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Writing: The Simplest Way to Making Best Use of Your Anger

Updated on April 10, 2018
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Some describe Charmaine's poetry and writings ecclectic, cryptic, whimisical, simple or intense.She is a native of Australia.

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Writing: The Simplest Way to Making Best Use of Your Anger

Why is the Emotion of Anger Still Taboo?

“Well-bred people”, peaceful people, or people who fear anger or conflict fear raised hands and voices because this represents imminent danger or something life threatening about to occur.

Some people are quick to burst into their anger while others are slow to boil revealing a death white toxic anger. The white boiling type of anger can lead to physiological health problems or self cutting situations

Strangely enough a female expressing her anger is still taboo compared to a male expressing his anger.


What is the Simplest Way of Knowing Someone is Angry with Another?

They would choose these types of words to describe the angry person: -

*acrid

*antagonistic

*ballistic

*bellicose

*bitter

*blue in the face

*caustic

*burning

*fuming

*horn mad

*irate

*livid

*mad

*perturbed

*seeing red

*shirty

*ticked off

*vitriolic

*wrathful

*furious


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What Would be the Physical Signs of an Angry Person?

Some physical signs of an angry person would be: -

*flaring nostrils

*clenching of the jaw

*narrowing of the eyes

*speaking like greased lightening

*throwing a temper tantrum


How Would a Writer Demonstrate to You in Words What an Angry Person looked like?

Description 1

“I watched as the whites of his eyes turned a pure coal black, and his iris glowered a fired up hot red” ….

Description 2

“Her murderous stare felt stinging and penetrating, as if her glare was dicing up my heart into a million pieces” ……

Description 3

“Between the Scorpionic swept arch of the black eyeliner, the grey eyes, he had fallen madly in love with, were now no more than dirt smeared ice” ……

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Ways You Can Write Through Your Anger

Channelling your anger through writing can be one way to release the inner abscess that is holding you down in life and from becoming a constructive spouse, partner, work colleague, employer, parent, coach….

If you practice these 4 strategies you can move through your anger.

1. Write a Burn It Up List or Letter

Give yourself permission to be indulgent and free range with your quick to anger or your long-time bunny boiler styled anger.

Write out how you wish that perverted bully would run their car of a cliff and die. Write down a scene where you are loudly face shouting down, that jealous competitive lazy co-worker. Pounce on that keyboard EMPHATICALLY!!! as you curse that lying deceptive controlling sibling.

Give yourself a full 15 minutes.

Then stop.

Be still.

Become aware of the all the heated spots in your body.

Notice how tense your facial muscles are

The, just sit with all of it.

Slip into it, so to speak.

Be mindful you may also feel emotionally drained.

2.ImagineYour Anger to Be a Human Being

Just pretend for a moment.

Just imagine

What if your anger had a real name? What could that be?

What kind of facial expression would this angry character have?

What would be his/her’s favourite cussing words or phrases?

Then, imagine the light switched on and you understood what all the anger was about. That is, the good purpose of the anger. (what goals the anger is trying to achieve)


3.Action Plan for the Good Purpose of the Anger

Once you have found what the “pay-off” is (the good purpose) create an Action Plan A where you develop goals for your day to day living to realise the Anger’s good purpose.

To help you along with that. Say to your falling asleep self at night- “Thank you for incrementally showing me tomorrow to how to be or feel more at peace in my life”.

4. Anger is Empowering, If You Let It Be That Way

You may find writing out this simple sentence repeatedly beneficial in clarifying or solidifying the good intention/s of your anger. Keep writing until you cannot write anymore.

“My anger empowers me to” ………

Here is a Poem I Created About Hurt and Helplessness-Anger

Horn Mad Furious

Acrid irateness

damn, it’s true, fandango

ballistic and livid

hiding within the invisible black

of silence and sophistication

chilli red madness

in antagonistic repertoire

butternut bellicore

perturbs the heart and soul

bitterness only sees red

seeding boysenberry solutions

shirty like nauseous citron

from a back handed blue in the face

you think you tickle me

with your caustic sarcasm?

the candy apple finger to you

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In Summary

Anger is still taboo.

I wonder if it is because anger is connected to war or war-like feelings? And at war people get hurt or killed.

Anger is a self-preservation feeling we need to respect rather than swallow or hide, in my personal opinion. However, some of us are better at mastering our anger in comparison to others.

I feel one way we can culturally break up the solid mass of anger is to start to use alternate words/language to replace the word ‘anger”. As each alternate word or phrase offers a slightly different feel and perception to anger. This would serve to break up that molten red brick of energy stuck in that word “anger”.

Write your way to becoming a constructive person. A better person.

I wish you happy writing.



Sources

https://www.dailywritingtips.com/75-synonyms-for-angry/

https:/www.kathysteinemann.com/Musings/angry/

https://www.writingthroughlife.com/writing-through-anger/



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      Threekeys 5 weeks ago from Australia

      Somethings work better for some then others. As I mentioned to Elijah a lot has been written on working with hurt and/or disempowering/angry feelings. There is bound to be a means out there for what you need. Im speaking here about reasonable anger. That is, a person gets angry and is aware that intentionally hurting someone with their anger is not okay. Maybe for that kind of anger it can be constructively channelled into a boxing ring or some particular martial arts, like Akido. Thank you sharing Finn.

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      Finn Liam Cooper 5 weeks ago from Los Angeles

      Well it is interesting how we have several words for anger like the Native Alaskans have 50 words for snow.

      I like your first idea best about typing out a scenario and then destroying the missive. It seems effective, but when i try to do that, halfway through I always stop and give up

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      Threekeys 5 weeks ago from Australia

      Hi Eric Im glad you could find something useful here. Peace and Wellness to You and loved ones.

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      Eric Dierker 5 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well done. certainly you make a great point or a few. I like this and it will go into my brain for recall. Thanks

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      Threekeys 5 weeks ago from Australia

      Thankyou for your sharings Elijah. Anger is covered like an old beaten car but from my end I wanted to throw my two cents in on how creativity and anger can work together.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 5 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Yes, Charmaine, all of the above, and more I believe, is necessary to release our anger. Something I have found since I love unconditionally is to wrap your anger up in your love for ALL life while you are angry and it seems to just disappear.

      Thanks for sharing it.

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      Threekeys 5 weeks ago from Australia

      Im glad you found some useful ideas here Li-Jen. I would love to see your Zen take on anger:)

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      Li-Jen Hew 5 weeks ago from Malaysia

      Hey Charmaine. Thanks for sharing! :) Learnt new stuff from this article. I never thought of anger as a character. Cool point - good purpose of anger. Didn't think of it that way. Happy writing to you too. :)

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