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3 Valuable Ways to Overcome Grief

Updated on July 9, 2018
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YSSsavvy has always found reasons to start all over again, after facing hardships.

There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.

Stop being gloomy, it's time to shine!

Tragedies are a part of life, somehow somewhere, we all confront bitter situations and various hardships that leave us totally gloomy and stunned. I don't think there's anyone here who's life has always been euphoric. It's never about how difficult the problem is, it's always about our way of dealing with it and the extent of getting affected by it. Once these are resolved, things seem a bit relaxing.Trust me!

Here are three things that'll help you overcome grief somehow, I am not saying that by following these you will totally get rid of bad memories and past melancholic situation, but surely, it will bring some happiness in your life.


Try these out for a difference!! :)

1. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU HAVE

I know it's really difficult to forget the bad stuff you're going through, but it actually works if you do it whole heartedly. I have been through bad times too and this therapy has always worked for me. When you lose something, unintentionally you give all your attention to the thing you lost. Be it a pet, closed one, game etc. You lost a closed one, you are gloomy. Well, that's how it is, but what about other people who are there for you? Who are willing to get your attention? Be happy that you didn't lose them. You still have got people to care for you. Live your life for them! If you lost a game, it's okay. I know it hurts. But there's no other choice, you can't go in the past and amend things your way. Make that grief your strength and things will change instantly. Don't lose hope, go for it, try again! If not today then may be tomorrow will be your day. Put your trust in God and surely you will succeed.

Well griefs can be of many types but this might work for all.


2. NOT EVERY STORM COMES TO DISRUPT YOU!

Yes, you read that right! Sometimes we are often faced by situations that have no clue, yet they only make us dejected. But what if these situations come for good? We don't know what's good for us (though we pretend that we are Mr/Miss Know it all! lol), only God knows about it. We presume that the person or thing we are attracted to, is the best of all but that's not the case every time. No wonder how some people love to smoke but we all know that it's totally abominable! Always keep one thing in mind, whatever happens is for good. It's God's way of saving you from something dreadful and you don't know about it. Surely, when one thing goes, another good thing replaces it. Always have a firm conjecture that if one door closes, the other doors open. All you have to do is wait for the right time and be patient about it.


3. KICK OUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, THEY'RE THREATENING!

I know it's really hard to get rid out of strenuous scenarios and once we are struck by something devastating, all the negative thoughts take birth in our mind and we often feel like it's the end of the world. Go on for an adrenaline boost and fight with your fears and overcome your grief. Be positive and keep hoping for the best. As the heading says, kick off all the wicked thoughts and replace them with the splendid ones! Apparently, whatever bad you think has a negative impact on your life and stress makes it worse! I'm saying it from my experience, trust me it only aggravates the situation and you will end up in depression. Put in all the efforts you can and keep a positive attitude. This way you'll stay healthy and things will get better.

Wait for your turn, everything will get marvellous like it was. Surely, it's not the end of the world. You will have your day, I reckon.

Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.





Don't stress out, it is dangerous!

Once we are hit by dolefulness, we start stressing about it. This has a really fallacious and bad effect on our lives. Few of the effects are:

1. Insomnia

2. Depression

3. Affected love life

4. Obesity (some people start eating more and get attracted towards foods rich in sugar and salt etc.)

5. Headaches

6. Illness (chronic diseases, viruses like cold etc.)

7. Hair loss

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    • Yusrasumair123 profile imageAUTHOR

      YSSavvy 

      22 months ago from Saudia Arabia

      Totally agree, Mark!

    • Mark Tulin profile image

      Mark Tulin 

      22 months ago from Santa Barbara, California

      Yes, sometimes the storms bring new beginnings.

    • Yusrasumair123 profile imageAUTHOR

      YSSavvy 

      23 months ago from Saudia Arabia

      Thanks for the comment GlenR. Please read the initial paragraphs :)

    • Yusrasumair123 profile imageAUTHOR

      YSSavvy 

      23 months ago from Saudia Arabia

      Exactly! Thanks a lot ;)

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      Ema 

      23 months ago

      These words are so good and impressive.. just wait for your turn ,it takes some time but something best is waiting for you

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      Mutayba Khan 

      23 months ago

      Superb article...these 3 things can definitely help anyone to overcome their grief..thank u for writing such an amazing blog..your words are so magical..

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      GlenR 

      23 months ago from UK

      I'm sorry, but I feel that you have little understanding of deep grief. For example a close friend of mine lost all three of her children in separate, horrendous, circumstances. The first loss forty years ago, the last loss six years ago. She has learned coping strategies but she will never ever get over the loss. Things will never 'be marvellous, like it was', to quote your phrase.

    • Yusrasumair123 profile imageAUTHOR

      YSSavvy 

      23 months ago from Saudia Arabia

      Thankyou for your kind words

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      Khadija 

      23 months ago

      Okay this post made me feel really relaxed! Thank you for writing those soothing words and it showed me a hope like its said every cloud has a silver lining. So yes we plan and Allah too plans but the best of the planners is Allah. So just have firm belief and trust in Him and all will turn out to be good for sure :)

    • Yusrasumair123 profile imageAUTHOR

      YSSavvy 

      23 months ago from Saudia Arabia

      Thanks Finn Liam Cooper!

      A small effort to make people forget their grief, I’d say.

      Hope this makes a difference! :)

    • Yusrasumair123 profile imageAUTHOR

      YSSavvy 

      23 months ago from Saudia Arabia

      Yes Sumair, I know that and you’ve taught me well about it :)

    • Yusrasumair123 profile imageAUTHOR

      YSSavvy 

      23 months ago from Saudia Arabia

      Thanks for appreciating all of you! ☺️

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      Finn 

      23 months ago from Cheyenne

      Some nice words and advice. Good reassuring tone.

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      Mohammad Ovais 

      23 months ago

      Truly an amazing article. Love to read it again and again

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      SumairQureshi 

      23 months ago

      Your words are so powerful,It’s very impressive!

      This "Think about what you have" therapy always works for me.

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      Misbah 

      23 months ago

      Interesting stuff to read . Keep it up and thanks for sharing such a good blog

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      Anum 

      23 months ago

      Woah! Well said

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