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Would writing about your experiences be too personal? I think it could help other people. Please think about it.

Updated on May 7, 2011

Writing about a life experience

Have you ever considered writing about something however you are not to sure if you actually should? There are questions maybe you should ask yourself. Is this going to damage my reputation or possibly prevent me from maintaining or becoming employed in my career field or any other I may decide to enter in to later on? Is this going to be at someone in my close family or friends emotional expense? Is this something I am willing to talk about when I am questioned about it at some point? Is this really something I want other people to know about me or my personal life? These are all very important in your decision when deciding if you should write about any life event. Sometimes you may feel that someone else may benefit from a tragedy that may have occurred in your life such as rape, molestation, drug or alcohol abuse, domestic abuse, murder, identity theft, sexual and personal issues and other issues that could have the possibility of a positive or a negative affect. Personally if I answered any of the questions above with a negative response or an I don't know I would have to say the best bet is not to write about it. For example let's just say Kevin is thinking of writing about his past drug and alcohol abuse. He has taken into consideration that he is an elementary school teacher and this may damage his career and reputation and may cause him to even lose his job because some of the things he wants to write about occurred recently while he was employed at a local school. On the positive side he is thinking not only will it be therapeutic for him but it may also help someone else by not only giving them hope but maybe some advice that may help them on their way to recovery. After thinking it over for weeks Kevin has decided to write about it however instead of being able to take the credit as the writer he wants to do it anonymously or under a different pen name. This is the best decision in this case for him. He is going to be able to write about it because he feels the want or need to however he is not going to receive any credit under his name. By doing so he has satisfied himself with writing about what he wanted to without losing his career or damaging his reputation. Kevin also will not have to answer any question to the public or anyone else. Had he wanted to publish this as a hardcover book titled " My Story " Written by: Kevin Bradley he may have had to release information he did not want known and risk his career. In that case the proper decision would have been not to even write it or possibly write a book simply on ways to recover from drug and alcohol abuse and not mention anything about his personal life experience. Basically what it boils down to is What do you feel you should do? It should not be a split second decision especially if you are writing about something very personal that otherwise may not be shared with anyone. You have to be absolutely positive about your decision before doing so because once you write something and even if only 2 people were to read it that is 2 people that you may or may not have ever mentioned that to. The best advice I can give is to look before you leap so to speak and weigh out all the options. You may even want to write a list of good things and bad things and their effects on your life to aid yourself with your decision. Possibly discuss this with someone close to you and get their opinion on what they think about what you should do. Just keep in mind that these and other ideas are only to be used as a tool to aid in your decision process the ultimate choice is yours.

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    • dorothy0328 profile imageAUTHOR

      Dorothy Cooper 

      5 years ago from Deltona Fl

      Thank you so much for all your lovely comments.

    • Jo_Goldsmith11 profile image

      Jo_Goldsmith11 

      7 years ago

      Thank you so very much for this! You are truly a Blessing! I have raked my brain to figure out how much of myself I should or shouldn't put in print. This is excellent advice! Awesome information. I pass this forward and will continue to keep it fresh in all the minds of aspiring writers. You rock! :-)

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      Guanta 

      7 years ago from New York City

      Thank you Dorothy0328 this is good, sound advise.

      I personally always admire people who are willing to admit their mistakes, tragedies, blunders, etc. I find that not only do I learn from them but that I respect them even more.

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      yellow77stingray 

      7 years ago from Eastern NC

      This is great! I have been struggling with this question for many years & finally decided Im just going to do it. If what I have to say makes even one person think twice, then I will have done what I set out to do. (and I mean this about many topics)

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      britneydavidson 

      10 years ago from united kingdom

      Excellent I was always in search of something like this by which i can expresss my feeling though everything has positive and negative side but be pessimistic and enjoy. http://ezinearticles.com/?Jabra-BT250v-Bluetooth-H...

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      Dorsi Diaz 

      10 years ago from The San Francisco Bay Area

      Wonderful advice on whether or not you should share a life experience with someone- or even many people. Good options for deciding how to share that information and the pros and cons of that decision.There are benefits but also could be possible drawbacks that really need some thoughtful consideration.Great hub!

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