A House Can't Be a Home With an Unorganized Wife as Its Manager
Are You Living in a House or a Home
I have never known a #woman whose home was like a pigpen who was fulfilled as a wife. Some women hate #homemaking and what a burden it becomes when added to a full time employment. A #house cannot be a home with an #unorganized woman as its manager. You need to be a well-balanced wife with your priority in order to make a house a #home. With this attitude it is extreme difficult for such wives to be #domestic wonders. Whether you are perfectly #organized, hopelessly messy, or somewhere in between can easily be seen in the way your #house looks.
Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary defines a house as a #building made for people to live in, while a home is defined as the place where one lives, especially with one’s #family.
Though, I agree that running a home is not an easy job, especially when you #work. You might find yourself asking why am I the one who is in charge of #laundry, scrubbing floors, the dinner, making #beds, polishing silver, dusting the tops of #furniture, folding #clothes, the #grocery shopping, wiping runny noses, and the kids’ activities? This is not the same for every wife of course. Every couple’s situation is different, which means the division of house chores may be different. Every individual comes into marriage with his/her own preconceived ideas about the duties of a husband and a #wife. There is no right or wrong way to figure who does what. The most important thing is for a #couple to have a mutual understanding of each person’s role as they try to work through the #responsibility of their #household together. Decide what each of you can do to support your marriage and the proper running of your household. Work together, to divide the load as you think #equitable. Both of you have to compromise to give your home a befitting look.
Performing the daily #functions of operating a home can be boring to some #wives. As the weeks turn into years, the #joy of cleaning, #cooking, and doing #laundry for a new husband or baby is lost as a feeling of duty sets in. If left unchecked, this #attitude can soon develop into a sense of #worthlessness for the wife. Homemaking #responsibilities are mainly yours; the sooner they are done the better. Women libbers especially feel that #housekeeping is beneath their #intelligence, even demeaning. Such women overly dependent on convenience #foods and other short cuts which deprive their families of necessary nutrition and care that are essential to health and happiness in the home.
Ralph Lauren said, “When friends enter a home they sense itspersonality and character, the family style of living –these elements make a #house come alive with a sense of identity, a sense of energy, enthusiasm, and #warmth, declaring, this is who we are; this is how we live.”
Eno visited her friend Nsikan and decided to help her clean up her house when she noticed how messy it was. The sight that greeted her was unbelievable. The #kitchen was overflowing with dirty #dishes, the table was cluttered with odds and ends, the #oven was filled with multitude of #pots and pans, and the bags of #garbage lined the walls. Cleaning the kitchen took two hours. Moving to the living room, when she removed the sofa #cushions, she found empty #cigarette packages, overflowing ash trays. The place looked as if it has not been cleaned once that year. There was a pile of dirty #diapers behind the sofa. Polishing the furniture, brushing and #vacuuming took another one hour. If you have a tendency toward this kind of slothfulness, you must bear it in mind that, a home is an expression and extension of your #lifestyle.
Eno in her own home has time for everything. She gets up in the morning, makes the #beds at once, prepares #breakfast, and cleans up the #kitchen. Next she drives the kids to school. Then she checks her schedule to see what’s on the agenda for the day and get to #work. Her #housework is generally finished by noon, leaving the afternoon for any projects she might have lined up.
If your husband is the sole #breadwinner in the #family, you have to take on the major part of managing the home front. Nsikan only cleans her home once in a while when her spirit moves her. She washes clothes when her husband and #children are out of clothes. She is a procrastinator and can’t get going. Most times her home is very messy. She has no system at all for doing her housework, and consequently always feels overburdened. Because of her lack of organization, she’s a nervous wreck.
But as contemporary #women, you have many distortions that can interrupt your daily lives: the telephone, email, the #television, internet, the latest novel or #fashion magazine, a nearby #shopping mall, unexpected guests, others. It is so easy to put scrubbing the #bathroom floor off until tomorrow when a friend calls and wants to meet you for lunch or your choice supermarket is having a sale on children’s wears. Husbands and children like to bring their friends to a home, not a house. And people can tell few minutes after they walk through the door which it is. A house will never be fulfilling to a wife, but a home will be. A home will be a lovely place no matter how grand or how modest it is.
Your #husband will be more effective in his job if he is supported by a well maintained home. Part of your role, is understanding the struggles, your husband may face in a typical day and recognizing that he may be coming home tired and weary. If both of you are employed, you will have to work harder to find a healthy balance between you. Look for solutions to make your life together less #stressful. If possible, pay someone else to do a chore, so that your time and energy can go into activities that you need to do yourself. Keep your home in such a way you want #people to regard you. You should be glittering outside but your home is like a dumping ground.
Being open to help from others can be equally important to your #productivity in your home. Your #mother may be ready to help out with the #children or the housework when her schedule permits. Friends can also be available to serve your family by #babysitting, helping with preparation for a special #dinner, or showing up unexpectedly to mow the yard. Allowing others the joy of giving is not always easy, but it certainly makes a difference to have some help, especially during the hectic times.
Detecting and overcoming #laziness and unnecessary distractions are not the only areas in which wives needed change of attitude about their role as #homemaker. Lack of #vision in the home has caused some, #wives to be discontent and restless and has forced them to battle feelings of uselessness.
Children are going to spill things and have disagreement. Don’t get uptight when these things happen. Many women fight feelings of #depression and frustration when it comes to homemaking. The responsibilities of #cooking, cleaning,# laundry, ironing, shopping, and many other factors of keeping an efficient home can be overwhelming.
A woman’s self-concept revolves to a great extent around her home and family. When our home is orderly, you feel good. You love the smell of disinfected #bathrooms and polished #furniture, yet sometimes you don’t get them on schedule. When the reason is justified, you simply get to it when you can.
Even a naturally messy person can learn to maintain a neat and tidy #environment by following these three steps.
- Remember that adage, “A place for everything, and everything in a place. When you know where a certain item belongs, it’s easier to return it to its rightful place. Don’t leave your #bedroom in the morning until the bed is made. Give your bedrooms a quick going-over every morning and a thorough cleaning at least once a week.
- Designate a time to arrange your living room. Set a specific time each week for dealing with outstanding piles and help yourself by being clutter conscious throughout the week. Give your children jobs to do. They can be a big help, even when small.
- Create a personal game plan for #cleaning the house. You may choose to clean half the house one day and the other half another day. Or maybe you would rather wash regularly, perhaps Mondays and Fridays before and after the weekend, and the #kitchen and the living room on a third. An important aspect of managing the home front is organization.
- Preparing food for your #family to eat can be fun and exciting, or it can be dull and boring. It depends on the woman involved. Be inventive. Try new things.
With renewed vision, a fresh #commitment to organizing your lives more efficiently, and some free time to pursue personal interests, you’ll be better prepared to tackle the #responsibilities of #homemaking with a willing #attitude.