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How to Obtain True Beauty...

Updated on January 1, 2011

Beauty vs Pretty:

Ok. Before we begin on our quest to obtain true beauty, it is important that we first understand what beauty really is. Although the terms beauty and pretty are often used interchangeable, the truth is that the terms aren’t necessarily synonyms for each other. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines beauty as the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit. Pretty, on the other hand, is defined as being artful, clever, having conventionally accepted elements of beauty, easy to enjoy and appearing or sounding pleasant or nice but lacking strength, force, manliness, purpose, or intensity. Now with the exception of the manliness part, judging by these two somewhat contrasting definitions it is easy to see why one would prefer to be beautiful rather than just pretty.

The common phrase that women hear all the time is that beauty is only skin deep. This is a great self-esteem booster that has been used for women throughout the ages who are thought of as not being “pretty”. However, it is the wrong self-esteem booster. Rather than telling ourselves that beauty is only skin deep we should embrace the fact that we are not pretty. We have more to us than the “conventionally accepted elements of beauty”, we do not lack “strength, force, purpose or intensity”. We do have qualities about ourselves that give pleasure to the senses (and more than just that of sight) and we do exalt the mind and spirit of those around us. Forget what you have been told ladies, beauty is not only skin deep. It is much deeper than what is seen on the surface and WE ARE BEAUTIFUL!

Is beauty really just skin deep?

Taken this new concept of what beauty really means let’s think on it for a moment and apply it to real life. Another common phrase that we hear is the beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Hmm… well, if you think about it every person has their own personal taste. Some people like thin women and some people like a girl with a little meat on her bones. Some people prefer dark skin, light skin, brown hair, red hair the options are endless. So yes, preference is definitely left up to the beholder of the person but beauty is not.

For instance, think about some beautiful people you may know. Consider some celebrities for a moment. Beyonce, Heidi Klum, Halle Berry, all of whom are very pretty women and are known for being so. I don’t personally know these women and only get a glimpse of who they really are through TV and magazines. I believe that they are beautiful women, but if one of them did something offensive or immoral we stop thinking of them as beautiful. We would start to see them in a different light. Their faces would not change but our perception of them would change and they would lose their beauty.

 We all know someone who is just gorgeous but we can’t seem to stand the ground the walk on. We don’t think of these women as beautiful. More often than not we find ourselves saying, “she would be pretty if”.  Oh, she is pretty and she knows and you know it but you can’t see her physical gifts for lack of spiritual substance. No, beauty is not just skin deep.

You are matter what they say...

Now that we have discovered what true beauty is, it should be easy enough for all of us to obtain. It doesn’t matter what type of make-up you buy, what clothes you wear or what color your hair is. It doesn’t matter what race you are, how much you weigh or the shape of your nose. It is not about the size of your breast or the width of your hips that makes you beautiful.  By all means, do whatever pleases you in terms of your physical appearance but be aware that beauty is more than what the eye can see. Pretty commands attention but beauty demands respect.

Before you search through fashion magazines for tips and tricks to make yourself “beautiful”, first search yourself and you might be surprised to find out that you top the hot 100 list already. How do strangers react to you when they first meet you? What do your coworkers say about you?  If they consider you beautiful then honey you’ve got it made!

It’s nothing to be ashamed of if you’re not the pretty girl. One day, we all will age and no amount of plastic surgery is going to change genetics. The nose you correct will show up in your children or grandchildren. The breasts you enhance will only make your daughter feel subconscious about the small ones she inherited from you. Too many things are required to meet the criteria of pretty and too many things can alter it. Pretty fades, there is no doubt about that but beauty is forever.




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      Robert E Smith 

      7 years ago from Rochester, New York

      I believe that beauty comes from within. Why? Because the spirit resides within. Why else would beauty have wanted the beast? She saw something within the person. How many times have we know the most outwardly beautiful person that had an ugly personality and spirit to go with it. Many outwardly beautiful people are cruel, inhumane and racist. Many outwardly unpretty and downright ugly on the outside are so irresistably attractive that despite what anyone says they are always in our hearts and on our minds. You dearie, have the best of both worlds and our Lord must have been thinking of your hubby and he must have done something very nice to be handed a helpmate like you. (Just an outsider's objective viewpoint) Bob.

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      Amy RedCloud 

      7 years ago from USA

      Thank you,Kim!

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      Kim Lynn 

      7 years ago

      Lots of truth in what you wrote.




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