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Best Self Help Books For Women

Updated on January 20, 2016

Self-Help Books That Every Woman Should Read At Least Once

When it comes to reading the best self-help books for women, the idea of what is best will be different for everyone, as it's usual with this type of non-fiction books.

However over the years I have given self-help books to friends, I have bought and received some, and I have talked with lots of friends who changed their lives with the help of motivational books.

This is why based on this previous experience, here are 5 best self-help books for women that I think every woman should read at least once. Some will prove to be a great help, while others are simply an uplifter in tougher times when one needs a bit of cheering up.

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Your Truest Self
Your Truest Self

Your Truest Self: Embracing the Woman You Are Meant to Be

Your Truest Self: Embracing the Woman You Are Meant to Be

My best best friend friend gave me this book the very same year it was first published. She read her own copy and thought of me. She knew I was trying to find my spiritual path, still stumbling along, and she knew that I culd definitely use these teachings. She was so right. This is truly not only an inspirational book but also a higly motivational.

The author says about being your truest self:

"Our truest self is a woman who is living from her fullness, not from her pain or woundedness. She has fully embodied the qualities we attribute to Spirit itself--peacefulness, lovingkindness, generosity, and so on. She lives a mature spirituality, not one that has been handed to her without having fully explored it. And she is living free from fear to express herself in the world in this way. Living as our truest self is a lifelong process--a journey, a pilgrimage--into our sacred self."

Even on a bad day...You won't lose your smile, it's right under your nose. You just forget where it's there. So Smile :)


My Story

If you're feeling at your lowest point, like the rug has just been pulled from under you, or if you just need some direction in life, these self-help books will really help you. How do I know?

I've been there. I've been at a few low points in my life. It's true, I've never been abused as a child, actually I did have quite a happy childhood. However life really threw me around, I was forced to leave my native country, I was forced to be alone for quite some time, I was forced to leave my loved ones behind.

I was forced to lose all the confidence in myself, thinking that I can't do it anymore. While others were going to colleges and universities, I spent my time struggling to make ends meet in a place away from family and friends, in a country where I didn't know anyone and couldn't even speak the language.

I couldn't even go to therapy because of the language barriers. Basically I was screwed.

Luckily I found a few real friends who helped me through all these bad times, and I got hold of a few self-help books that truly showed me the light. They showed me that I didn't need therapy. I didn't need to take abuse, verbal or otherwise. I didn't need to feel alone, helpless and with a self-esteem so low that you could scrape it off the floor.

Indeed, self-help books became my anchor for several years, and I truly believe that they can help. And let's face it, they are much cheaper than a therapy session with even the cheapest psychiatrist.

So here is a list of what I consider the best self-help books for women who have endured so much. This list is for you.

The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

If you are a woman who wants to enrich her life, this book is for you.

The lessons within help you gain more self-confidence and increase your self-esteem. Sadly these days with our hectic and stressful life, it is all too easy to become less than who we are supposed to be. We lose the trust and confidence that helps us be everything we want to be.

It also addresses how to get our of the dark cycle of bending to the will of others at your own expenses.

We all go through a major trauma in our lives, be it a divorce, a death of a loved one, a major move to another country where family and friends are scarce. Learning to cope with these heavy situations is not coming naturally to everyone. Some people never had to go through something like this before. Coming from a place of knowing, the author understands and has the gift of conveying that understanding in a way that also gently teaches.

The Courage To Be Yourself helped me over and over again and I've found myself picking it up every couple of years. I guess that's what the cycle of life is all about.

"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in."

Fenderx Morrie Schwartz

Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing

For those of us scared off by the seemingly endless self-help road and amenable to New Age philosophy, Gloria Arenson, a psychologist specializing in energy and power therapies, presents Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing: The Last Self-Help Book You Will Ever Need.

The author not only practices, but also highly recommends the so-called Meridian Therapy, a set of techniques that are originating from from acupressure. It basically helps us all decrease our levels of stress without expensive and arduous professional help.

It is perfect for busy women - like most of the women I know are - who don't have the time to learn a difficult technique that takes a long time to master. This one is easy to do and the method really works.

One of its major applications for me was concerning public speaking. When you have to stand in front of an audience who is by default initially skeptical by who you are and what you have to say, opening your mouth to give birth to those pearls of wisdom is not easy. It's not easy at all.

By practicing the techniques in the book for a few weeks before the major deadline, you will do well. That fear is simply gone. I don't know exactly how, but as long as I can open my mouth without turning blue in the process, and can speak to my audience while looking it their eyes and not feel like I'm sinking below the podium, I'm ok. And when you have a fear of speaking, being 'ok' is simply perfect. And that is just the start.

"Love is an expression and assertion of self-esteem, a response to one's own values in the person of another. One gains a profoundly personal, selfish joy from the mere existence of the person one loves. It is one's own personal, selfish happiness that one seeks, earns, and derives from love."


Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change

Women Who Love Too Much is a book for every woman out there who find herself in a relationship that doesn't work. An abusive relationship that you can't get out of. A relationship that follows a pattern in your life, one that you can easily see in others, but you don't notice it in your life, or at least don't accept that it is there. And trust me, it is there.

Women by default love too much. It is in our nurturing and loving nature. And not all men are equal. Many can and will abuse this love, care and self-giving that we surround them with.

When you read this book, you will find yourself highlighting line after line, sentence after sentence and paragraph after paragraph. You will see your life with new eyes. While there are many abusive men, there is a way around it, and this book teaches you how to do it.

You will learn how to change your behavior, how to be your true self without selling yourself short. You will learn to see the relationship for what it really is, and how to either fix it, or get out before it's too late. This book will teach you to see. And that without having to spend top dollars at a well known therapist who charges hundreds of dollars for the hour every hour.

'Say this to yourself...Sometimes I'm so sweet even I can't stand it....and say it often '


Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

Many women feel these: procrastination...envy...anger...self-pity...compulsion. And many women would like to finally break free from these negative feelings but simply don't know how. They don't know what to do.

This book, Get out of your own way, will tell you exactly what to do to let go of all that self-defeating poison that takes over and destroys your life.


Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option


What Self Help Book For Women Did Help You The Most?

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    • darkflowers profile image

      Anja Toetenel 

      5 years ago from The Hague, the Netherlands

      What a great selection of books for us women. I love it they all contain spiritual content, to help us grow. Well done, this will help a lot of women make a good choice. Thank you!

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      Peggy Hazelwood 

      6 years ago from Desert Southwest, U.S.A.

      Great choices of self-help books. At certain times in our lives, we all need one or more of these books.

    • denetraharris profile image


      6 years ago

      "Women & Money - Owning the power to control your destiny"

      by Suze Orman

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      Mary Norton 

      6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      There are several but one of these is Louise Hay on healing.

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      7 years ago

      Women Who Love Too Much has been my bible for years. Pity I did not heed it earlier in my life

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      7 years ago

      Hey Marcia. I really enjoyed reading your list of self-improvement titles - my favorite is "Excuse Me, Your Life is Now" by Doreen Banaszak. Books like this remind me of the old Zig Ziglar quote, when he was told "Motivation doesn't last" He replied, "Yep. And neither does bathing, that's why its recommended daily". I have a lens about self-improvement that I think is complimentary to yours - its all about new paradigms for change and reaching goals. I'd be honored if you gave it a read and let me know what you think. Either way, thank you for this cool lens!

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      7 years ago

      The Little Red Book For Women sounds good and useful

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      7 years ago

      I haven't read this one but have heard it mentioned in numerous conversations, "The Little Pink Book", I'm not the author or associated with the book either.

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      7 years ago

      Proverbs Chapter 31.

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      Kathy McGraw 

      7 years ago from California

      I know self help books help many people, and it looks like you have a good collection here. Glad to hear you survived those tough years of being in a new country.

    • LouisaDembul profile image


      7 years ago

      Nice collection of self-help books. I think most of us need reminders on how to view ourselves well. Many women tend to think only of others, but we too are important.

    • EcoPottiJo profile image


      7 years ago

      Thanks for a really useful lens. Its vry helpful having a range of womens self help books to browse in one place.... :)

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      7 years ago

      I'm very suspicious of self-help books because there are just so many of them. It's hard to really get a self-help book to stand out from the masses.

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      7 years ago

      Great books suggestions and lens. I've read "I Know I'm in There Somewhere" and loved it.

    • Craftymarie profile image


      7 years ago

      Very useful information. I enjoy reading self-help books and quotations. 'Feel the Fear and do it anyway' is a great book.

    • WriterJanis2 profile image


      7 years ago

      You are a true success story.

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      Nathalie Roy 

      7 years ago from France (Canadian expat)

      Women Who Worry Too Much! We are all like that, must be one of our trait.

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      Susanna Duffy 

      7 years ago from Melbourne Australia

      An excellent resource on Self Help books for women!


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