We all "select our own" friends, lovers, and spouses.
At some point in time We Made A Decision to say "Yes".
Therefore we do have a large measure of control with regard to whom we become close to. Had we said NO to exchanging contact information then there would have been no love.
Ultimately our lives are the result of the Choices and Decisions (we have made). Knowing this empowers us because we are able to make new decisions to improve out lives.
To believe your life is out of your control can lead one to feel overwhelmed and defeated. All along the way through life WE make CHOICES. There is no escaping this fact.
Love controls people who separate their heart from their mind.
In order to live a balanced life you need both working together.
One man's opinion! :-)