When will what goes around come around?
Most of us have experienced drastic life changes as we've grown older. It's with change that sometimes makes us better and other times causes a decline. When you were younger and even today you've been told "Good things come to those who wait." Others have said "What goes around comes around." How much longer should we wait? When is the goings around finally going to come?
20 years of reflection
Without really speaking on the first 18 years of life, even though those years consisted of many firsts such as car, diploma, apartment, serious relationships, and for some, development of families. It's the post teen years that have really formed a picture of how I've ended up here.
Not taking education serious has left me focused and determined to finish what I've started almost twenty years ago. Today, I can't seem to get enough college coursework thrown my way. Instead, I find that what school is allowing me to do in a week, I'm now finishing with honors in 48 hours. In the past, creating an excuse to not go to class was the norm. After seeing a transcript loaded with F's and W's (failures and withdrawals), today that is not acceptable and it's a participating race to the finish line to not only override those dismal figures but to produce grades that really describe the person I am. Both for me, and anybody else concerned.
When you think that the you have everything under control and that it can never change, that's exactly the time when you lose it. Younger generations haven't experienced enough defeat in order to build protective walls to combat these occasions. Looking back, I had everything, literally everything. I just assumed that it would be that way forever. Not the case, and I've been building those protective walls for the last twenty years. The focus should've been maintaining that 'good life' and continuing to build on it. Instead, the naive expectations slowly dwindled and I didn't even notice.
Feeding the pig
It took me almost thirty years to realize that in fact my parents were both not only smart, but fair, honest, and did have my best interests at heart. In the past, you would do whatever you could do disobey them, lie to cover your tracks, and involuntarily hurt them emotionally in search of bettering yourself. Stubbornness, ignorance, and arrogance took over. What a devastating way of thinking. Today, you find yourself asking and receiving forgiveness from those same parents and setting a path down on your own for them to be proud of. All those positives are starting to come out and the good news is, those parents are still alive to see it take place.
Your competitive edge to always win never left you. Although you've stopped playing all the sports you were extremely talented in, your will to compete and succeed never wavered. If you could do it all over again, you would. Being so close to the highest level, and then like always, you quit. Falling short of the satisfaction of doing it all. Instead, now you're determined more than ever to make sure others don't make your same mistake. Although, they don't quite understand your motives, they sincerely appreciate it. Making it important to you, sometimes creates that same sense of importance to them. It may be the guide and leadership they need, that you felt you didn't have or even want before. Having an impact on others, strengthens both them and your inner core. Those building walls become values, pride, respect, dignity, and self-power.
Understanding the bread crumbs
"Practice doesn't make perfect, there is no perfect. Practice makes permanent!" Instead of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, reality is subconsciously you are creating a bread crumb path for your mind. How you balance your money, how you settle your differences, how you repay your mental debts. The way you engage in your relationships, the way your treat your parents, how you are at your job or in school.
When things are good, you now concentrate on keeping things good, not running with them until they're taken away. When things aren't so hot, you do your best to improve on them, conserve to get by, and seek opportunities to improve.
For some, this all happened earlier whether it was because intellectually they saw clearly what for me, was a big blur. For others, it may be down the road, and hopefully this puts things in perspective and assists in reaching their goals.
Either way, the phrase 'what comes around goes around" happens everyday so be ready!
"Life Moves pretty fast, if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it"
-Ferris Buellers Day Off