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Journey - The Book That Built My Advocate's Heart

Updated on October 12, 2013

The Massies' Journey Modeled a Beautiful Form of Advocacy for Me Prior to my Son's TBI

I was A Full-time At-Home Wife & Mom

When I was in the blossom of new motherhood I read Robert and Suzanne Massie's Journey, the book that changed my lite - although I wouldn't know it for another 15 years.

My third child, a daughter, received into a family with two sons (1) was an infant and I was the classical 60s housewife and mother, set apart from the majority only in my affection for the country life, and in my willingness to get involved in the home-building process.

After one year of university education I had opted for marriage. Now I felt enriched by family and home, and content to polish my domestic skills on our rural acreage.

Remembering is Powerful

As it turned out, I misremembered the story, but never let go of the rope of competency the authors imparted as they related their life experience as the mother, and father, of a son whose hemophilia claimed the focus of their lives. I related to the mother's voice, but this is also the story of the father's travails and triumphs, as both parents embarked on their journey of advocacy.

Journey filled me with excitement, wonder, and awe, as I read about those parents' concerted actions, coupled with their writing careers.

Although I had toyed with the idea of following my early high school journalism career (editor, advertising manager high school newspaper), and columnist for two local small town weeklies; and then a full-time job as display advertising layout designer for another small city semi-weekly, with a BA in journalism, I set my college plans aside shortly after my marriage. (2)

So, when I read about the Massies' early married lives, following Robert's Oxford fellowship and Suzanne's university graduation I indulged in some speculation about what it could mean were I to return to my journalism studies.

The Massies' Expectations Diverted

Suzanne attended Vassar, spent her junior year at the Sorbonne, and slid into editing at Time Magazine after graduation; Robert's Rhodes Scholarship saw him through Oxford, and he moved on to become a Naval Airman, after which even his stellar education couldn't prevent subsequent disruptions of what had appeared to be a brilliant career.

Unexpectedly, the young couple learned they were expecting, and their rich upbringings and educations strengthened their attitudes that their competencies would carry them through whatever the future wrought.

New parenthood wasn't diminished a whit by Robert's revolving door jobs. His promise held the security they expected to carry them through their early marriage, and to cement his career.

That belief turned out to be the smokescreen that blew away with the closing of his employer, Colliers Magazine. Still, the Massies were a resourceful and happy couple, with a joyful, adventurous tot.

A Couple of Warnings

A small sudden dark bruise on the child's upper arm recalled, for Suzanne, their son's very slow to heal circumcision scar which caused them but a small pause. This new sharp bruise surprised Suzanne enough so she was able to get her infant promptly seen by their pediatrician.

The giant ball had begun to roll down what became the tunnel of their lives, a ball from which they were always barely extricating their son. The ball's coating wore the faces and voices of steely-eyed, flat voiced specialists and their gate-keepers. At first they seemed constantly in danger of slipping just under the ball.

Robert and Susan moved through shock like an editor moves through the text they edit., probing, examining, sifting, searching, allowing themselves to strike from their minds the too-difficult constructs until they were prepared to examine them.

photos ©Leslie Sinclair

My articles referenced above

1. My Adopted Children

2. My Life

Journey - by Robert Massie and Suzanne Massie

Journey
Journey

This tremendous story of the Massies' development as powerful advocates for their son who lives with the challenges of hemophilia infused me with the seeds of my own advocacy.

 

What Do You Think About Advocacy - such as that exemplified by Robert Massie and Suzanne Massie

Would you devote your life to advocacy, if calamity struck a member of your family?

Yes, I wouldn't consider any other option.

Yes, I wouldn't consider any other option.

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  • anonymous 4 years ago

    Yes, it is worth it.

  • Debra Lobel 4 years ago from Oakland, CA

    I have 2 special needs children and a partner who is chronically ill. Crises is common in my life. I never thought I would be an advocate, but now I understand what it takes to seek, find and get all the resources that are needed. I'm also trying to write a book about my experience, but I have so much material I am having a hard time managing the writing. Thanks for this lens. I really enjoyed it.

I believe I would need to ask someone else to do it for us, or to let the medical professionals decide.

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Journey With My Power Series Painting - a postcard photograph of one of my award winning paintings

My oldest son suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury one year after my return to university studies.

Robert and Susan Massie's stories of their journey into advocacy and beyond hovered in the recesses of my consciousness, as it does to this day. I embraced the position of mother-advocate more readily, because I had read this book.

In Journey the Massies began as novices, researched and pondered the what ifs of causes and solutions, raised their son, and a daughter, and shared their newfound expertise with policy makers and the public.

From the model of their dedication I drew strength to learn about TBI, to question, to research, to connect, and to suggest solutions, to professionals in fields beyond the medical realm, and I have been fortunate enough to deliver a strong testimony that changed public law.(3)(4)

The little booklet to the left of Journey is where I jotted down notes and thoughts in the first couple days of my son's TBI coma. Soon I bought a weekly format journal and have kept one for each of the 24 years since that injury.

The memory of the impact of Journey on me has informed many of my activities throughout my life, especially when confronted with an especially challenging situation. (5)

My Articles Referenced Above About My Advocacy

3. Cogent Advocate

4. TBI Speaks to the Senate

5. More of My Story Here

The Young Massie Advocates' Early Home

This humble home was filled with dedication and action, while the young parents used every ounce of intellect and initiative to explore and implement much of the latest findings regarding the management of hemophilia.

They located and obtained the services of physicians whose dedication matched their own. One doctor was himself the father of two sons living with the condition. Their stories of those practitioners also encouraged me to pursue my journey of advocacy.

My University Home During the Beginning of my Advocacy

My 2-bedroom studio sat just a block from the university Art Department and my painting studio. It was to this small home that I returned following each week of advocacy in the medical center, 100 miles to the West, where my son remained hospitalized, or in a treatment program in the urban region.(6)

My Comprehensive Website With My Blog & Early Art

6. Blog & Support Groups

Help Me Thank Robert Massie & Suzanne Massie For Sharing Their Story of Advocacy

My wish has long been to meet my models for advocacy for their child living with huge medical challenges, as an expression of my gratitude.

I met them through their writing. Their words moved me to awe, when I was a young mother. They moved me to action when my oldest child was 21-years old, and a university senior with only two quarters remaining, and he suffered a TBI.

Without their model of instant activation I may have let the winds merely carry me along and given my son's care to others.

Say Thanks to The Massies - on behalf of mothers of children with special needs

Please Thank God for Robert and Suzanne Massie's book Journey.

I am ready and willing to say the prayer of thanks for these two parents' modeling of advocacy for a child with special needs.

I am ready and willing to say the prayer of thanks for these two parents' modeling of advocacy for a child with special needs.

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          RinchenChodron 4 years ago

          You are a talented writer and I admire your advocacy work.

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          Margaret Schindel 4 years ago from Massachusetts

          What a wonderful and personal account of the power and importance of this book and its message! Blessed.

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          Wonderful lens. Very informative.

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          Keepingscore 4 years ago

          You have an incredible range of lenses, it's hard to guess what you might create next. Every click is a walk on the wild side, fascinating.

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          Vikki 4 years ago from US

          Really beautiful....as is all your work!

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          LouisaDembul 4 years ago

          Wonderful lens, what a journey!

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          neotony 4 years ago

          very moving lens. thank you!

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          WriterJanis2 4 years ago

          This seems like a very powerful book.

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