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Names Will Never Hurt Me

Updated on May 20, 2017
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Sticks And Stones

There was an old childhood riddle, called sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me. Do you remember that? I sure do and now that I am older and wiser I know that riddle is far from the truth.

Bones heal but names sometimes never heal, especially when you are a child and others ridicule you and make fun of you. If that child never had a good self image to begin with you can only imagine what damage it can do to a kids mind and their emotions when they are put down by our words.

Bones may not get broken by the sticks and stones and if they did, it will in time heal , but with words hearts can be broken and may never heal depending on the person. Words can be devastating. Words can wound; words can also kill. You know that reputations and relationships have been destroyed by words.

What about the stories you read about. The Columbine shooting that happened in Colorado, why was it said that those boys went on a rampage? Part of it was because they were out for revenge to get back at all the ones that spoke words that were damaging. I am not saying that this was the main cause of it but it sure added to it. Words do hurt! We are seeing more and more of it happening.

Proverbs 18:21

The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.


Lasting Damage

Hurtful Words

Although it is sometimes hard to do, we are called to leave our past behind us. But unfortunately many of us find that easier said then done. We all have a file cabinet in our mind that is kept there.

When we have been judged, treated cruelly, and hateful mean words that are said to us often enough, that is abuse at its worse. Then we go to that file and pull out those hurtful words that can leave long lasting emotional pain. No matter how hard we try to forget sometimes those words stay with us forever.

Emotional damage to a child can cause lasting damage if we don't find a way to heal. Being called a loser, sissy, stupid, ugly, fatso, fag etc. even by parents who are supposed to build their child up and of course by kids that don't realize the hurt they are doing to someone else.

It starts with one word when we're young, but as we grow, the hurtful sentiments become phrases and even paragraphs. If we don't find a way to heal, they can cause lasting, permanent damage.

Reflection Of Our Souls - So Many Bitter people

Many people out there are so bitter and angry, that they just need an excuse to strike out at anybody. I had one woman wanting to pull me out of my car and beat me up because I was annoyed that she was walking in the middle of the street and wouldn't let me pass by. She called me every name in the book. In other words I was a hoe a slut you name it, I was all that. I asked her why she was so angry?

The tongue only speaks what comes from the heart. Their words are a reflection of their souls.

James 3:5

Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.

There are so many angry bitter, people full of resentment, they are unhappy and they want you to be miserable as they are. They need to be healed. Also honesty is the best policy but not an excuse to be hurtful or rude.

When will people realize that we have to put an end to bullying? What will it take? More lifes? - Wake up people

Broken Spirit - Hurtful Words

A broken spirit is much harder to heal than a broken bone. So many of us carry these invisible scars that bring us untold pain.

Even strong people will often collapse under the continual verbal attack of someone who really wants to wound them.

Proverbs 11:9 says, "The hypocrite with his mouth destroys a neighbor."

Proverbs 12:18 reminds us, "Reckless words pierce like a sword..."

Often people who put another person down is because they want the control. Example: ( a lot of the bullying that children face in school and else where.)

When a person is confronted for their inappropriate actions, and not allowed to remain in control, they get even nastier.

If someone continues to treat us with cruelty and disrespect, it is time to consider distancing ourselves from them. They are detrimental to our self-esteem, and quite frankly, we just don't need those kind of people in our lives.

It's important for parents to know what is going on in their child's life. If we took the time we can put a stop to something that can be very devastating to our child in the long run.

If I didn't take the time and make surprise visits to my daughter's school I probably wouldn't know half the stuff that was going on and was ignored by the school ( she is special needs).

I really do believe it saved her today from being emotionally disturbed and scarred, If it continued. Now she is kind and only speaks kind words to others. I just thank God that she wasn't damaged. As so many are today.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. Lets think again and see how false that statement is.

Think Twice

Is Always Best

James 3:5

Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.

Please think twice before you say anything to someone that may be hurtful. There are to many broken spirited people out there as it is. Don't you think that it is about time that we really try hard to build another person up instead of putting them down? That same person may of been already damaged by all the hurtful remarks as it is and perhaps that is why they are the way they are because of it. God calls us to love one another and to build each other up. Lets make this world be a better place by letting it start with us.

1 Peter 3:9-11

Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. For, "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it.

Watch your words - If you don't have nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all

Sticks and Stones: A Study of Hurtful Words and Helpful Remedies
Sticks and Stones: A Study of Hurtful Words and Helpful Remedies

This book tells about a person who had to suffer lies that were being told and weren't true at all. Life was awful until one person showed him that if he lived in God's will the truth will come out. Today his faith is stronger and he has forgiving those who lied about him. He has learned life is very fragile and you have to becareful what you say about someone and also when someone says something to you.

 

Put An End To Bullying

Sticks and stones they may break your bones but names do hurt you! - Lets stop bullying and that doesn't mean repaying evil for evil there has to be another way

Bullying and its effects on a child.

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      tonyleather 4 years ago

      Interesting Post!

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      Melissa Miotke 4 years ago from Arizona

      I'm glad that the issue of bullying is becoming more of an issue that people care about. I have two young children you aren't in school yet and I dread hearing of my child being picked on someday.

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      Magda2012 4 years ago

      There are too many bitter people, so we have to be sweet people :)

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      sikiriki 4 years ago

      Words can hurt much more than anything else.

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      Aunt-Mollie 4 years ago

      Unfortunately, bullying isn't just something that happens to kids. Playground bullies grow up to be office bullies and forum bullies.

      However, real coping skills can be learned and there are important resources today for learning these techniques. One discussion I read recently was a study that focused on enlisting the help of the community (whether in school, office, etc.) to refuse to allow the bully to continue bullying. That effort seemed to work quite well in the case study I read.

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      onlybydesignz 4 years ago

      Thank you for your lens.

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      onlybydesignz 4 years ago

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