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after grief

Updated on July 14, 2012

After Grief 2006


Sans the end there is no beginning.

In the pain of loss is the measure of the worth.

I dreamed of you again lo this decade of remove.

The grieving, anger and agony are a pallid memory now.

Yet our loving touch as strong, perchance fuller.

We bickered for an aesthetic, jockeying our singular visions.

Your visit across our now disparate realities,

my memories reveal even the mundane a treasured possession.

All we shared and revealed together are with me still.

I thank life for the part of my path you chose to share,

For without it’s loss it could never have been.

©2006 R.Kane

AKA Richard Kane

After Grief 2007


I dreamed of you again lo this decade of your remove.

Your visit across our now disparate realities,

the echo of your loving touch is as strong, perchance fuller.

We bickered like we would over an aesthetic.

I had not yet photographed my arrangement

before you were pulling it apart to make it your own.

Yet again we jockeyed for our singular visions.

Where once my anger at your passing almost consumed me,

my memories show even the mundane a treasured memory.

All we shared, learned and revealed are with me still.

I thank life for the part of my path you chose to walk with me.

In the pain of the absence was the measure of the worth.

Sans an end there is no beginning,

For without it’s loss it could never have been.

©2007 R.Kane

AKA Richard Kane

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      pennyofheaven 

      6 years ago from New Zealand

      Wow that is a great age to be at. So glad you still get time to spend with her. Also happy that you were able to resolve any unresolved issues with your father even after his death. Not many realize that this is possible. To be able to release any residual energy that hung around is a gift. Look forward to it if you post it!

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      Richard Kane 

      6 years ago from Oakland CA

      I will look that up. My Mother is 93 and still going pretty strong so I haven't come to that milepost yet. My Father died at 63,I think. We weren't that close but I did write him a letter a couple decades after his death forgiving him and apologizing to him and thanking him and letting go of the energy of his that remained with me. Maybe I'll post it some time.

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      pennyofheaven 

      6 years ago from New Zealand

      It is all very valuable in my eyes. I am glad that you are help youngsters deal with death of loved ones. Time does heal. It may never go away but remembering the good times keeps the spirit of who they were alive. My poem on grief is my own dealing with the loss of my Mother and was written many years later if I remember correctly.

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      Richard Kane 

      6 years ago from Oakland CA

      I've been helping the youngsters [to me anyways] deal with the deaths of close ones lately. God knows I've dealt with enough deaths. I always tell them, it's going to hurt, you will grieve but be thankful for the time you did get to have with them. The pain will fade with time and you have to let go of them.

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      Richard Kane 

      6 years ago from Oakland CA

      I'm not sure which version I like more, but I really like the concept of "In the pain of loss is the measure of the worth." for if it weren't of value to you, it wouldn't hurt for it to be gone.

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      pennyofheaven 

      6 years ago from New Zealand

      Oh my. This is very emotional and deep. I relate to it well. Loss is not any easy emotion to let pass. I love your depth. Thank you

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