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Finding a Balance

Updated on March 12, 2011

Or, Time Management

I would like to share with you the conflict I find between cleaning my house or interacting on HubPages.

I had a conversation with my besf friend this morning, and part of our conversation touched on 'other things' not getting done because of HubPages.

I realize I have an addictive personalty about a lot of things (not drugs/alcohol, etc) and when I find something I like, it's like the whole world has gone away. My focus is now on my newest interest, or 'addiction' to HubPages. It could also be on anything else, old books, antique stores, fleamarkets, candles, heck, even if a new man catches my attention (which, by the way, hasn't happened in many years, and no, I don't mean to imply I become a 'stalker' LOL). It's just that I allow these 'other' things to interfere with what I SHOULD be doing instead.

Take house cleaning, for example. I've only been on HubPages for about 2 weeks, and my house shows it. What I find myself doing is coming home (after my 2 jobs, so no energy to speak of), put on some coffee, fire up the computer, and here I will sit till bedtime, which can be as little as 30 minutes away. In the morning, I allow myself enough time to feed the kitties, get myself ready for work, and spend a minimum of 30 minutes on here before I have to go. The point being, this is my current fascination and I want to spend what little spare time I have to enjoy it.

All the while, my brain (yes I do have one) tells me, walk past the computer and focus on something that NEEDS attention. But noooooooooo,,,my newest passion always wins out.

So, as I sit here writing, I can hear my rooms (with even more than dust bunnies at this point) calling my name. They are saying uhhh helloooo Trish, are you home? hello? hello? Of course I choose to ignore those voices.

The Search for Answers

I suppose I already know the answer to this dilemma, and that is to first, prioritize. Make a list, write myself notes, ANYTHING to divert my attention to someplace other than the computer. I also realize, that if I make a commitment to take care of things that need taking care of, the rest will fall into place, and I will have that much more valuable free time to spend here, writing to you all!

It would also allow me to remember my children's names, my granddaughter's name, and even encourage me to actually invite a REAL LIVE PERSON to my house,,,gee, what a novel idea! I could have my dear friends visit, interact more with my granddaughter,,,,,wow!

So, I guess this writing was just about me 'venting', and I would welcome other ideas/perspectives on this dilemma I find myself in.

So, please, comment away!! :)





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      trish1048 6 years ago

      Hi Peanutritious,

      Yes, that's exactly what I used to do. While I still love HP, I've lost that excitement about it. I'm not saying I don't enjoy it all, I do. It's just that it is no longer new.

      Glad you could relate and welcome to HubPages :)

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      Tara Carbery 6 years ago from Cheshire, UK

      I know exactly what you mean! I plan to have an early night then have a 'quick' check on hubpages. Before I know it it's 3 or 4 in the morning! I've only been on here 6 weeks so the excitement I get when I have a comment or new follower is wonderful!

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      trish1048 8 years ago

      Hi mpurcell,

      Yes, I think this is a dilemma for a lot of folks. Thanks for commenting and becoming my fan, er, I mean, follower lol.

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      mpurcell10 8 years ago from Arkansas

      Wow! I totally understand. Can't wait to read more.

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      trish1048 9 years ago

      Hi Dineane,

      Interesting,,I never considered a timer. However, I know myself, and if the timer is anything like my alarm clock with a snooze button, guess what I'm choosing? I think 15 minute blocks would make me crazed, I think it would hamper anything being done, cause I'd just be getting into hubbing or cleaning, and bzzz, there goes the buzzer. I think we should start with setting it at LEAST 16 minutes apart LOL,,,,

      Actually, it's been a while since I wrote this hub, and things have improved somewhat, but I still have a ways to go.

      Thanks for stopping by!


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      dineane 9 years ago from North Carolina

      I definitely have the same problem! Using a timer helps, a little, sometimes :-) I try to use alternating 15 minute blocks to do housework and write/read online. I have to start with the housework though...I'm prone to ignore the timer once I get on the computer!

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      trish1048 9 years ago

      LOL Steph,,,,,,somehow I can relate!! LOL

      thanks for stopping by,,


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      Stephanie Hicks 9 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      You hit the nail on the head! Its 5 a.m. where I live and I got up to let the dogs out, oh and better check HubPages, LOL!! Welcome and I love your stuff!

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      marisuewrites 9 years ago from USA

      Oh my-- are we all living in the same house?  You've just described what I've been going thru. haha  sooo funny.  I''m an empty nester and my husband and I are having a hard time filling the hours with "us" instead of the kids.  but, hubpages has really helped.  I love to write and also read what others write...still  energy taps out and my laundry is piling up.  I think i've made.29 cents  so far on adsense sooo   even though I can't yet buy a soft drink...I tell myself I'm making money.  ha  I do feel as though we're making friends...however, probly won't go out to dinner with any of them just cuz we're either hubbing, getting ready to hub, or getting over hubbing...not to mention the distance we all would have to travel..

      ahhh  addictions.  The tie that binds us all.

      eeek   happy hub hub hubbin.  Marisue  ( I guess the laundry can wait til tomorrow, right?  )

      maybe we could create a hub cafe~ and meet at the same time in a hub room...and chow down...what's for dinner?

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      trish1048 9 years ago

      Hello Robie,,,thank you for your comments. So, you're saying there is hope? LOL

      For right now, the beginning stage of my addiction, I am content to sit here and read and write all day. I am guessing there will come my time to wean myself away from it, not totally, but just enough to enjoy other things. Life goes on, circumstances change, but it's nice to know hubpages is here when you feel a need to be alone, yet connect to someone. I see much value in being on here, and so far, the only downside for me is, as I wrote, not much else but the necessities are getting done.

      Thanks again for writing!


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      trish1048 9 years ago

      Dear Anne,,,,thank you, I love you too!

      Isn't being grown-up great? I know I love it, but there is the down-side, when I find myself wishing I was a kid again with no responsibilities LOL,,,let someone else clean up this mess, buy me stuff, take me shopping, go to work for me,,,the list goes on and on.

      I'm so glad I bothered to check out HubPages. It's a lot of fun. Oh, and hey, I just made fresh coffee, and took the garbage out! Progress, huh? :)


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      Roberta Kyle 9 years ago from Central New Jersey

      Ahhh Trish--I totally identify with your hubaddiction but I am here to tell you there is hope. I've been on hubpages for three months and for the first six weeks or so was in exactly your state, except that I only work very part time so I had even more opportunity to obsess over Hubpages than you do. The intensity has started to wear off now,for which I am grateful....I've kind of slowed down and am getting back to a balanced life.I actrually started to get a little bored with hubbing, which in my case is a good thing. These days I am actually answering the phone, seeing friends and family and I eventually did clean up my house. Happy hubbing and thanks for a great read.

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      annemaeve 9 years ago from Philly Burbs

      Trish, I love you. And I hear you, loud and clear! Thanks to HubPages, I have a new ritual. Every night, I move my clean, unfolded mountain of laundry from my desk onto my bed to have an hour of hub-time before bed, then move the mountain from my bed back to my desk so I can sleep. The next morning, I move the pile again so I can check on hubs before work. All this time, I'm weaving my way through tufts of cat- and dog-hair (ah, spring), shoes, and the printer paper that keeps flying around in the breeze from the open window.

      It's a sad, sad state of affairs, but I'm happy in my hub-bubble!

      Here's to many more hours of doing exactly what we want, when we want to do it. I love being a grownup.