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Years Of Service

Updated on December 26, 2016

Care & Attention

A beautiful Ming Dynasty piece.
A beautiful Ming Dynasty piece. | Source

Body language

Look at the body language
Look at the body language | Source

The question is why?

A piece of china is placed upon a pedestal

Why? Asks the china

Perhaps it is because you are delicate in design.

Why? Asks the china

Perhaps it is because you are familiar

Why? Asks the china

Perhaps it is because you are not obtrusive

Why? Asks the china

Perhaps it is because you are consistent within this environment.

Why? Asks the china

Perhaps it is because you do not need much tending

Then what would be the outcome? Asks the china

If they disrespect my position, chip my design or forget years of committed service to the owner’s lifestyle.

You would break in to a thousand pieces; never to find each one.

Your internal structure would be forever destroyed

Some Statistics

1 in 7 Australians adults will experience an episode of depression in their lifetime.

Depression via natural causes or life stresses, anxiety and depression from substance abuse are the most common mental illnesses.

Unfortunately there are around 65% of adults with a mental illness that will not seek any treatment. Some do and will not follow up and revert back to a state of depression.

Look for the signs

A look of stress upon the man's face
A look of stress upon the man's face | Source

Depression & Aggression Cuts Deep

Sometimes in life you meet a person that you connect with but what if you are the type of person that does not like confrontation?

Suddenly; you have committed yourself to a relationship with a person that you thought was strong, confident, considerate and had a general all round sense of good character but then it changes. Then life happens and the pressures that come along with it. You believe you can survive anything and that the person you commit to will remain strong; be that person you thought you knew.

The person you care about becomes someone else entirely. Depressed and then aggressive to the point of destruction then emotional and self harming, You try to get them help and for a while doctor prescribed medication works; at least in taking the edge of off the aggression and emotional state. At this point though the person you once knew becomes a zombie! Incapable of even holding a conversation.

So what do you do?

There are a few choices at this point but it also depends on what your feelings are about treatment choices and also on the severity of the disorder.

The first recommendation would be to work with the doctor and adjust the medication until the one best suited to the patient is found. The doctor will also recommend this in conjunction with counselling sessions on a regular basis. Very often though the person you are trying to help refuses anymore treatment and refuses to go speak to anyone.

So what do you do then?

It really does depend on the severity of the condition, how much you care about that person and are willing to tolerate. Also are there children involved?

I would suggest that if the person is extremely aggressive and you fear for your safety; you need to leave. Regardless of if you love that person and especially if you have children.

If you feel you have known them long enough to read their explosion signs/body language; then you have the opportunity to head off any outbursts. Read facial expressions; frowns and changes in expression when that person hears certain words or is placed in certain situations. You will get to establish a pattern in the behavior over time. The outbursts are stoppable for a while but they will always re-occur. They will make promises and never commit to them,they try very hard to change their own behavior but you will find they are only telling you what you need to hear and also become very clingy; they will always revert back. You will find that if you are too close to the situation it can really start to effect your own personal state of mind. Forgetting the personal traits that once made you who you are.

There will come a time when you have to ask yourself; is it all worth it?

Those sweet beautiful moments that are so few and far between, you wonder if will be enough to sustain your feelings for that person. Even though you try hard, those feelings will be a struggle to hold on to. You will need to prepare yourself because the writing will be on the wall. It does not go away no matter how hard you try to remove it from your lives; the condition just sits dormant and rears it's ugly head when it is good and ready.

When all is said and done you are going to have to make a choice for both of you. That is what you need to think about. Can the relationship be saved? Although it may break your heart it is something you must at least consider seriously; for your own sanity!

© 2013 skellie


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      skellie 3 years ago from Adelaide

      Thanks teaches12345. I appreciate you taking the time to read it :)

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Interesting to read, Skellie. Hope this helps others out there.

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      skellie 3 years ago from Adelaide

      Thanks Minnetonka Twin,

      I appreciate your comments. It is great to hear from someone in the field. I am a psychology student and it is great to know I am on the right track.

      Thanks for the great comments :)

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      Linda Rogers 3 years ago from Minnesota

      A very useful and informative hub. I think your last line is powerful and very true. As one in the mental health field I tell people that if your loved one is not taking their meds or doing anything to get help, it's time to consider leaving.