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Alanon Books for People Who Love Alcoholics

Updated on March 3, 2016
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Deborah has been a member of Al-anon, an organization for the friends and family of alcoholics and addicts, for over 34 years.

It is hard to love or live with an alcoholic; you need all the help you can get.
It is hard to love or live with an alcoholic; you need all the help you can get. | Source

How Alanon Can Help You Cope With an Alcoholic Loved One

One of the most difficult doors you may ever enter could be the door to your first Alanon meeting. The only reason you would be going through that door is because someone you love abuses alcohol and/or drugs. Tragically, this is a situation that occurs in millions of families every year.

It doesn't matter whether the alcoholic you love is your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, sister, parent or child. It can be very painful to watch someone destroy their life because of their addiction to alcohol or drugs. As they have gone deeper into their addiction, you may have tried everything you could think of in order to "fix" them. Unfortunately, it is impossible to fix someone who does not want to be fixed.

From the time I was a young child, I have been aware of heavy drinkers in my family. Once I reached adulthood, it became obvious that alcohol abuse was a common thread among my relatives. Although I believed that I was doing a great job managing on my own, I was constantly frustrated by the antics of the alcoholics in my life. I didn't realize how hard this constant sense of frustration was on me.

About 32 years ago, I began my journey in Alanon. It has been life-changing. In addition to attending meetings, I regularly read Alanon books. These books have helped me understand myself and the alcoholics in my life so much better.

Reading Alanon literature will help you better understand this 12 Step Program and give you the tools to help you cope better with the frustration of having an alcoholic in your life. Shown below are some examples of the books you may find helpful. Then, read on to learn more about what it is like to attend an Alanon meeting.

Daily Readings to Help You Deal With the Stress in Your Life

Hope for Today
Hope for Today

This is on of three Alanon meditation books, and my personal favorite. However, if you do not like this one, the others are very good, too!

To find more examples of Alanon books, including other Alanon meditation books, click on the blue product name above and you will be taken to the Amazon page for this book, where you can search for other literature that you will find helpful.


More Examples of Alanon Books from Amazon

Here are some of my favorite Alanon books. I find that they bring me comfort when one of the alcoholics I love is going through a difficult time. I think of my Alanon books as a "meeting between meetings."

Sometimes, just taking a few minutes to read a passage, can help me collect my thoughts and feel more at peace.

How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics
How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics

This book will help you better understand the Alanon program and how it can help you and your family. In addition to the book about the 12 Steps, you will find this book to be especially helpful.


The Book Listed Below Can Help With Specific Situations

You will find it comforting to have a variety of Alanon literature on hand. Many people also like to keep a few extra books around to give to friends and family members when given the opportunity.

Between this list and the list above, you will find plenty of Alanon books to help you get through a tough time. If you love an alcoholic, you may have more than your fair share of tough times. It is comforting to have somewhere to turn when you just don't know what to do.

This is the Most Popular Alanon Book for People who are Married to an Alcoholic or Drug Abuser

The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage
The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage

This book isn't seen often anymore, but I loved reading it when I first got into the program! If you are married to an alcoholic, you will certainly want to read this book. It was a lifesaver (and a marriage saver) for me.

While the book refers to the alcoholic marriage, it is also appropriate for someone who is married to a drug abuser, even if their drug of choice is a prescription painkiller ... a problem that has become increasingly common.

Don't forget: If you want to learn more about any of these books, and even read an excerpt, just click on the blue Amazon product name for that book and you will be taken directly to its Amazon webpage. From there, you can also see the other Alanon books that are available.


Your First Alanon Meeting

Going to an Alanon meeting can be scary. However, you will find that the people there are very kind. Remember, all of them have gone through situations that are similar to what you are experiencing. Some of them may even have multiple alcoholics and drug addicts in their life, and yet they are still able to be happy.

At the meeting you are only expected to tell other people your first name. You do not have to speak during the meeting unless you want to. You are welcome to sit and listen until you feel comfortable sharing your story with others.

Alanon meetings are also very inexpensive. Usually, they will pass a basket and ask you to donate a dollar or two. It is the cheapest therapy you will ever get!

Visit several different meetings until you find the one that is right for you. Some meetings are large, others are small. Some last one hour and others last longer. Some are discussion meetings and some are speaker meetings. When you try different meetings you will eventually find the "home" meeting that feels right to you.

Get involved. Talk to other people. Make friends. You will find that having others who know what you are dealing with at home will make your life much easier to endure.

Working On Your Fourth Step Inventory

An inventory is just that ... an evaluation of both your strong points and your weak ones. This workbook known as "The Blueprint for Progress" will help you do just that.

This is the book that many Alanon members use when they do their Fourth Step. It takes them through all the aspects of their lives and helps them get a good perspective on their strengths, as well as their weaknesses.

The A.A. Big Book

Many family members of alcoholics also find it interesting and helpful to read the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. It can be very inspiring.

There is even a particular section of the AA Big Book, Chapter 9, that is directed towards the families of recovering alcoholics. It contains some very helpful information.

Many family members also get a lot of benefit from reading the stories of recovering alcoholics at the end of the book. It provides a lot of comfort to families who love someone who has not recovered, yet.

Reading the Big Book and the stories in it can be encouraging to families who have a lot of trouble understanding the alcoholics in their lives.

Alanon Gifts

Eventually you may want to give Alanon gifts to your friends in the program. Often, one of the books mentioned above will be the perfect gift. They make the perfect gift if you know that someone is worried about an alcoholic or drug abuser in their life.

Remember ... drug abusers can also include people who use prescription drugs. A sad reality of modern life is that many people have become addicted to the drugs that their doctor has prescribed to them.

Have you ever thought about attending an Alanon meeting?

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      Deborah Carr 3 years ago from Orange County, California

      These books are so helpful for people who know they need help, but they are uncomfortable going to an Al-anon meeting, yet. They can order them from the privacy of their home and begin to learn about how Al-anon works.

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      Deborah Carr 4 years ago from Orange County, California

      @WriterJanis2: Alanon has changed the lives of millions of people over the past 50+ years. I am so relieved that this organization exists to provide emotional support for people.

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      WriterJanis2 4 years ago

      Alanon was life changing for a friend of mine.

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      Deborah Carr 4 years ago from Orange County, California

      @CoolFool83: I agree. These books should help the family members, too!

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      CoolFool83 4 years ago

      These can definitely help numerous people fighting alcohol.