YOU CAN'T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT - Trust Me
That Palace You Wanted.....
Do you remember when you were oh so little with GREAT BIG dreams and lots of GREAT stories you used to share with your friends! Man, could you really make them sound GOOD! At the time you thought that the extra little additional "made up" details did not make a difference, but "yo and behold"....THEY DO NOW! Maybe not "way back when" but in the real world and in a life of "survival," you are what you SPEAK! And LIVE and EAT! ha
I decided to write this little "diddy" cause you see before that word was a "famous rapper/producer" it meant "a little something." Just a little something that made a small difference. Like maybe if you are reading this "little diddy" right now I may make you think. My mind is racing today and I have discovered "WHY!" Well you say.....that is fantastic!!! And I say, YES IT IS!!
You see my dear friends, "You Can't Always Get What You Want" (like Mick Jagger said or sang) and let me tell you why! Good, solid dreams are built on very steady "foundations." You can't just say, "I have worked so hard, so therefore I DESERVE my palace! AND my rich boyfriend and that beach house in that fake place in that great romantic movie!!! NO, NO, NO!!!!!! You can't just wait for an inheritance that may never happen! I know quite a few people that are depending on this one which is sad because truly most of their parents have atleast a good 10-20 years left! And on top of that, they just "WAIT, and WAIT and WAIT! And in the process they do not advance in their chosen careers or do anything for themselves and this makes them STUCK. Capiche?
OK, what is my point? Here it is.....SO, you have a list of things you want. GREAT! Sounds like a good plan. NOW, what the hell are you going to do to get it? Wait for someone to do it for you? I asked a few good friends what they wanted in a man or relationship. One of them made a list of things she wanted in her future mate and honestly, she was not going to find him! The list went on and on.....thank God she finally found someone who fit a few things on this list! YES, she learned to compromise and realized that LOVE was a very important piece of the puzzle and guess what! HE IS NOT PERFECT!!!!! Wow! SHOCKER!
Another sad example of values that basically turned me off from someone that I was very close too was her obsession with all things "material." When she spoke of meeting a potential mate and she was getting near her mid-forties (which by this time is very hard to meet someone if you are unwilling to compromise and look past some faults in an older partner), the main "THING" she wanted was a financially successful man to take care of her so she can have her own life and live the life that she is accustomed to thanks to a family member who has supported her for many years. SAY WHAT? I mean why not just go and meet a pimp? OK, I will stop now, but really....may as well be "hired help." I mean how do you bring this sort of person around something or someone "normal?" Normal does not fit into their fake idea or dream that will never happen. Cause remember, if you marry someone for money...you definitely PAY FOR IT!
Alright, I will stop kidding around. The point is "Do you really know what you want?" Because if you do not, you will NEVER get it! All of us need a plan if we really WANT something. When it comes to career, love, family, friendships, relationships and everything else. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? In 10 years....I know exactly where I will be. Do you?
Just remember, if you want LOVE you need to look past all the "frosting" and realize that "You Can't Always Get What You Want" if you are looking for something that is completely UNREASONABLE! So next time you get a job offer and it is not perfect or close to what you want (but you need the money), think about where it can lead too. And if you meet that "special someone" who does not have that HUGE castle and brand new Mercedes, look deeper. And if you "do not know how to look deeper" or your list is way too long or your idea of a castle is BIGGER then the one in Cinderella, then "YOU WILL NEVER GET THERE!" UNLESS ofcourse if you win the lottery! And even then, you will eventually go through all of your money spending it on unstable foundations and things that mean NOTHING!!!!
I bet that little cottage in the country doesn't sound that bad right now? Hmmmmm?