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Who and What determines Choices in Our Life ?

Updated on November 20, 2013
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Retired from Med profession, published author/ journalist, Researching Alternative Rx drugs & Disorders. Poems ,Quotes on Life

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Life is about choices and decisions, which constitues a learning experience...

The word " choice " is defined as an act or instance of choosing,the right of privilege , power or opportunity to choose an alternative.Selected per your decision..personal preference ,favored or favorite... what are the things that interest us?

Dictionary definition :

The word comes from the French word “chois” or “ choisir” which means, to choose ...

With so many decisions having to be made on a daily basis, which in turn decides our lifestyle and becomes who and what we are I thought perhaps I could get some feedback from others so what is your take on this subject ?

There are many choices we must make in life, most of which will depend on how we were raised, where, and by whom. What type of educational learning and what level of education, these are all contributing factors that come into play when making choices in life.. We make a choice as to where we live, based on our lifestyle.. asking questions such as do we enjoy outside activities ? Changes in season, snow , or tropical sandy beaches ?

There is living in the suburbs ( subdivisions?) ,country, city , apartment/condo..... So many choices it can be overwhelming... The decision as to what career we choose....do we marry ? Have children ? If so how many ? And at what part in our life..20's..before or after we have established our career ?

There are so many facets of life that we have to make choices..even down to what we eat, drink, health issues, do we smoke ? Of course that should be a no brainer..however..that's a personal choice... Even down to simple things like..when you go to the yogurt/ice cream store, again another choice, which can sometimes be 52 flavors with / without toppings? We have allowed society and the media to dictate to us in many ways over the years..how we dress, what we drive, movies / TV ( what we watch/ read)... With all these choices, we have been given, how many of us have been influenced by others, even our families ? So we ask ourselves have I made my own choices in life ? Have I accomplished what I desired ? If I were to start afresh would I do it differently ? What changes of choice would I have made ?

We only live once as “who we are”..so when we complain about how our lives turned out , or the misdirections we took, by the choice we made..these are called consequences..... regardless of our choices, we each made the decision at the time to the best of our abilities, and some were great, and others, we 're still asking ourselves..." What was I thinking ?"

So when you are faced with a choice or have to make a decision weigh the pro's and con's carefully because this is your life and you only get one shot...Make it count. " Quirks" are all around us..they are unpredictable twists and turns, and they are part of Life...

I for one prefer to live with these quirks everyday..to remind me of the ” choices “ I made...

How many give thought before making a decision ?

Do you weigh the consequences ?

I look forward to hearing feedback on your opinions of the challenges perhaps you faced on choices/decisions in life and what if any were the consequences .


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      kjforce 4 years ago from Florida

      DDE..thanks for stoppping by..glad you found the message...and you are welcome...

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Experiences we learn from teach us more about the good in us thanks for this Hub.

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      kjforce 4 years ago from Florida

      Epigramman.. Thank you so much for visiting this " ole hub o' mine "..it relates to my view on 2013..which is take responsibility for ones action,words and choices/decisions and STOP blaming everyone and everything for our shortcomings !!! I write as I try to live..flexible yet strong..and believe me overlooking some of the daily crap that is dropped on me can be overwhrlming at times..but..

      " CHUTZPAH " is my middle name..sometimes I wish my Mom would have made it my first name..it's a yiddish word...I really appreciate your taking notice of my writes and complimentary comments..Weather here is back in the 60-70's..bit of rain..but still dry..new wetsuit on the way..can hardly wait...managing to remove cobwebs from my brain daily..should be back on track soon...enjoy your crisp weather and have a cup of cocoa for me fireside....lol

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      ..I have been thinking about this theory a lot lately in reference to my own personal life and where it may be going in the near future ...... options and choices. It's always good to have them and better to have them than not .

      I love the way you write about life and life experiences and you remind me of a female Andy Rooney or even Erma Bombeck (which is a compliment I would imagine) .....and yes no one writes and thinks like you - you are a major force of literary nature and always such a treat to read ......sending you my warmest wishes from the cold shores of lake erie time 1:54pm from Colin, Tiffy and Gabriel

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      lovedoctor926...thanks for stopping by and glad you liked the hub...

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      There is a lot of truth here. good hub

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      Anjili...I am so glad you enjoyed my write and found it interesting..never have regrets..as you made whatever choice at the time you thought relavent....enjoy the day..

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      Anjili 5 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

      You've given us food for thought here about the choices we keep making, whether right or wrong, lead to consequences. I often regret over bad choices I've made in my life that I can't reverse. Good job. Keep up with it. Quite interesting too. Voted thus and up

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      Kenja..than you for stopping by and commenting...

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      Ken Taub 5 years ago from Long Island, NY

      Good quote above, and thank you for the compliment. best, Ken

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      toknowinfo...Thank you for your comments..I am glad you found it interesting amd though provoking..I always write what I have either experienced or questioned in life and take nothing at face value...understanding no one can always make the perfect choice..It is how they perceive the choice and how they handle it..have a great night..

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      toknowinfo 5 years ago

      This is well done and very thought provoking hub. We learn from the choices we make ... hopefully. No one can make perfect choices, we all do the best we can, based on what information we have, our state of mind, the influence of others, and a myriad of things that play into our decisions. For right now, my choice is to rate your hub up and interesting.

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      Thanks Lot Rillera...good for you stick to your goals and dreams ans you will be rewarded...make your choices/decisions and never look back as shoulda,woulda,coulda....

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      Lot Rillera 5 years ago from Philippines

      choices is what made us to be. I choose life for the better, during college, there are lots of hindrances and trials that came into my life, lots of temptation around me that I almost gave up schooling. but thinking many times, I made the right choice. the choice that brought me to what I am now.

      nice hubs KJF. voted up and interesting !

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      Mhatter99...Thank you for the nice comment on my hub..glad you are free from choices..how did you manage to achieve that ?

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      good article, thank you. I am am free from choices

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      Thank you thelyricwriter for your kind words..deeply appreciate your input....

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      Richard Ricky Hale 5 years ago from West Virginia

      Very useful article KJ. You make great points. I really do believe a lot of it has to do with how we are raised. That is where we learn important lessons at. Some do and others don't. I guess as long as we learn from our mistakes, they are worth something. We never get nowhere making the same mistakes. I know, I did for years and it cost me everything at one point. Very important to know what our choices can bring.

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      snowdrops..thank you for your kind words..I appreciate comments of praise from my hub followers..it's what inspires me...

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      snowdrops 5 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

      Great hub. WE all do have to make a choice, one way or another. they are the ones who guides us to our destinations. whatever choice we will make, we have to stand for it, even if we regret it one day..for in one time, it was all we wanted.

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      spy..you are so right..ahh yes the

      " consequences"....it's how we react/handle them that's important...

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      choices mold our future..every choice we make, there will always be consequences.

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      Au fait..according to your comments, you totally understood where I was coming from,thanks for expanding on the thoughts I appreciate your words..Merci beaucoup !

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      C E Clark 5 years ago from North Texas

      We are all influenced by our environments (the things and people in it) and the experiences we have had in our lives. Sometimes we are presented with limited options. Options not of our choosing, but from which we must choose anyway. Some people like to say in this instance that they are choosing the lesser of two evils. Often times a person is criticized for making a bad choice by people who do not realize the other choices they had were no better, or perhaps worse. Sometimes things do happen over which we have no control and that require a choice among many unpleasant, or undesirable choices.

      This is a very interesting hub.

      Voted you up and interesting!

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      Thank you Raitu Disong....glad you enjoyed...

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      Raitu Disong 5 years ago

      Great article. great hub. Keep writing.

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      kjforce 5 years ago from Florida

      hope you will all read " choices" and the other hubs I have written...be sure to check out my published book.

      ." Whatever...I'm Still Here"

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      GClark 5 years ago

      Thank you..I'm glad you enjoyed it..right you are as far as consequences..we never know just how something will turn out..best to be prepared for better or worse..

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      GClark 5 years ago from United States

      Voted Up on this well thought out article. Boiled down, life is all about the choices we make which all have consequences. The best we can do is be aware of the possible consequences that may occur so we are making an informed choice. GClark

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      lord de cross 5 years ago

      Thank you for your comments..appreciate when hubbers like yourself critique my work..glad you enjoyed it.

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      Choices and options. Some easy, some hard. Above all we depend on our hearts and mind. Free will to push that button the will define our lives. Lots of thoughts to Ponder Kjforce. Great article and glad to see you writing!

      LORD