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The Tools - This Book Really Can Change Your Life!

Updated on October 19, 2013

Finally, a "Self Help" book that actually contains actual steps to changing the way you think and act!

I've never been one for self help books, but I have read a lot of books on spiritual development and spent the past few years working on my state of awareness. There is a lot of stuff out there on why we need to change to live a more peaceful, loving, productive life, free from fear, and lots of stuff about doing it, but this book is different because it doesn't just discuss how to move forward through our fears and grievances, and into a state of peace and love where we can be our true selves and actually become who we are meant to be. It actually provides you with action steps - the "tools" of the title - to achieve this. It helps you to move forward, and take action towards achieving the life you want, by removing the blockages you have unconsciously created to prevent this happening. Simple steps, although how difficult they are to do, of course, depends on how willing you are to change.

The book was the brainchild of Phil Stutz, a psychiatrist who believed that therapy focused too much on the causes of clients' problems, and went on to design these techniques, which he has presented in this book with the aid of psychotherapist Barry Michels. They focus on four main problems, which are addressed with four key tools to transform the issues, along with a fifth tool to keep you working on the first four tools. And believe me, it is all too easy to slip back into old habits when you think everything is going great, so that fifth tool is essential for making a change for good.

The tools they discuss are:

1. Reversal of Desire - to deal with pain avoidance, that prevents us from achieving our full potential, moving forward, getting on with our goals and so on. In other words, it teaches you to move through the pain and procrastination to get to where you want to be.

2. Active Love - to deal with the notion that you should be treated fairly by others, and how to cope when others make you angry. In teaches you to let go of the need to get angry or want revenge, and therefore not get lost or hung up on issues that occur.

3. Inner Authority - this one takes the concept of the Jungian shadow and deals with the insecurity we all have inside us, that prevents us from expressing ourselves fully, or achieving our full potential. It teaches us not just to face our shadow, but accept and embrace it, which is key.

4. The Grateful Flow - this deals with negative thinking, both towards others and ourselves. It also teaches us to overcome the notion that thinking negatively will produce negative results.

5. Jeopardy - this final tool teaches us to truly change our lives, by ensuring that we continue to practice the Tools even when we think we don't need them anymore.

As I mentioned before, I have read lots of books on spiritual and personal development, and I have gone through lots of concepts and healing. I have done shadow work, meditation, awareness training and much more. But this book is different, It cuts through the fluff, doesn't wrap everything up in rainbows, and gets to the point. At times, it is blunt, but in a good way. I love the humour, the bluntness, the unique and quirky way in which each tool helps achieve something so complex, in such a simple way.

I have done the exercises for each of the Tools, and found the results to be so profound that I typed out the key points to look at during my morning meditation and "me time" in order to focus on the needed "tool" for the day ahead. I'm still working on my procrastination issues, which needs some more work on the reversal of desire, but in other areas, I have blossomed. If you want a spiritually based but accessible to all book that cuts to the chase and really will make a difference right away, then you will love this book.

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      Shinichi Mine 3 years ago from Tokyo, Japan

      This is the book I need right now. I like what is says about how psychiatrists focus too much on past issues. It's so true.

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      RoadMonkey 3 years ago

      Interesting sounding book. Sounds like the kind of book I like and useful review - thanks.

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      sweetmou25 3 years ago

      Very interesting and encouraging book.

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      Sandy Mertens 3 years ago from Frozen Tundra

      This is what I need.

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      smarterdigital 3 years ago

      I'm 'reading' it now (well, an audiobook on Audible...)

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      marley101 lm 3 years ago

      Realy nice review!

      Sounds like a wonderful book :D

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      Elyn MacInnis 3 years ago from Shanghai, China

      Sounds like a great book.

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      Roger Hackney 3 years ago from Arizona

      Although I have not read this book, Like you I read tons of books about improving who I am. One of my favorites is "Switch - How to change things when change is hard" by by Chip and Dan Heath. It also spells out how to make a "Switch" from bad to good habits using a very visual Elephant & Rider analogy where the Rider is our logical mind and the elephant is our emotions. I also read from a lot of different angles (that is) I read improvement books from Psychiatrists, Buddhists, Christian Counselors, etc. I find it interesting that you say this book was written by a Psychologist but later you mention spirituality. I find that interesting because medical (science) based behavior books don't usually delve into "spirituality" per-say. It's also interesting that the areas of focus you mention in the book sound very similar to what Buddhist philosophy focuses on. I will have to look more at what Amazon and others have commented on the book, it sounds "interesting". Thanks!

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      Missmerfaery444 3 years ago

      @LiteraryMind: It really does. I suffer terribly from procrastination and avoiding doing certain things, but this really helps me to overcome it.

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      Ellen Gregory 3 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      I keep reading the concept above of "Reversal of Desire" -- sounds as if it would result in a productive outcome.

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      SteveKaye 3 years ago

      I came back to take another look.

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      Angela F 3 years ago from Seattle, WA

      Sounds like an outstanding book. Pinned

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      SteveKaye 3 years ago

      Thank you for this wonderful review. I put this book on my wish list.

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      Laura Brown 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I bought this book just yesterday at the bookstore when I was browsing through. Funny to see a review of it so soon after. Now I know what I'm getting myself into. :)

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      Merry Citarella 3 years ago from Oregon's Southern Coast

      It's going on my wish list right now. Great review! Thanks for telling us about it.

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      Rock Artist 3 years ago

      It sounds like a very insightful book, I will have to read it! Thanks

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      Carla Marie 3 years ago from Philippines

      Yes. I will read this book. It sounds beautiful. <3

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      Sundaycoffee 3 years ago

      This certainly seems to be a book worth reading.

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      M. Victor Kilgore 3 years ago

      Great lens...sounds like a must read

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      bobnolley lm 3 years ago

      A great lens on a wonderful book!