help one person would be awesome.

      I appreciate the votes up and share. You're the best!

      God bless you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

    • thelyricwriter profile image

      Richard Ricky Hale 4 years ago from West Virginia

      Faith, very inspirational article to women. Wow, I can't believe those stats, it's truly sad. Women have come a long way and they've worked hard to get there. You could be a speaker Faith, your words ALWAYS touch the heart, you have a very special gift my dear friend. Beautiful poetry and inspirational words. Voted up, useful, awesome, interesting, beautiful, and shared on FB and Twitter.

      I hope this article reaches many more women because women are still treated as the weaker sex and it's not right. Equal rights for all women.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Romeos,

      So happy to see you here reading and leaving your very insightful comments and sharing a bit too. I am sorry about your dear mother, as it does take hold of one's mind and changes people no doubt about it, unless they are able to break free.

      I appreciate your understanding of my poem and generous comments left here this night.

      Well, as far as being overworked, yes, that has not slacked up any, but such is life. I was just about to publish another hub believe it or not, actually was able to write a bit.

      I know I may have missed some of your amazing poetry, so I shall be coming your way soon.

      I appreciate you sharing.

      Bless you, Faith Reaper

    • Romeos Quill profile image

      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      This was a wonderful Hub article, dearest Faith Reaper; I understand where you're coming from, as my own mother was married to a devil for over forty years which turned her into a cold woman, which she has never quite recovered from since, so you can imagine what life was like growing up in that household, but I guess that this is one of the extremes that can happen when being yoked with an unbeliever who thought he was God.

      Your verse is so forthright, honest, and cuts right to the quick of what I'm sure a lot of unhappily married women feel, and you have poignantly expressed such deep emotions beautifully.You have a wonderful gift of empathy, and I trust that life is treating you well, and you are not overworking too much :) Sharing.

      Take care;

      With Warmest Regards,

      R.Q.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Shona Venter,

      Thank you so much for your visit here this day. I appreciate the voted up.

      Nice to meet you.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

    • Shona Venter profile image

      Shona Venter 4 years ago from South Africa

      Inspiring words for those who have been through abuse of some type or another. Voted up :-)

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Laurinazo,

      I have missed you! So glad you are here now though. Hope you are back writing too.

      Thank you so much for the kind comment.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

    • Laurinzo Scott profile image

      Live To Write 4 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Very worthwhile article, worth reading a few times ...thanks Faith

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest PS!

      Just now able to get on here to try to catch up a bit, after my granddaughters just left to go back home about an hour ago.

      Well, I am always so very glad when you stop by to read at any time dearest friend! God bless you for sharing of such, and praise Him for the wonderful man you now have in your life, for you deserve the best this life has to offer!

      Hugs and Angels to you from southern USA and many blessing too,

      Faith Reaper

    • pstraubie48 profile image

      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      I don't know how I missed this. Faith, this is so powerful. My first husband made me feel less than worthy. I was never just right. Never exactly what he was looking for. It wore on me for years and finally he left after nine years. And it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me because I found a most remarkable man who made me feel again and to believe in myself once again.

      thank you for sharing this.Angels and hugs and blessings are on the way ps

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Sparklea!

      I just love seeing your lovely, smiling face pop in, and I know I most likely say that every time you do pop in, but it is true!

      You have made a great point here about the one abusing and that they are suffering from low self esteem, and you have hit the nail on the head with your comment. Exactly, they are existing.

      You have such a loving heart for all others, so I am not surprised that your heart aches so for the victims . . . me too.

      Thank you for that great scripture there precious heart.

      Blessings always to you too,

      Faith Reaper

    • Sparklea profile image

      Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York

      Faith, voted up, useful and awesome. It is hard to believe there are such cruel people in this world.

      'while he is enjoying every minute of your life filled with torment' shattered me...to think someone would be happy to make another person suffer so from WORDS.

      But they do exist...and that is the correct word! People who treat others this way are not living...they are existing with low self esteem and doing their best to raise themselves up by putting others down.

      I don't know why good people marry bad people. I see it all the time...A wonderful husband or wife who is treated so bad by his/her spouse.

      FORGIVE me for being so judgmental, but my heart just aches for these victims. SO VERY GLAD to see freedom reign for this person.

      This hub is truly needed to awaken others and, hopefully encourage any who are going through this to, as the Bible states, "shake the dust off your feet and go on to another city." Blessings always, Sparklea

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Kim (ocfireflies),

      So nice to see you here this day as always!

      Oh, sweetest Kim, I am so sorry that you have experienced such. That pangs my heart to know, as you are such a beautiful and precious person.

      I am glad my poem touched you and I appreciate you sharing about yourself here, which adds much insight to the subject matter of this hub.

      Healing can indeed take a very long time, precious heart.

      I appreciate the votes up.

      Gentle hugs to you this day, Faith Reaper

    • ocfireflies profile image

      ocfireflies 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Faith,

      This piece touches me on so many levels. I know what it is like to be that woman you describe in your poem. And I also know that even when you physically remove yourself, the emotional damage can linger for a very long time. I appreciate how you offer hope and affirmation.

      Voted Up and Beautiful!

      Best Always,

      Kim

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi dreamseeker2,

      Yes, it does sum it all up.

      I am so glad you were able to break free from such a situation! That makes me smile here this day. Thank you for sharing.

      I appreciate the votes up.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

    • profile image

      dreamseeker2 4 years ago

      I like what the first person who commented said. Something to the effect, 'do not let other dictate who you are'. It kind of sums it all up. Only you know who you truly are and what's within your heart. You and your maker. Good, yet sad words of truth for so many going through it.

      I use to relate to it first hand, but was able to get out of my situation over time...voted it up and beautiful!

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello joym7,

      So nice to meet you. Thank you so much for stopping by to read and leave a lovely comment.

      I love that video by MercyMe, a Christian band.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

    • joym7 profile image

      Joy 4 years ago from United States

      after reading this I could remember MERCY poem. Beautiful touchy poem.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dearest of the precious hearts, Cat,

      I am so humbled by your words, and I am sorry to just now be getting back to you for leaving such a wonderful comment, as it was so late, I went on to bed :)

      I believe I am an hour ahead of you there.

      Thank you precious heart, and I always do pray that if just one person is helped by this, then I was meant to write it, and the Lord will use it to glorify Him and not me.

      (HUGS and more HUGS))), Faith Reaper

    • Cantuhearmescream profile image

      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      My hand in over my mouth and the tears are streaming down my face. You have no idea how much your words mean to me... it is almost awkward to hear someone say such honest, loving words. Thank you so much! You are surely a role model to all and I know that those you touch, think the world of you and I certainly understand why. You are such a beautiful woman with an equally beautiful soul. Thank you, again. You've made my evening... and probably week :D

      Thank you and big hugs to you, you are a lifesaver and I'm blessed to know you, Cat

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, Cat,

      Thank you for sharing your story here. It has blessed me so much this day, knowing that you are free from such and that you are such a loving and positive role model for your precious children.

      This type of scenario happens to all persons from all walks of life, the highly educated and most intelligent, beautiful women, such as yourself can get trapped into this type of thinking when they are told of such day in and day out! You are beautiful and I hope you always remember that, especially that you are of very high value, more valuable than any of the rarest gems on this planet. Just remember to see yourself as He see you, and how much He loves you.

      I, too, kept seeing your wonderful comments on those I follow, and I thought, well, I must pay her a visit!!!

      Special hugs and love to you precious heart and beautiful one, Faith Reaper

    • Cantuhearmescream profile image

      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Faith Reaper,

      I'm glad I finally made it to your pages! I've seen you around for a long time (don't tell anyone else, but I've been too intimidated to come over; something about beautiful, intelligent women do it? :-)

      Honestly, I am almost grateful in a weird way, that I have been in an ugly relationship because I've realized how much damage it can do to a person's self-esteem and emotional and psychological well-being. Now, my goal is to give my kids the strength that someone must've forgotten to give me and so, left vulnerable. I strive, every day, to help build my children's sense of worth because there are ugly people out there and I wan't my children to recognize them. I think one of the biggest problems is when someone has a compromised self-esteem, it is easy to find truth in what others say. I can personally say that I started believing the demeaning things that were said to me and I assumed that someone would only say such things if there were truth behind it. That was wrong and I was wrong, but now I know. I think that's a big reason why, despite how obvious it seems to an outsider, someone living in abuse doesn't understand that they are better than that and even if they catch glimpses, they don't feel they are strong enough to walk away from someone who has been so powerful for so long. This is just wonderful and I have it pinned. I'm hoping the right person sees it and it goes viral :D

      There is no doubt in my mind; this has already helped people.

      Thank you so much and God bless you, you are certainly special! Hugs and love, Cat

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Cat,

      So glad for your visit here this day! Thank you so much for the heartfelt comments. It does break my heart to no end, especially when you have family who have suffered through such an ordeal.

      I praise God for those who are brave enough to finally leave, as anything is better than staying. Once they understand that fact, then they are able to break free! However, the statistics are so very disturbing as most return to their abusers and wind up dead eventually.

      I appreciate the votes up and share.

      God bless you precious heart. Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

    • Cantuhearmescream profile image

      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Faith Reaper,

      Forgive me if I am guilty of any typos, but I'm having a heard time seeing through my terribly tearful eyes! This just has to be one of the most beautiful things I've ever read! I wish I would've read this a long time ago. The problem with abuse of any kind is the victim starts believing they're worthy of it and it is a very lonely place to be. This is so empowering and I am so moved how you reached out like this for others. There is just too much beauty here to list and the songs... oh my goodness, let the tears flow!

      Up, awesome, beautiful, interesting and useful! This is a "must share"

      Cat

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi suzzette,

      Thank you so much for your kind words. You're the best! That is certainly a disturbing percentage!

      I can see you being a loving and kind person to all you come into contact with no doubt.

      Verbal, physical or any kind of abuse is just wrong. Those who are in such situations, especially adults should get out as soon as possible.

      My heart breaks for children in abusive situations, as they cannot stand up for themselves. I pray they tell someone, anyone in authority!

      God bless, Faith Reaper

    • suzettenaples profile image

      Suzette Walker 4 years ago from Taos, NM

      Faith: This is a beautiful hub and so necessary in this world today. Why we are so mean and heartless and abusive to one another I don't understand. Your poll shocked me. 45% of the people answering have been abused at one time or another. What an awful percentage! I taught for eleven years in an inner city school and I know the horrible messages some of these kids get at home and then come to school so depressed because they think they will never amount to anything. It breaks my heart. Sometimes, I was the first person in their life to tell them they were worthy and wonderful. I am amazed at how cruel some parents are to their own children. I am so glad you wrote this hub - you are so caring and thoughtful and there are many that need to hear your message! Bless you!

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, Deaerst deergha,

      Thank you so much for the very kind words, and I am so sorry you had to experience such dear heart. It pains my heart to think of you going through something such as this. I praise God you are okay now! You are beautiful and loved, please know.

      Hugs and love, Faith Reaper

    • dghbrh profile image

      deergha 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

      A very profound work direct from heart. Everything here can be related so well by so many as it is so obvious from the comments overflow here. I am also one of them sure. Very nice poem dear Faith. All votes up and shared as well. God bless you always and take care. I hope you enjoy a very nice weekend ahead.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello viveresprando,

      Nice to meet you, and thanks for stopping by to read! You are so right, it CAN be done. I appreciate your great comments to add much to the subject of this hub here. It is a sad reality far too much in this life for many.

      God bless, Faith Reaper

    • viveresperando profile image

      viveresperando 4 years ago from A Place Where Nothing Is Real

      So much emotion and heartbreak. Sometimes we feel trapped by our emotions and bound by our love for someone who breaks us down everyday. Once in this position it is a struggle to break free, but it can be done.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Michael Beskalis,

      Wow, thank you for such a most amazing and beautiful comment here. I am so humbled by your kind words. If there was a button to push for most amazing comment, I would here. Thank you for your concerned and caring heart, which is evident. Also, thanks for the interesting stats too, and you are right, it is most likely so much higher this day than back at that time, unfortunately.

      I appreciate your wonderful comment which adds much to the subject of this hub. Will have to check our your writing, as you write so beautifully in a comment!

      God bless you. In His Love Always, Faith Reaper

    • Michael Beskalis profile image

      Michael Beskalis 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Well...wow. you've taken the story of too many unfortunate women and penned the tragedy beautifully. It breaks my heart to know that every night by the time we get into our beds to sleep at least 200 women and children are beaten to death here in the US. and the stat is old. God knows how many more today. May their tears bend the gates of heaven and leave puddles at His throne. May He surround them with His mightiest angels and comfort them with peace and grace and overwhelm them with wisdom to find a way out. Thank you so much for writing this! And don't stop writing. You indeed have a gift. Use it and keep being the voice to those who can't afford to speak.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hello SiberianWolf,

      Nice you are here stopping by to read. Yes, sadly, too many can relate, as you have stated, very sad indeed. Wow, I am so very humbled by your lovely comments.

      Much love and respect back to you, Faith Reaper

    • SiberianWolf profile image

      Eric T. Shortridge 4 years ago from MidWest

      Very powerful... I can tell from the comments that many can relate... sadly to say... a formidable pen you wield my friend... Much love and respect

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Ryem,

      Thanks so much for stopping by to read. I appreciate your kind words and, yes, a lot really do suffer in silence. My prayer and hope is that if one person is helped, even the smallest of ways, then it has served its purpose.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Ryem profile image

      Ryem 4 years ago from Maryland

      Faith, this hub is so beautiful. A lot of people suffer in silence and I'm sure your words helped some of them.....it's a great thing.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, God bless you dearest girishpuri.

      Thank you for reading dear heart.

      Have a lovely weekend.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • girishpuri profile image

      Girish puri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      I can't say much, there are tears in my eyes.. God bless you, Faith

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dearest Minnetonka Twin (Linda),

      Thank you dear heart, and God bless your beautiful sister for getting out of the abusive marriage. I am so glad God revealed how beautiful she is no matter what her husband told her.

      Your poem is amazing and I wanted to share it here too, and thank you for writing such a powerful poem and sharing.

      May God's peace and love wash down over you and your sister.

      God bless you always. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Minnetonka Twin profile image

      Linda Rogers 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Dearest Faith-your poem is heart-breaking and evokes such emotion in me. As you know, my sister was married for thirteen years to a very abusive man. Thankfully, my sister's beautiful spirit returned eventually. Your words of comfort from our Dear Lord really touched me and gave me hope after reading about the abuse. Thanks for educating others that may be involved in an abusive relationship and for reminding us all we are all perfect in his eyes. God Bless my sister in Christ.

      P.S.-thank you for putting a link of my poem here.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dim,

      Wow, thanks so much for the great comments here. I am so humbled, especially coming from you, an amazing poet and writer. This kind of abuse is everywhere and when I see it first-and in someone's life I love personally, it just breaks my heart to no end to know of its devastating effects overall.

      I appreciate the vote up and share.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Dim Flaxenwick profile image

      Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain

      Absolutely amazing poetry. So beautifully written yet baring all about the horrors of living with abuse.

      You did some wonderful work here.

      Voted up and sharing.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Icbenefield,

      I appreciate your visit here. Thanks so much for your lovely comments.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • lcbenefield profile image

      lcbenefield 4 years ago from Georgia

      Faith, Thanks for shaing such a beautiful work. I appreciate the Scripture you have chose to go with the poetry. This is such a needed message for so many people.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi DDE,

      Thanks for reading and I appreciate your insightful comment.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • DDE profile image

      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Giving your heart to someone you love from a young age that is so true you have expressed something here which is often overlooked.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi lovedoctor (sweet Marlene),

      I am so happy to see you here reading! I appreciate your most wise words written here. Yes, there are for sure red flags to warn one early on, as you have stated no doubt. Women must learn to heed such warning signs. I normally can spot them immediately, and with me, being a woman, that intuition just naturally kicks in, thank goodness. I have seen this first-hand with people in my life who I love dearly . . . the small putdowns, then laughing and joking afterwards, then I just know . . . a sad reality for so many, unfortunately.

      You are so very welcome, and it is always my pleasure to make note of one who is such a sweet friend to another. Debbie is the best too without a doubt! I really enjoyed Debbie's interview and was glad to get to know her sweet friend,YOU, even better.

      God Bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi kj force,

      So glad for your visit here this day. Wow, thanks for the insightful comments here, and you are so very right.

      I will most certainly will have to join you in your "weed garden!"

      Hugs and blesssings, Faith Reaper

    • profile image

      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Hi Faith, My heart goes out to those women who have gone through this situation. It's a terrible position to be in. Verbal abuse can leave permanent scars that can last for a lifetime. Women need to pay attention to the red flag warnings before getting involved with someone. Those signs are there for a reason. Verbal abuse are often sugarcoated truths. It is often in the form of a put down or joke followed by a just kidding or laughing out loud. A very good hub with a powerful message. Faith, thank you for the nice compliment and kind words you posted about me on debbie's hub the sweet marlene. much appreciated. God Bless.

    • kj force profile image

      kjforce 4 years ago from Florida

      Faith Reaper..How we feel about ourselves starts as children..sometimes adults do not realize the damage that they can do very often by their words to a child..and as we grow, the emotions are reflected in our relationship with others. I write about the

      " WEEDS " of life..which is a metaphor for the " survivors " of life in all phases...

      Hope you will all join me in my " weed garden "...loved your words..thanks for sharing your thoughts...

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi ignugent!

      Yes, it is very hard to look at the reality of this sometimes brutal life. Yes, sacrifice is the perfect word here, much sacrifice . . . it is very disturbing to know of those going through such.

      I appreciate your keen insight into the poem in your comments.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • profile image

      ignugent17 4 years ago

      Sometimes I try not to look at the reality of life. Your poem really tells us the pain a person feels in sacrificing for others.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi teaches,

      So great to see you here reading! Thanks so much for reading and I appreciate your wonderful comments. Yes, they are all more valuable and beautiful than what they have been told no doubt!

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • teaches12345 profile image

      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I have met a few women and know some that have been abused. Words hurt more than the physical at times. Your words will comfort many out there who need to hear they are so much more valuable than what they were told. This post reminds me of the song Britt Nicole sings "More Than Gold".

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi LadyFiddler,

      Thanks so much, and you do as well.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • LadyFiddler profile image

      Joanna Chandler 4 years ago from On planet Earth

      No probs have a good weekend

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Rolly,

      So glad for your visit here. I appreciate the great comments and, yes, that is a beautiful thing to see a survivor blossom into the person who he or she is meant to be, and still able to love others despite what they may have been through. There is a long healing process, and there is always hope.

      Thanks so much for your kind words concerning my poem and the message I am attempting to convey here.

      Hugs and Blessings to you too, Faith Reaper

    • Rolly A Chabot profile image

      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Faith Reaper... touching and a reminder of those we know who stand and continue to take the abuse for the sake of the children. It is a blessing to watch the abused simply pack up and start all over again. Yes it is difficult and yet after the fact they begin to again build confidence and become the person they were called to be...

      Excellent poem and the message is powerful...

      Hugs and Blessings

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi livingsta,

      You're welcome, and I appreciate your thought-provoking comments here, which add much to the subject of this hub. Yes, His love never fails.

      I appreciate your kind words here concerning the writing of this hub.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • livingsta profile image

      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thank you for this hub. It really helps, when you sit here wondering what went wrong. The worst part is that you are abused, but you still love them with all your heart and stay on, hold on thinking one day it will all change. Not many think that God is there to love them unconditionally and His love never fails. This is a very motivating hub. Thank you again for sharing this! God bless!

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh Dearest Eddy,

      Bless you my precious friend from Wales, and thank you for sharing your powerful story with us all here. You are so very brave dear one. I am glad you were strong enough to get out and now live a life filled with love. You have moved me with your story.

      I am so glad you pointed out those particular words of my poem, as I almost did not put those in when I was going through the editing part, and now I am blessed that those particular words spoke to you.

      Yes, it is often misunderstood that those who are being abused are weak, but that is not the case as you and Leslie have pointed out here.

      Sending you lots of hugs and love to you this day, Faith Reaper

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi ananceleste,

      Oh, God bless you dear one for sharing your powerful story here. You are an amazing person. You should write about your story if you have not done so. Forgiveness is necessary in all situations no matter what to be able to move on. Wow, I have never heard of such a story as your story. You are so brave to share this here with us, and I am so glad you did. Yes, one must feel loved by one's significant other no doubt!

      I pray this hub does help at least one person to have the courage to break free from the violence, as that is not love. I pray they do click on the link to get important facts and helpful information they need. And with God's love, peace and strength, they will be able to break free.

      Again, God bless you for sharing your story here. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Eiddwen profile image

      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      You are so very strong to have held on this long

      It is past time to rise above this and set your heart free

      Echoing, endless echoing, are his choice of words to wound

      Revelation . . . this is not living life, nor who you are meant to be

      Oh how true ; this was me for the first four decades of my life.However I found the strength to rise up and disown my parents and left my abusive alcoholic husband of 26 years back in 2002.Today I live my life as ME with the most wonderful man ever, my partner,my best friend and soul mate..

      The alcoholic is almost bedridden due to his drinking ;this speaks for itself and the abusers are the ones who are weak and pathetic.

      Thank you again for sharing your words and I wish you a wonderful weekend.

      Here's to so many more hubs for us both to share on here.

      Lots of love from my little corner of Wales.

      Eddy.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi my lovely friend Leslie,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and we will certainly miss you next week!!!

      You are awesome, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for leaving such profound comments here which add so much to this hub, as to the understanding of why and who it affects, and you are so right, it happens to the best, the strongest and the smartest. Many think it only happens to the very weak, but that is not the case, and I thank you for pointing out that very important fact. as well as to just why it is so hard to escape.

      You are beautiful too and oh so very wise.

      I appreciate all you have stated here so very much, as well as the vote up and share!

      Hugs and love to you always, Faith Reaper

    • ananceleste profile image

      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      I have not been affected by a poem in this way ever. Not to sound, creepy, I felt you where talking to,and about me. I married my high school sweetheart, with a love that I never thought a person can feel. He became abusive the same day of the wedding. His specialty was verbal and psychological abuse. After five years of hell, when I gathered the courage to leave, he got sick, disabled. Fifteen years later, I am still his nurse and legal guardian. I could not bring myself to just walk away.Maybe I should have,maybe not. I was 15 when we met,17 when we got married, and 22 when I realized that he never loved me, or so he said. My heart died on my wedding day. And I still mourn my youth and probably will never know what it feels like to be loved by a man. I don't wish this on anyone. Twenty years have passed and for what ever reason, I still have to care for the very person that took away so much. Ironic, isn't it? That is why when I give talks at the local women's shelter, or give advice to any woman in a similar situation, I always point out the fact that love does not have to hurt to be real. And that no one deserves to be treated like garbage. Forgiveness is necessary, but is imperative to feel loved and appreciated by your significant other.

      Is not worth it.

      Keep using this incredible gift of yours. God has blessed you so my dear. Use it, be proud of it. Someone ,somewhere will be prompted by your words to break free from this evil of the spirit, that is called apathy. Bravo my friend. Blessings.

    • ImKarn23 profile image

      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      Do you mean to tell me there are people in the world who haven't been verbally abused? Hmmmmm....interesting concept...sigh...

      This poem hit me hard, Faith - it is raw and open and oozing truth and passion..

      abuse is such an insidious thing - especially verbal - it breaks you down slowly but surely - till you don't even know you've lost all self-respect and self-esteem - until it's too late. That's why abuse is so hard to escape - they feel incapable and unworthy..

      it happens to the best...the strongest..and the smartest..

      Keep fighting the good fight, my friend, and - i do so hope you're moving forward from your grief!

      "You're beautiful and i love you too"...

      up and sharing..

      i'll be away for about a week starting sunday...just in case anyone wonders..lol..

      xx

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi LadyFiddler,

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts here.

      Although this hub is concerning the abuse of women, men, too, are no stranger to this same sort of abuse, be it from a parent or some other family member (even a spouse), and that is why the cycle of abuse continues, as that is all they know, unless their hearts our changed by God's mercies or they get the help they need mentally to be a survivor.

      In other words, men have sufffered the same,possibly while growing up, and that is why they do not know how to love or what love really is, as the abuse is all they have been shown. They have no idea what real love is all about until they are shown real love in return.

      God's mercies are new each and every day, for all who come to Him and ask for forgiveness.

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • LadyFiddler profile image

      Joanna Chandler 4 years ago from On planet Earth

      Life sometimes seems so unfair to us women, men don't have anything to really to go through.

      1. A woman as to endure monthlies/period pains go through that cycle for 40-50yrs of her life. While men don't have to.

      2. Women suffer pains during pregnancy and after. Men don't have to that's why some can say plainly they want 1o children because they have no clue what it is to make just 1.

      3. women face most if not all of the children's stress as she is the first teacher of her children.

      4. She is the one to nurse the baby go through many sleepless nights with her newborn while the daddy sleeps that's if he's around.

      5. Women CAN TAKE PRESSURE OF EVERY KIND. Men cannot stand up during pressure or they seldom do most times they look for a way out.

      6. Women have to do all the house work, cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing etc and yet sometimes there is NO GRATITUDE SHOWN men still decide to treat us like DOGS.............

      1 Peter 3:7 says, Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

      Colossians 3:19 says : Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

      Apparently they ride over that scripture

      Thanks for sharing

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Gypsy,

      So glad to see you here stopping by for a visit to read. I agree with your great comments, which add a lot to the subject of this hub. Yes, it is vital, I believe, too, that to have someone on hand for support and understanding!!! I pray that at least one person is blessed by reading this and is able to get the help they need.

      Thank you for sharing.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Gypsy Rose Lee profile image

      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up. It's abuse that makes women think their ugly or worthless. It's important for women to let their inner beauty shine and to stand up for themselves and say I'm great. It always helps to have someone on hand for support and understanding. Thanks for writing this as it can help women who find themselves in such situations. God bless and passing this on.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dearest Maria,

      Thank you so very much for such endearing words here, which really add so much to this hub in explaining the vulnerability and doubt, as you have pointed out. I am humbled by your kind words to me.

      I just pray that those reading, who may be in such a situation, do click on the links to seek help and may have a glimmer of hope and understand that they are not alone in their situation. This is unbelievably far reaching, more than one can imagine, which is so heart breaking to say the least.

      I appreciate the vote up.

      Hugs, blessings and love to you my dearest friend. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • marcoujor profile image

      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Faith,

      Oh how these words of comfort, connection and support will feel like a warm blanket of a hug to the women who are/ have endured such abusive relationships. This must be such a time of vulnerability...when one is made to doubt their worth, their inner or outer beauty...and we are all so beautiful in our own style.

      When you have the time...and I know how very involved you are in so much good right now... your words flow like a comforting salve to a wound.

      Bless you, my friend...always. Voted UP & UABI. Love, Maria

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Mary,

      I am so glad for your visit here this day. Me too, at the very first hint of anything . . . I would be out of there no doubt. Obviously, there is a lot more going on in the mind of the one being abused, most likely just fear in general of the unknown, but who really knows, and I am not one to judge why they stay or put up with the abuse.

      I appreciate the vote up.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • mary615 profile image

      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      I have never been in an abusive relationship, nor would I ever tolerate being in one. I would walk right out the door at the first sign my partner was abusing me either in word or deed.

      Voted UP, etc.

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Frank,

      Yes, you got way off track here LOL. It is certainly not a funny matter, but a very real one where lives are at stake no doubt!

      Yikes, I know that story you told, is just that, a story . . . you writer you . . . maybe you can include that in your next hub!

      Thanks for reading and leaving unique comments.

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

    • Frank Atanacio profile image

      Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

      My goodness Faith My mouth just stayed opened..And it's funny well not funny but odd that people hide these types of situations even though they sense the worse.. and all the women seem to have no connection except one: they have all been victims... so this poem was not only creepy..but authentic and compelling.. and the message was dead on and delivered... Reminds me of this woman who hated her life so much she found the tallest building in the state climbed the roof and jumped. as she past each window she kept saying.. yeah so far so good....each floor she passed was God's waying of saying life is still worth living.. boy did I really get off track here huh? LOL

    • Faith Reaper profile image
      Author

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, Dearest Mh,

      I am so sorry dear one for what you have had to endure, and pray that you were healed from all, and have gotten help from what you had suffered through. We do not get to pick our parents no doubt. I am sure they had experienced such as a child too. Thank you for sharing your heart here. Extreme racism as you speak of is a form of mental illness, I really do believe.

      God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper