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Thoughts Count?

Updated on October 19, 2012

Is the cliche true?

We've all heard the saying "it's the thought that counts" when someone wanted to do something for someone else and it didn't turn out quite as well as they hoped, or they meant to get the person a gift, but didn't get a chance to before the deadline.

This got my insomnia affected brain pondering this phrase that is used, in my opinion, as an excuse way to often for poor planning and/or laziness. So that led my thoughts to wander down a path that is somewhat cheeky, satirical and perhaps a little cynical.

If it's the thought that counts...

My most favorite example is when there is a special occasion and one person for some reason or another says oh I meant to get you this, or I meant to do that, but I ran out of time, but it's the thought that counts right?

Does the thought count when you would absolutely love to smack a coworker upside the head when you feel words aren't working to get them back to the realm of reality isn't working? Not that that thought has ever crossed my mind.

How about when you wish someone great harm does the thought count then? Does it mean you've done the harm if the thought counts?

Does it mean that those who have thought about cheating on their spouses or significant others, but haven't had sex with someone else, have actually cheated? Should the one who had the thought go ahead and actually cheat since the thought is already there?

Or how about the opposite of where the person isn't in a relationship, and they are wanting someone who is in a relationship, and have thought about going the distance, should they just go ahead and make a move on the other person since they've already done it in their mind?

Along the same lines when a partner thinks and treats the other person in the relationship as if they have cheated, then what usually happens is the partner accused usually ends up cheating because it gets to the point where the thoughts of the actual non cheating partner justify cheating, by the thought process of: "well if I'm going to be accused of it, I may as well do it."

Or if you think of being just a friend to someone even if the other person isn't completely receptive to it, does it mean that you are that person's friend just because the thought was there?

I could go on and on about this with other examples of "if it's the thought that counts..." but I don't want to sit here typing ad infinitum, but at this hour my thoughts aren't necessarily completely coherent.

But seriously, does the thought make the above things really count and valid or does there have to be actions accompanying the thoughts as well? These are the things that can occupy my thoughts due to lack of sleep and having A.D.D.

Then there is the cliché of actions speak louder than words, but that's another can of worms all together, that is better left for another time.


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    • LEWMaxwell profile imageAUTHOR

      Leslie Schock 

      6 years ago from Tulsa, Oklahoma

      Thank you for commenting Sammie.

    • sammieham0317 profile image


      6 years ago from East Providence

      I think "it's the thought that counts" is more used because they didn't want to bother to do or get anything or someone REALLY hates what the person did or got them. Either way, I think it's frustrating when people say it. And yes I believe that if someone thinks about cheating on who they are with, then it is just as bad.


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