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Child Abuse Survivor, Sarah Burleton Asks, "Why Me?"

Updated on August 23, 2017

A Candid Review of Sarah Burleton's Book, Why Me?

Detest is a strong word to use. It is also an accurate term to use when describing my feelings about the act of child abuse. It's a detestable action bringing about deplorable feelings in the lives of its victims.

Each time I hear of another child abuse victim, I want to curl up in a corner and cry until there are no tears left. The injustice of it all doesn't make sense. Of course, it doesn't help that I have a vivid imagination and can picture each thing that I read about.

If I had to sum up Why Me? in a sentence, it would be this:

A vivid portrayal of the nightmarish reality when living, and dealing, with child abuse.

Come along as I take you on a painful journey into Sarah's home as a child. Of course, this is the reality of other children, too. It still breaks my heart to even think of this subject but it cannot be ignored.

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Sarah Burleton Shares with the World

In her book, Why Me, Sarah Burleton shares what it was like living at home and the abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother. In fact, the first sentence of the book had me hooked; essentially, Sarah had stated that her mother (Nancy) had become pregnant as a teenager and wanted to have an abortion. However, the abortion was not permitted by Nancy's mother and Nancy was forced to raise her child, who would be Sarah.

When reading the book, it's obvious that love was never a feeling Nancy felt toward Sarah. In fact, she always sought to find some fault with Sarah and punish Sarah for crimes she didn't even commit. Below you will read of a few things Sarah had to live with nearly every day.

  1. Beatings were the order of most days. Whether Sarah put a little too much hairspray in her hair or didn't want to eat her oatmeal, she could be punched, kicked or slapped, or all of the above. Tears were not accepted. (Pardon me but this is very difficult for me to imagine enduring.)
  2. Sarah had a favorite goat, Indy, named after the state of Indiana. One day while Sarah was in school, her mother used a BB gun and shot Indy numerous times, even at point blank range. (I can't imagine such cruelty. Even when people kill animals for food, death comes swift and sure.)
  3. Sometimes Sarah would have to be cooped up in a small room writing the same phrase for as long as five hours - with hands cramping and belly growling because she missed the evening meal - until her mother was satisfied that she had learned her lesson.
  4. Hair-pulling was common and, because her mother wouldn't let Sarah wear her hair long, it was especially painful on the scalp. On at least one occasion, Sarah was pulled by hair from one seat of the vehicle into the seat behind and then hauled from the vehicle and left alone.

"Abuse is a degradation

to the human race;

child abuse seems to be

an even bigger monster."

~ Norma Budden ~

Why Me? - a great question asked by every victim of abuse

Some children grow in loving, nurturing homes whereas others suffer the various extremes of abuse in many forms. We may ask ourselves why it is so, just as these children ask, "Why me?"

It's a valid question - a great question. In actuality, no child deserves to be raised in an abusive environment - yet we hear the horror stories too many times.

How do you react when you hear true life accounts of children suffering from abuse at the hands of their parents?

Trying to Be Objective

I'm trying to be objective but it's difficult. I could be; I could come across as a writer who is stating these facts about an abused child and keep my feelings out of it. However, I choose not to because child abuse is a travesty and should never be tolerated. Furthermore, if child abuse survivors stumble upon this page, I don't want them to think I'm unfeeling and exploiting their lives for the sake of telling a story. It's not the case at all.

I detest child abuse. I've stated that earlier but it bears repeating. I could go on to tell you other crimes that were committed against Sarah but, if I had to be honest, I'm not as strong as she is. Perhaps that's why Sarah is the one telling this story and not me - because God knew I would crack beneath all the pressure. I could not have survived; hatred would have festered in my soul. I would have become a statistic because I would have either given up (something I could never imagine doing) or ended up serving time behind bars (something else I couldn't imagine doing.)

Lens of the Day Award ~ March 30, 2011

Today, this lens was the most bragged about lens on Squidoo.

Because of the subject matter, I'm glad. There can

never be too much awareness

placed on child abuse.

My initial reaction was

"Oh, my! Oh, my!"

and then the tears started pouring.

It was an incredible moment.

I e-mailed Sarah afterward to share the great news;

she was overjoyed and happy for me,

whereas, I was happy for her.

We wish every child could feel such

an awesome and

overwhelming sense of pure joy!

Child Abuse

"Child abuse is one of those subjects

which should not

need to be addressed;

these crimes against children

should never have occurred

in the first place."

~ Norma Budden ~

A compelling story of courage despite adversity. A vivid look at the monster called child abuse.

This book has changed the way I look at my children - even other children. Could a child I see on a daily basis be suffering from child abuse while hiding behind a mask when in public? It's a scary thought but I may never know the truth behind the facade in so many cases.

It's powerful. It will make you cry and you will even plunder the depths of hatred - wanting to lash out at abusive parents everywhere. It is a book, however, that I would strongly urge you to read.

Why Me? - Rate the book.

I would like to know your thoughts about Sarah Burleton's book about her life as a child abuse victim. Please share your thoughts about Why Me?

If you haven't read it yet, no problem; you can come back later and share your thoughts. If you have read it, I would like to know the answer to this question:

How has reading this book changed your life?

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Hope Still Shines

No matter how bad today is, tomorrow provides a fresh start.

Child Abuse Victims - Adult survivors, too

If you are reading this lens and are suffering from abuse at home - or anywhere else, by anyone - you've likely heard it said many times that you have to tell someone.

It's a scary step to take, though, isn't it? You would be leaving everything familiar - even an abusive environment - and trading it for the unknown. You fear younger siblings will be be abused in your place - if you leave - and would prefer to spare them from such agony.

You wonder who will take care of your parent/s if you leave. You've made excuses for their behavior over the years and believe the stories you've told yourself - even the stories in which you blame yourself for the abuse afflicted upon you.

I understand why you think these things - why it's easy to believe the lies after a while. I will also tell you something else: though I understand your reluctance to leave what has become home for you - the only place you ever knew what would happen, whether good or bad - you really should seek help because, as bad as the level of abuse is, it can get worse.

Below are a few links to sites where you can find help:

What It Is - by Sarah Burleton

The sequel to Why Me? has been published. You can read more about it here.

What It Is
What It Is

This is the sequel to Sarah's initial book, Why Me?, which details the life of a child living with, and enduring, child abuse. This books takes you into the life of Sarah Burleton after she finally broke free from the clutches of her mother; however, the journey into the future was far from easy.

 


A Child Abuse Victim Asks, "Why Me?" by Norma Budden is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.

If you would like to make additional comments about this lens, this is your chance. Speak out about child abuse and how it makes you feel. Share your experiences or leave a few words for Sarah or general comments about the lens.

Sarah Burleton's "Why Me" Guestbook

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      nifwlseirff 5 years ago

      "Why me?" is a question all survivors ask themselves, often for their entire lives. I know I still do, and it's been more than 20 years since I got myself away from my abuser (father, sexual abuse for 14 years).

      The more awareness is raised about this horrific aspect of society, the better the kids will be for it. Although I still can't bring myself to read books about surviving abuse - I'm still too raw inside.

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      Donnette Davis 5 years ago from South Africa

      Working in the legal environment I deal with many cases of child abuse. Each one has me crying on the inside and very often on the outside. Brilliant lens, thank you. Blessed!

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      kimmanleyort 6 years ago

      Such a worthy lens of all its awards. You have really shown how the SquidLit template should be used. Unique, comprehensive, and personal. Thank you.

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      dvpwli 6 years ago

      @fluffyclouds: I agree with you. This is such an interesting lens..

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      Sharon Stajda 6 years ago from Shelby Township Michigan

      Being an RN I have seen a lot of child abuse cases. I am now retired, and I have to say, the feelings of sadness that accompany those memories just never goes away. I think you did a wonderful job on this lens, and I know it must have caused you grief building it... You did good girl... Shar

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      distancelearningcourses 6 years ago

      Hi Norma, thanks for your effort to writing such an informative lens on Child abuse. I love "WHY ME" by Sarah. I think lot of buyers are buying this book like me, I bought it from AMAZON only. I am sure you would have rewarded LOtD from Squidoo. Here after I will keep visiting this page... keep writing Good Lens.. LOL

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      GetSillyProduct 6 years ago

      A great book for victims and families of victims, thanks for creating a powerful lens

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      Steve-SEO-UK 6 years ago

      I have commented above on not seeking vengeance as you will see, so I shall just say that you have created a wonderful Lens to bring this information into the public eye. Brilliant and a well deserved LOTD.

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      nightbear lm 6 years ago

      wonderful sensitive and very difficult lens. congratulations on LOTD. and Blessed

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      AdriennePetersen 6 years ago

      Congrats on LOTD!

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      macmcrae 6 years ago

      Congratulations on such a powerful lens, a truly deserved LOTD xx

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      miaponzo 6 years ago

      Congrats on the Lens of the Day, and thank you for this lens.

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      QriusI 6 years ago

      abuse comes in many forms. When people tolerate it, they are contributing to the abuse themselves. i've always believed not all people are made to be parents. Or mothers. And I pray for all those children who have to suffer because they have been put in situations other than a loving environment as they grow up.

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      rorymullen lm 6 years ago

      Good job at writing a lens that hits on a topic often shoved under a rug. I will write my own book soon and try to let children understand it is not there fault, and they can always learn from it. We who have been abused needs to break the cycle and teach our children better values.

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      norma-holt 6 years ago

      Great lens and well worthy of LOTD. Congrats Norma, very happy for you and featured this on Squidoo LOTD Lenses.

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      Paul Turner 6 years ago from Birmingham, Al.

      glad to see some good come out of an ugly situation. Congrats on LOTD.

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      Frankie Kangas 6 years ago from California

      I'm back to congratulate you on LOTD. Congrats! Bear hugs, Frankster

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      Kylyssa Shay 6 years ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

      Thank you for tackling this painful topic. I will not be reading "Why Me?" because I'm sure it would be triggering to an abuse survivor. Crazy, isn't it? People who hurt me still have that power over me. Even after the abuser has no physical power over a victim the abuse echoes through a lifetime.

      The abusers also have the power to make their victims accept future abuse. When abused children who grow up thinking there's nothing in the world but their own experience, as adults, they seldom react to new abuse as they should. When I was abused, my child-mind created separate rules for me and for everyone else, rules my subconscious mind still believes in. The main one is this: It's not OK to hurt anyone but it's OK to hurt me. I logically know I do not deserve abuse but, emotionally, I feel that I do. I've accepted a lot of abuse because of it.

      I write about my experiences as a homeless person, including the horrible violence I suffered. It leaves me a trembling wreck every time. I, as yet, cannot write much about my experience with domestic abuse as a child and an adult. Abuse is so much more personal than the random violence or even the pervasive degradation I experienced while homeless.

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      MrWidemouth 6 years ago

      @ayngel boshemia: I agree, education and forgiveness. Cheers!

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      MrWidemouth 6 years ago

      Excellent resource lens. Congratulations, you have represented your cause well.

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      beardedbrian lm 6 years ago

      Congrats! Good to see this subject brought up in a very thoughtful way.

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      BunnyFabulous 6 years ago from Central Florida

      Congratulations on LOTD. Very thoughtful and insightful lens on a tough topic, but one that should be talked about more to help prevent it happening to anyone else.

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      June Campbell 6 years ago from North Vancouver, BC, Canada

      Of course child abuse is horrible, and children need protection. However, I also think that as a society we need to look at ways of supporting parents so the incidents of child abuse may decrease. Congrats on LOTD

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      fluffyclouds 6 years ago

      Very insightful lens!

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      Tony Payne 6 years ago from Southampton, UK

      Child abuse is becoming a big problem these days, but recognising all the different types of abuse is not easy. Congratulations on Lens Of The Day.

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      Ayngel Overson 6 years ago from Crestone, Co

      A lot of people would rather we didn't talk about abuse, but we need to talk about it. To get it out in the open. Education is the only way to overcome abuse...

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      ctavias0ffering1 6 years ago

      I fully understand the effect child abuse has on the victims. It is unforgivable and individuals who abuse children should be locked away, there is no doubt. Unfortuantely it isn't so straightforward as the abused child usually believes it is entirely their fault and therefore will say nothing, putting up a pretence in public that everything is fine. The route to recovery starts with telling someone what has happened and putting the guilt right where it should be, with the abuser.

      I aced the quiz - guess that's first hand knowledge at work.

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      Joan4 6 years ago

      Congratulations on LOTD! What a powerful page you have written!

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      justholidays 6 years ago

      Congratulations on your LOTD.

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      Morganific 6 years ago

      You know, it is really great that there is a social media service like Squidoo. I have noticed the selected Lens of the Day makes us feel more connected to one another. It also educates us on important topics that we all might face or have to overcome in life. Congrats on a great lens and thank you Squidoo.

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      capriliz lm 6 years ago

      Congratulations, Norma!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      An extremely important lens. Great job and congratulations.

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      beckwong 6 years ago

      Congratulations for the LOD! well deserved!

      greats lens! I enjoyed the quiz also:)

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      ChrisDay LM 6 years ago

      Congratulations for the Lens of the Day accolade - well-deserved. Brilliant that it has brought this topic in front of so many, thereby.

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      Eugenia S. Hunt 6 years ago

      Congrats on LOTD! This is a wonderful lens filled with excellent material. Lensrolling it to several of my lenses, such as Child Of My Heart, Vol. One through Four and Foster Teen Parenting. Thank you for sharing!

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      spritequeen lm 6 years ago

      Thank you for raising more awareness of a very sensitive subject. Well done!

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      katiecolette 6 years ago

      Congratulations on LOTD! You certainly addressed a very important topic - well done.

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      lasertek lm 6 years ago

      Great lens! This is a wonderful topic. Thanks for coming up with this.

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      GrowWear 6 years ago

      Congratulations for LOTD for this very passionate review. :)

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Nice Lens. Congrats on LOTD

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      Missmerfaery444 6 years ago

      So glad you got LOTD for this Norma, congratulations!

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      Ruthi 6 years ago

      Congratulations on LOTD! More so, congratulations on bringing a tough topic to the forefront on your lens. I do have to disagree with hugs and smiles between mother and child being a sign the child is in a nurturing environment. My mother and I loved each other deeply; my mother and I hugged and smiled throughout the day; however, my mother abused me and also allowed others to abuse me. Sometimes love is not the strongest factor in relationships, to our dismay.

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      blessedmomto7 6 years ago

      I had never heard of this book. I enjoyed your quiz. Congrats on LOTD!

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      allthingsgreat11 6 years ago

      Congrats on being Lens of the Day. There is never enough information about this topic, thankyou for writing.

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      UKGhostwriter 6 years ago

      Congratulations on LOTD - well deserved

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      tobejim 6 years ago

      Interesting and thought provoking. The topic is certainly important even if you don't always like to hear about it.

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      Renaissance Woman 6 years ago from Colorado

      Congrats on LOTD! I am very happy for you. :-) This topic is incredibly important and I thank you for your focus on it.

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      Anthony Godinho 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Just back to congratulate you on the well-deserved LotD...congrats!

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      MarkFashionista 6 years ago

      Amazing lens, thank you for spreading the word, children should be love not hurt! Congrats on LotD!

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      gravityx9 6 years ago

      lens of the day lead me to your informative lens. CONGRATS

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      Kaafscorner 6 years ago

      Congrats on LOTD and sharing such a sensitive topic.

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      Jennifer P Tanabe 6 years ago from Red Hook, NY

      Congrats on LotD! It's great to see such an important topic recognized.

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      jill1314 6 years ago

      congrats on your great LotD, I feel so heavy in my heart since there are still so many children get abused.

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      howtocurecancer 6 years ago

      Congrats for the hard work and well deserved LoTD!

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      sewwhat1 6 years ago

      First congrats on LOTD! I have never understood how anyone could abuse an innocent child and I never will. It truly sickens me. I pray for those children every day. Thanks for sharing.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      hi LOTD congrats! child abuse is should't be happen because a children is like a "gold" from God to parents keep and love them..this crime just make a "gold" will be taken back.

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      SunnyDaze LM 6 years ago

      Congrats on LOTD. This is a tough topic, but it must be addressed in order to enlighten people that child abuse goes on in more places than we want to imagine. Great job.

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      Delia 6 years ago

      Congratulations on LOTD! I can not bare the thought of child abuse or animals abuse, they go hand in hand...I get so angry when I read stories of abuse, I have to reflect on God because it makes me a person not good in the eyes of God...after all He is in control and He makes the Judgment...this is how I can cope.

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      mich1908 6 years ago

      Child abuse is a serious crime in which everyone needs to be aware of and be pro-active in preventing it.

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      Pete Schultz 6 years ago

      Congrats on the well deserved LOTD.

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      fastdietplan 6 years ago

      Great lens and thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Congratulations on getting LOTD Norma.

      Part of the problem is that society itself frequently turns a blind eye. They know, or suspect something is happening but they say and do nothing. When my daughter was being bullied, those who were closely involved had a very strong suspicion that the bully was being bullied at home. When , during a meeting with my child's teacher and an educational psychologist I mentioned it as something i thought the school should look into I was completely ignored.

      When I was a child growing up in a small nillage, everyone used to look out for the kids and if we misbehaved when we were out playing my parents would soon get to hear about it and the appropriate action (which did not involve smacking) would be taken.

      These days anyone trying that would be told to mind their own business by the parents. Now, because people are scared of the reaction of the parents, people are concerned they will be accused of "interfering" - it is this attitude of Society that allows these children to be abused.

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      Michey LM 6 years ago

      You touch a very sensitive issue, a child is precious and more sensitive then we think.

      I go one step further and say, if we don't have the love for a child, we better stop having children. The kids are rise by parent's love and care, not by schools, towns or any other association. All of them help, but parents remain the essential factor in the life of a child. Congrats for LOTD.

      Regards

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Most deserving of Lens of the Day

      ~ Blessed by a Squidoo Angel ~

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      happynutritionist 6 years ago

      Norma, you have such a big and sensitive heart and know how to put your thoughts and feelings into words so beautifully, even in a most difficult subject as this. I am blessed to have never experienced abuse, and my heart aches thinking what it must be like for those that do. May others be blessed by reading this. A wonderful lens to receive LOTD.

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      Wendy Leanne 6 years ago from Texas

      Great lens and congrats on LOTD. I used to work for CPS as a Case Worker. I'm also a survivor of child abuse at the hands of my mother. I agree with spirituality regarding #1 on your quiz. My mom was great at putting on appearances. She would smile, be polite in public. Kids are resilient and if an abusive parent is having a good moment when out in public, the child will appear absolutely fine. Also, most people would think that a child would want away from an abusive parent, but often times the child is extremely clingy and unnaturally dependent on the abusive parent. This is because their entire world feels unsafe and that abusive parent is the only consistency (even though it's unhealthy consistency) they know. I used to cry hysterically at school for my mom and didn't want to be away from her to go to a friend's house even. The psychological scars of child abuse far outweigh the terrible physical injuries (and those are quite awful). Being abused by the one person in this world that is supposed to care for you is damaging beyond words.

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      irenemaria 6 years ago from Sweden

      Child abuse. The word combination should not excist. there are more children abused than we know. Thanks for a good lens. ps score 100%

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      Lee Hansen 6 years ago from Vermont

      This is such an important issue. This book deserves a high profile; it's wonderful that you've made it so visible and that you earned a Lens of the Day award for this review. If one person is changed or saved from abuse from this lens it is a blessing. If dozens are helped, it is invaluable. Abuse takes many forms, not all of them visible, but each type leaves an indelible mark of some sort on the victim's life.

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      religions7 6 years ago

      Great lens, though I'd have to say that hugs and kisses can't compensate for or rule out child abuse. (re: your quiz) The main way to check whether a child is growing up in a safe environment is to check how it responds to the presence and absence of the parent. The rest can be camouflage.

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      writerkath 6 years ago

      I'm so glad you won LOTD for this. This is a subject that is so important. Sickening, and important. If one young person who is being abused sees this and has the courage to tell someone as a result, you have helped!

      Congratulations, once again on your LOTD!

      :) Kath

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      libysquid lm 6 years ago

      congrats on lens of the day......:)

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      kguru1979 lm 6 years ago

      Very brilliant mind rejuvenating lens...! Good work..!

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      sheriangell 6 years ago

      Congratulations on LotD and bless you for giving this book a voice.

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      LouisaDembul 6 years ago

      The quote above is true- it is very sad this is a subject we need to talk about. But it happens every day and awareness, reading the signs, migh save one child from abuse. We need to keep our eyes open. Congratulations on LOTD.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      You have done great work with this lens, you deserve to be the Lens of the day

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Fantastic work ...the victims do need a voice to speak out on their behalf!

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      YsisHb 6 years ago

      Last night I started reading the "autobiography of a gheisha" whose childhood was lived under the continuous fear of an abominable abuse. I feel so much pain when I learn about such things, but my feelings of compassion are not only about the child, but about the parents too. How have they been treated by their environment when they were little? How lonely are these people, couples, families who have to cope with their miseries without a helping hand? I would not "throw the stone" on them, just shed tears of infinite pain and prayer about all these -and so many other- wounded souls on earth.

      Congratulations on writing about such a delicate subject. I wish that Sarah's story makes people more sensitive to this social problem and more supportive to parents and children who are living it.

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      CynzdaReveur 6 years ago

      Congrats on LoTD! This is a very touching and important issue. A very well-written lens. Thanks for sharing. ;)

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      JeremiahStanghini 6 years ago

      Congrats on the LOTD!

      With Love and Gratitude,

      Jeremiah

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      Debbie 6 years ago from England

      You've managed to cover this sensitive subject with such caring and depth. Congrats on LOTD, you deserve it.

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      Glenn619 6 years ago

      Well done Norma good job with this beautiful lens deserves to be chosen as LOTD

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      Indigo Janson 6 years ago from UK

      Such a difficult issue to write about, but it is because of the courage of survivors such as Sarah and people like you who highlight their stories that awareness has been raised. Well done and congratulations on LOTD. By the way, there is another lens on childhood abuse called Self Worth and the Abused by 24websurf that you might want to add to your collection.

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      writywrite 6 years ago

      Love your lens, well done

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      Vicki 6 years ago from USA

      Congratulations on LOTD! Excellent lens on child abuse awareness and Sarah Burleton's book Why Me?

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      Linda Hoxie 6 years ago from Idaho

      Wonderful lens, congratulations on it being selected for LOTD!

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      Airinka 6 years ago

      I love it!

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      Nancy Carol Brown Hardin 6 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      I just finished a book called, A Child Called "It"by Dave Pelzer, that tracks a little boy's courage to survive. This is an excellent lens.

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      tiff0315 6 years ago

      I feel so sad for victims of abuse and am so inspired by their strength to endure and to share their stories. You are stronger than you think you are. When faced with a trauma, you never know how you will react.

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      Philippians468 6 years ago

      thank you for sharing this lens. i am very moved by it.

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      narintongon 6 years ago

      We absolutely love your blog

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      Anthony Godinho 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Any for of child abuse, be it verbal or physical or mental, is absolutely not acceptable and should be dealt with as soon as possible. Discipline is necessary, but when it turns to abuse, it's unacceptable. This world definitely needs more love, both parents and kids alike. I pray for God's mercy and grace on parents to treat their kids lovingly and for kids to grow in an environment filled with love and respect. Parents and kids really need to spend quality time with each other.

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      AuthorNormaBudden 6 years ago

      @norma-holt: Thanks so much.

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      AuthorNormaBudden 6 years ago

      @bigjoe2121: I understand, totally.

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      norma-holt 6 years ago

      Great capture of the abuse of children. Featured on Child Abuse and Murder.

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      bigjoe2121 6 years ago

      @AuthorNormaBudden: thank you Norma for your explanation. When I was younger, I read a lot of fiction that had plots based on child abuse. I think I was trying to get a handle on what happened to me and how I could deal with it. These days though, I couldn't even dream of it reading something like that. It's too horrible. It's too raw. It's not how I want to spend even one moment of my day.

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      AuthorNormaBudden 6 years ago

      @bigjoe2121: Lisa,

      I don't make it a habit of reading every child abuse book I come across; in all honesty, it would be too painful. Even so, something gripped me from the title of the book - a child asking an innocent question - Why me - and it wouldn't let me go.

      I didn't read it in one sitting; there was no way I could. I read the book because I felt compelled to though I would have, emotionally, preferred to read a fiction story which would give me daydreams instead.

      Nonetheless, on the occasion when I do read books pertaining to child abuse, it makes me even more thankful for the life I have - my family - and grants me the opportunity to pull my children a little closer.

      I agree that not everyone wants to read books which would make them cry or rant and rave at the injustices in the world. I can respect and understand that. However, because Sarah has written part of her story in this book, it just might be a tool God uses to remove some abused children from their homes. Too often, which you are likely aware, abused kids feel like they are alone in the world; a book such as "Why Me" lets them know that they are not and, for some, that may be all it takes to break the cycle of abuse.

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      bigjoe2121 6 years ago

      I grew up in an environment like this. punched for not being able to find a tool in the garage. kicked under the table with steel toe boots for being 'loud' in a restaurant. Molested. Paddled on a bare behind with a wooden paddle with holes drilled in it (and told that that was to block the air cushioning so it hurts more) for god-knows-what. beat to the point of not remembering it at 5 years old. .... I can't remember what that was for either.

      I can imagine what the point of writing a book like this might be (catharsis, not hiding, getting it all out), but why would anyone want to READ it? Can you tell me why you read it?

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I felt horrified reading what child abuse victims have to endure. How can the parents ever brought up to justice and realization? It is easier to punish and abuse a small child because it is vulnerable and physically weaker than parent but it does not mean that the parent can have a free license to do whatever he/she wants. Very touching and I feel sad for the victims.