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It is in Your Moments of Decision that Your Destiny is Shaped

Updated on December 10, 2018
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The future we desire and want has yet to be shaped.As we often forget the power we possess in our everyday decisions that we make to shape our destiny. The choice we make will create the life we are living currently, so it becomes necessary for us to find out the meaningful answers to crucial questions for being able to make a wise decision. Decision-making requires an open approach that encompasses all aspects, an attitude that looks at every perspective and a broad vision that considers every possibility no matter how big or small it is. In short, there are neither shortcuts nor natural formulas for ethical decision-making.

So what does decision-making mean? When we have to do something, but we are not sure of how, and what to do, we stand at the crossroads of decision-making. The key to making a wise decision is the ability to select the right course of action and ask the right questions. Once we grow into adulthood, everything in your life, business, and personal existence, so when it becomes a matter of our own lives; we need to gather up the courage to take decisions on our own.

"I do believe that one way to have a destiny is to choose one." Melinda McGraw

When we walk on the straight path, it is possible to choose the best decision for us. However, if we place the decision-making process in the hands of others, it becomes the outcome of a wrong decision. Moreover, why put the right of decision-making in the palm of others, after all, for how long can we ask others to guide us through the right decision? Eventually, we have to learn to make decisions by our own selves as life is too long, and we cannot depend on others.

When it becomes a matter of our own lives, we need to gather up the courage to take decisions on our own. However, the big question is how do we shape a life, so it becomes alive and real for us. There are many ways we can shape our destiny, but our first step is to start by knowing what we want from life. Then visualize the life you want and spend much time developing your life’s path.

What to do when the path gets bumpy to make sure you use your power of choices wisely

Throughout our everyday lives, we are faced with countless choices, and those choosing is shaped by the choices we make besides, there may be times when we make decisions that cause our life’s path to be like a series of hills. When we choose or when we are not sure if we want hills, valleys, or the straight path the passageway becomes confusing, unbalance, and very bumpy. After deciding on these, we should stop and examine the choices we made and identified new opportunities that will bring us back to the original path.

People often spend lots of time creating the picture-perfect path for themselves. However, they fail to remember three things. There is no such thing as a perfect path, the road we are creating can become bumpy and very uncomfortable if we make the wrong decision along the way. Third and most important remember you ultimately make the final choice regarding your values and how you balance your life’s path.

The outcomes of bad decisions consist of the following:

  • An individual saying yes when they should say no
  • Making decisions, others think you should make
  • Doing things, you know you should not do
  • Living the life, others want you to live
  • Making decisions so, other people are pleased with you
  • Doing things that you know you should not
  • Having to learn lessons the unnecessary way
  • Wasting money, financially lost
  • What kind of lives, we should have

It is of pivotal importance that we keep a keen insight into right decision making in each choice we make. There are several aspects of our day to day lives where we need to select the best among various choices. What we want to be as an adult, a doctor, an engineer, a designer or a writer? What have we to study in school, science or arts? Which types of clothes are suitable for us, considering the society we live in, besides the fashion and glamour?

Is it right for us to be single or having a family will be better for us? What type of life partner, should we have? Is it okay to be in business or to work a job? Whether it is good to be an employee or an employer? What is the best choice in renting an apartment, getting a house on a mortgage or purchasing our own home on full payment? What should we eat for lunch? Whatever we choose it ultimately determines how we live and what kind of lives we should have.

To understand the effects of a decision, whether it's a wrong decision or good one, it is important first to determine what we mean by bad choices. An adverse decision can be established as one in which an individual ignores their sense and choose an alternative they know they should not.

Decisions are the evolving blocks of our everyday lives. Making the right choice requires that a person must think thoroughly before he acts, as it is not a matter of luck or a toss of a coin, it is a question of life. It is the self-mastery of taking control over our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We can be the echo of our past or the glory of our future. Why not let the past go and see a bright future pull you forward? Choose wisely. There are several reasons why a person should think before they act; the main one being that they have to live their life with the consequences of their decisions.

In our lives, we are always being confronted by challenges of diverse kinds, but what matters is the ability to make the right decision at the right time. What is important is to think well before we act so we can avoid costly pitfalls and irreversible mistakes. If we fail to think straight, it might result in a significant irrevocable error, thus leading to a sticky situation that may end up only in regret and pain. Keep it in mind that we can learn from our mistakes just in the case when we honestly admit that we had committed them. As this is the first step of learning.

If we insist on our mistakes or try to defend what we have done is the right action and refuse to admit our faults and errors, we can neither learn from them nor can we have improvement in ourselves as healthy human beings. Which may lead us to more irremediable errors? Mistakes always have consequences. No matter how big or small the mistake itself is; it will eventually lead us to the results that could be of any type. Although not all consequences are harsh, there is always a valuable lesson to be learned from each one of the mistakes.

Mistakes play a crucial role in our lives, and that is how we learn to live and how we survive. It is through errors that we learn and understand the value of growing into an adult.

Remember, while making decisions our approach must include as many perspectives as possible and for every big or small concerned choice. Moreover, there is no magic formula for making the right decisions. Nonetheless, you have to live with the consequences of your choices, so you need to learn from your mistakes and think well before you act.

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