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The Positive Side Of Negativity. Surviving For Others To Help You Heal.

Updated on February 6, 2012

Sunday, February 5, 2012

I hope this Hub will not be considered too personal to be printed because if it is I will delete it.

Life is not to difficult to live with all my health problems because I truly believe that my faith in God has given me more time on this earth.

All I ask is that my Lord in Heaven give me enough time to be creative, and to empower me with my ability to write. Writing is what I hope will serve my family, and others somehow on this earth.

The first thing I want to say to anyone who reads this hub is that there is no such thing as failure as long as God exists, and your faith exists, and your efforts to accomplish a task exists.

Always keep in mind that no matter how negative you may feel, life is a marvelous wonderful gift from God above so fight for your life, if not for yourself, then for everyone you love, and cherish.

Years ago I drove my body almost into the ground by over working myself to near death. I took too many pain pills so that I could walk, and work, and as a result of making that mistake, I almost destroyed my kidneys. My doctors told me that I killed my kidneys , and I more , or less expected to die. I was not afraid to die. In fact it never concerned me in the slightest fashion because I was accustomed to facing death as a police officer. I was always doing something dangerous anyway , so it did not frighten me in any way , or form.

The only inconvenience of being really sick is not being able to get work done , the way I see it.

I told myself something very important many years ago. No matter how negative you feel from depression, or from and illness, try your best to live your life for the benefit of others even if you have to pretend that your already not in existence.

I can not describe to you what happens to a man when his only child, and only baby daughter can not walk. All I can say is that it wipes you out, but you must remember what I said. Your not in this world only for yourself. You are here to help other souls too.

Tell yourself that your going to survive to still use your creative mind. If all you have is your mind, your still rich, wealthy with some form of hope, and that hope will help you to help the people you love.

No matter how terrible life may feel to you because of sickness, or depression, or because of other factors, I have discovered that if you just do your best with the abilities you possess, even if it is only for the sake of wanting to help people you love, life can become survivable.

What I am saying here may not sound so wonderful, but at least you get to feel a little better until you realize that life is not necessarily the pits. Suppose you want to jump in a lake, but someone else is drowning. What do you do ? Do you drown yourself, or do you try to swim to save the drowning victim. Now suppose you saved the drowning victim, and then you discover your lottery ticket is worth a million dollars. Now how do you feel ?

I guess what I am saying is that someone needs you somewhere in your life, so if your feeling down, and out already, why not stick around , and just pretend that your pain, and sorrow, your broken heart, your illnesses, and everything else that was doing you in, already did you in, but your just hanging around for the good of everyone you once loved, and still love.

It took me a long time to realize that being alive is a wonderful thing because there is the beauty of our green earth in the spring time, and I have come to definitely realize that animals are a wonderful gift from God that help sick people to heal because of their unselfish love they have for humans. How sweet , and wonderful it is to have just one cat, or even just one dog to hug. They like, and love to be hugged. Certain animals love affection, and attention. They can help you to get your mind off of yourself.

One of the secrets to getting well when you feel lousy is by taking your mind off of yourself, and by doing some chore, or task, or by doing something for someone else.

You can get much joy out of doing things to help someone else. Every time I took my wife, and daughter to dinner, I took my mother in law with us too. I also brought along a sweet lady that could not walk well. She was in her nineties , and her feet were all crooked . She used a walker, and we would help her. She looked forward to eating out at a restaurant. No one took the time to take her places, but we took the time, and she took all the time she needed.

So you can get a lot of joy out of life by realizing how much pleasure someone else is getting out of the beauty of life. What may not seem precious to you , will become precious to you when you see how much someone else loves life.

Call it some kind of weird, or strange self therapy if you wish, but there is great joy, and satisfaction in seeing other people happy, or in love, or well fed, that have good homes, good health, good jobs, or good lives.

There is great satisfaction in just love. Love somehow cries away pain , and sorrow from the most terrible of ills that were intended to take you to your end. Love , and beauty can conquer all things if we open our eyes enough to see it.

Your life, and your health becomes better when you begin to appreciate the beauty of life, or by sharing your heart with others.

When our infant baby was born with severe disabilities , many individuals told me that they could never survive such a situation if it happened to them. The fact of the matter is that our daughter Becky can not walk, and we as parents, my wife , and I must see to it that Becky has a good life because she deserves it, and we can give that to her.

I never could afford the feelings of lost hope . The price of giving up would have been selfish, expensive, and costly because I would have been nothing to my child, or my family . You can not afford to stop struggling for your family you love, your country you love, or for our God that is love. You can not walk out on God's gift of life to you.

God Bless Everyone.


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    • stars439 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Dear Mr.s DeBorrah : Thank you for writing dear heart. You have a wonderful way of pointing out how our Lord God helps us in this world, and you know so much about the "Word" , and share it with us from the Bible, and sources of our Lords words. How blessed we are to have you, our Lord's angel, to walk with us when we talk about our challenges in life.

      What a dear, and wonderful gift you possess to be able to share so much of the goodness of our Lord with us. Our father in Heaven saves us in so many ways, and when we forget how that is done, you are here with God to explain so much to us. God Bless You, and all your precious family.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 

      6 years ago

      Stars, This is inspiring and powerful because it is from your heart! There is a Peace that only the Lord can provide that helps you persevere when it appears hopeless. Whenever you reach deep enough and beyond whatever is going on about you the Lord will give you a glimmer of Hope to encourage you and keep you moving forward… When you realize that life is a gift you sincerely try to make the best of every situation! You are able to look beyond how you are feeling and reach out and help someone else!

      As you stated: “There is great satisfaction in just love. Love somehow cries away pain, and sorrow from the most terrible of ills that were intended to take you to your end. Love , and beauty can conquer all things if we open our eyes enough to see it. Your life, and your health becomes better when you begin to appreciate the beauty of life, or by sharing your heart with others.” Amen! This is very insightful! I believe that the Lord honors sincerity! As you freely share He will strengthen you! He will even work the negative things out for good! “ For we know in ALL things GOD works for the GOOD of those who LOVE HIM…” Romans 8

      No one but the Lord truly knows how you feel... He entrusted Becky to you and Joann knowing that you would love her and do all that you could to give her a safe comfortable life! Nothing you do for the Lord goes unnoticed by Him! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

    • stars439 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Dear Mr. Smith : Thank you for visiting, and I pray that you will feel much better. Always remember that you are always loved a hundred million times more than you will ever imagine by people, and angels, and by God in Heaven. God Bless You.

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      Mr. Smith 

      6 years ago from California

      This comes to me at a time when I need it greatly. God is sure wise. Thanks!

    • stars439 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Dear FGual : It is wonderful to hear from you. I hope all has been well in your life. Thank you for your well wishes, and blessing. I am so glad that you feel that animals are uplifting to us when souls feel troubled. I imagine you have probably seen so many beautiful colorful green , or snow white outdoor magnificent places in your travels of work. You are and existing experience, and proof of all the beauty , and marvelous places we could see in our magnificent world. The wonderful way that you describe places enables everyone to realize how much wonderful joy we can recieve by taking time out to take little, or large vacations to enjoy our lives, and earth because you have been everywhere on the most beautiful airplanes. Your life must be a well spring of visions, and beauty from having seen so much of our world.

      You are so right about birds, they are so wonderful, and beautiful, and they can be relaxing, and sweet creatures to see.

      Animals can bring people so much love. As I was typing on my keyboard , my beautiful long haired tan cat Boo jumped on my desk , and went to sleep. He rested his head on my left arm as I typed with my right hand. Animals can make us all feel that we are not alone if, and when we ever feel lonely.

      Thank You for visiting. You are a dear , and wonderful wealth of joy , and pleasure to see. God Bless You My Precious Friend, and Brother. Wishing you, and all your loved ones the joy of God's forever love always.

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      6 years ago from USA

      May God bless you and your family. I too believe animals can heal, they force us out of our troubled thoughts. It's a joy watching birds living on the lake behind me. We need more writers like you.

    • stars439 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Dear prasetio : Thank you so much precious friend for visiting because you inspire me with your goodness. I look upon you as being wonderful because you teach children wonderful knowledge in school as a teacher. Only someone who loves children, loves life, and loves to share knowledge, can be a teacher. You have dedicated your life to goodness, and I am so honored to have you as a friend. I learn many many things from you as so many of us do here on this site. God Bless You for all the good you teach, and share with your knowledge. God Bless You, and your wonderful family.

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      6 years ago from malang-indonesia

      God bless you, my friend. Thanks for share about your story with us and I learn much from you about how we must appreciate our life. I believe that there are many people who love you, especially God will lead your way into the brightness....amen. Very inspiring hub. Rated up!


    • stars439 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Dear Lady Guinevere : Thank you for visiting Dear Heart, and God Bless You.

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      Debra Allen 

      6 years ago from West By God

      Yes I think we go through things to help others. Voted up.


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