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Who we appear to be- may not be who we are

Updated on March 5, 2012

Who we appear to be- may not be who we are.

By Tony DeLorger © 2011

The following poem is written about one aspect of Jungian psychology, the persona or mask that we all wear to conform and to relate favourably to other people within society. It has its value of course, but it also has its drawbacks.

As a consequence of our ill-construed concept of sharing,

We form superficial relationships based on persona.

What people see of us is limited by that persona,

limited to the parameters of image and survival.

We come home, place down the briefcase and assume another persona,

another mask of our psyche, to appease and to survive.

Who we are in the end, is lost in our unconscious,

limited and repressed by our ego.

Without the expression of the archetypes within us,

we are shells of a manufactured fabric.

Without synthesis there is no truth, no reality,

merely an imbalanced personality trapped in a self-made prison.

Conformity then becomes the over riding archetype,

application the value of success.

When the persona becomes inflated, we become too reliant on the persona

and it casts aside other aspects of the personality,

alienating one’s own nature,

until unable to live up to the standards set,

we can become alienated from community,

feeling inferior and lonely.

Life then becomes empty and meaningless.

All this because we place so much emphasis on how we are perceived,

accepted and conform to society.

It is therefore apt that we seek to find balance in all we do.


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    • Tony DeLorger profile imageAUTHOR

      Tony DeLorger 

      7 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia

      Thanks Kim.

    • kimh039 profile image

      Kim Harris 

      7 years ago

      so sad when people become their persona:( Coming to emptiness is a huge improvement! Very thoughtful, Tony. Thanks for sharing your ideas. (and I love the pic!)

    • Tony DeLorger profile imageAUTHOR

      Tony DeLorger 

      7 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia

      Thanks for your comment Timothy.

    • Timothy Donnelly profile image

      Timothy Donnelly 

      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Tony, interesting hub. You seem to be a man that has developed an introspective eye of consideration. This is good, for to be content with a superficial cognitive existence is far from being whole, in my view.

      I too share a fascination with psychology and the human psyche. It is interesting to me to discover how and why one becomes motivated, or chooses to act given certain stimuli, including how one may adopt a certain (sometimes predictable) attitude in any given situation. I have also written some poetic hubs on the related subject as well.

      Good tidings Tony, I shall be round-about.

    • Tony DeLorger profile imageAUTHOR

      Tony DeLorger 

      7 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia

      Thanks for all the comments guys.

    • barbergirl28 profile image

      Stacy Harris 

      7 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      I think people wear masks regularly. It is almost like a defense mechanism to get people to see who they truly are!

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      7 years ago from Boston, MA

      Congratulations on another great piece of work Tony! Deep stuff for real.

    • Midianite profile image


      7 years ago from Australia

      "All this because we place so much emphasis on how we are perceived,

      accepted and conform to society." - amazing.

      I love the concept behind this and I agree entirely. I believe you are a very smart man Mr. Tony DeLorger.

      This piece comes off as not being poetry at all - however is put together beautifully.

      I can't really fault this piece in anyway - it appears to be part of an essay rather than poetry.

      I wish that I could write a piece half as decent as this.

      Amazing vocab - it is obvious you have done a lot of research before writing this (or had prior knowledge of the subject)

      If you had the time, could you check out my hub Evidence of Inequality.

    • Midianite profile image


      7 years ago from Australia

      WOW - literally all I can say.


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