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Why I Think We Women Love Bad Guys

Updated on November 5, 2017
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I Love Bad Guys

If you know anything about what's been popular in movies and comics, you know these personalities. They are all unique in that they are men that are incredibly dangerous. That they are so dangerous and leaders is what makes them attractive.

You can take your pick of which fictional bad guy appeals to you, like me, it doesn't matter. What I want to point out are some reasons why we love bad guys.

We will have a relationship with them. Leading, not following, is even better when their work appears to be illegal. This makes them all the more brilliant and powerful. I don't believe we think their personalities, in general, are attractive. It is how their personality and characteristics are used is what makes them attractive.


I. Feared = Positive & Death = Negative

+ Positively, they're tough. There is no cowardice in them. They fight anyone or anything that stands in their way. They don't have back-down in their personality, it ia almost a mental impossibility.

- Negatively, they don’t care about dying. They don't care if their life is taken away. They will risk being locked up forever. And because of this mentality, you can lose them forever. You can also lose you life or some limb on their dangerous path.

And we, we will take the risk because the excitement of being around them outweighs what could happen. Hanging on to possibility in a positive light that nothing bad will happen or just putting it out of our minds for something to deal with if we must.


II. Needs = Positive & Workaholic = Negative

+ Positively, you will always have what you need. They will always have plenty of money. Your pockets, pocket book, closet, and drawers will be filled with all the things you love, need, or desire.

- Negatively, they won't be around much. These are usually workaholics. They are concerned with their gains. They are not going to wrap their brilliant brains around spending time with you over being powerful and wealthy.

And we will stay clinging on for that bright sining day of time, most of us. Other women will only stay for the material things and money they get. The status of wealth riches and being untouchable is very attractive. More attractive thanks anything.


III. The One = Positive & Emotionally Cold = Negative

+ Positively, you will always have their love. You are the one they like over all the women on earth. You have their barbaric, and often times, inhumane heart in this way. As inhumane as their heart can be, it is human for you.

- Negatively, there is no love for anyone else. This in the future can be problematic. If they have only cruelty for people, people will return this. This leads to violence; their death, loss of limbs, loss of your limbs, and suffering

Yet we will stay with them because they are human, civil, and comforting to us. They're cruelty to the world is justified to us because we say to ourselves,' look at how the world has treated them.' We justify their pains and anger. We understand it because of love and the excitement we get from being with them. And we will take the risk for their love and their protection, we will wait for the passion or take what we can get.


IV. Independence = Positive & Dominance = Negative

+ Positively, they cannot be told what to do. We do not really like guys who do everything someone else wants or says anyway. These guys are bent upon their own logic and violent tendencies.

- Negatively, for some of us, they will always make their own decisions. You cannot tell them what to do, warn them about what not to do, suggest what not to do, that something is a bad idea, convince them they may die, or any other feelings or words about their situation. If you push this, you could push them out of your life or push yourself out.

So, in all cases, the really smart of us will pay attention to what is happening around him and every decision he makes. We will be prepared for our escape if we must. We will take their demands in terms of where we go and who associate with. We will prepare for an exit if we must leave, but stay in loyalty in love amidst the unexpected.


V. Protection = Positive & Dangerous = Negative

+ Positively, you will always be protected. No one is gonna mess with you for any reason. You will walk around with someone always looking out for you.

- Negatively, it is dangerous just because you need this protection. He is who is and he is dangerous because of this. You are in danger because of his actions and decisions. These are things you are not necessarily on top of or can control. They can be touched. It is all a matter of how much someone wants to touch them.

Overall our love does not make us blind, but it makes us ambitious and persistent in the love we have for this person. It makes us forsake, sacrifice and follow the lead of this person we have given our hearts to. The protection they provide makes us feel loved. Their ambition using the evils they embraced is partly for us and that shows us their love. And whenever they should need us, we would be there when no one else would be because of our love for them, our fearlessness in that, the protection, consideration, and things they give with the risks they take. We know it isn't just for us, but we don't have to believe that.


VI. True Love = Positive & Possessively Brutal = Negative

+ Positively, they will love and desire you forever. They would shoot someone for you. They will beat someone to a pulp for you. As long as they are alive, no harm will ever befall you even it is i in between you and your family members.

- Negatively, this can become possessive. This can become something that controls your lifestyle. It can take many forms, such as determining the people you associate with, how you dress and appear, your behavior, lifestyle, and so forth. Once you are there, it can quickly become a relationship that you cannot get out of even if you really want to. They are brilliant, leaders, respected, feared, intelligent, strategists, ambitious, and you are the woman with the average IQ whose really pretty.

There is the issue of possessiveness and control. There can be cruelty in this. The smart of us will exit upon abuse. The not so smart will stay and deal with abuse. In all cases, love is love and this is a personal decision we must make when we look at ourselves.


Last Thing To Note

And there you have it, all the reasons why I think we love bad guys. Here you have some of the most important positives and negatives of having a relationship with bad guys. The positives can definitely outweigh the negatives. For me, there is an extremely warm welcome in knowing that it would be next to impossible for any harm to befall me. I think that type of security is what is the most attractive. I love bad guys. But for what it's worth, you take your own risk when being with one. Make your decisions wisely.



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      Toni Northern 5 years ago from Williamston NC

      Thanks for reading @mollymeadows. I've noticed, in my lifetime, exactly the opposite. Men that are seriously bad guys, and they like that, they can live with that, were great to their moms and family. If they listen to anyone, it's their mother over anyone. So, even bad men love their mommas.

      As in my hub, women need to know who their getting with despite all they have or can accomplish. As with me, you make your own decisions in life. There are negatives associated with these people. I encourage all women, use your own discretion.

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      Mary Strain 5 years ago from The Shire

      I've noticed this too and it mystifies me. I think a lot of women buy into romantic myths...popular myths, because you see them in romance novels all the time, but myths just the same. I think the biggest one is the idea that a woman can "tame" a bad man, or that no matter how rotten he is to others, he'll somehow be good to her.

      It's been my lifelong observation that a man who'll kick his dog and slap his Mamma is almost always bad news for his wife as well.

      Life is too short for that kind of drama. Good guys, you rock!

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      Toni Northern 5 years ago from Williamston NC

      @loveofnight, Sometimes I feel that way, but I just have an overbearing soft spot for guys like them. Their kind are what I just slip into easily. It may be a weakness, I have yet to give it some thought. Thanks for reading.

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      Toni Northern 5 years ago from Williamston NC

      Thanks @Marsei, I like to make my hubs as welcoming as possible. Not to cluttered to read.

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      loveofnight 5 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

      Interesting Hub,but I must say that the whole bad boy thing is not me.I want my man around and I don't like to share (not even with those who work for him).I am more of a nerd girl,I am attracted to brains.Tho I must say that the money is an attraction, a stray bullet coming through the window is not.

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      Sue Pratt 5 years ago from New Orleans

      I like the unique presentation. Very creative.

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      Toni Northern 5 years ago from Williamston NC

      @authorfriendly, First thanks for reading. And I did touch on that, I just didn't highlight it. : > It was in, the negatives about them not listening to others. Remember, I said -some- of the women think it's a bad thing. That's also where I meant they try to change them, usually with suggestions, and tell them what to do. They can push them out of their life or themselves out. I wouldn't forget that, no way.

      I guess I could have been clearer though : )

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      authorfriendly 5 years ago from Charleston, SC

      You left out one thing and barely touched on another reaon why women like the bad boys.

      First the one you touched on in several of the above, is that they are dominant- the leader of the pack, which means, as you said they have plenty of money and tend to get their way. This is an almos instinctive reason women are drawn.

      The other reason is that many women want to "fix" "heal" or "repair" him- an effort that is bound to sink the realtionship because he ha no intention of changing for anyone, not even you.

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      Toni Northern 5 years ago from Williamston NC

      @John Sarkis. Thank you for the vote up. It's a sensitive issue I know. The funny thing I recognized over time is that although those dark personalities are terrible and violent, yet we women still love them. Despite all the pain they can bring into our lives. That's what's so funny.

      Thanks for reading.

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      John Sarkis 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      This is the topic of the ages - bad girls/boys... I think also - oftentimes that is - so called bad girls/boys are sexually more desirable and attractive and I think that's something that is not oftentimes discussed when this topic arises...

      Voted up

      John