Are gays threatened by gay marriage? – Don’t Get Me Started!
So a lot of people wonder what blogs this blogger reads. Lately, with work and life I've done precious little reading but tonight I typed in one of my fave places for news and interesting points of view at a site "free of an agenda, except that gay one" that's right http://www.qweerty.com/ Love the site (and not just because I wrote a piece for them about a year ago). Well, the "article" that interested me was about a New York Times article in the Sunday edition about gays in their twenties in Boston getting married. While I can certainly understand the point of view from Qweerty asking if gays (or in my opinion, anyone) in their twenties should really be committing themselves to marriage at such an early age dare I say I detected a little something more? Are gays threatened by gay marriage? - Don't Get Me Started!
Though I didn't read the New York Times article, I take the Qweerty boys at their word when they stated the article only interviewed well off white couples. Well, think about it, who else but Sumner and Hampton can afford to get married and then go to their summer house in the Hamptons? Qweerty even went so far as to call these white boys "Stepford Husbands" and seemed to take pride in a classic "I told you so" by talking about one male/male couple who at 26 divorced. Again, I have to say that it's about the age not the same sex.
Somewhere don't you have to feel good about the fact that these boys and girls feel good enough about themselves and have a state that support them marrying? No, instead some of us gays would rather clutch our pearls over the fact that one of these couples didn't even live together before they "tied the knot." Imagine in this day and age gays not being completely stereotypical sluts! I tell you, I for one am completely outraged! (Yes, that was sarcasm, kids)
You see, I'm getting older with every passing moment and the thing that I can tell you is that when I was growing up although I did see gay couples (having done theatre since the age of six) I really never thought about getting married. I just never even thought about that being something that was an option for me. I'm not sitting on the porch knitting a scarf for the winter for my guy of over nineteen years but I'm also not clubbing looking to club a club kid over the head and drag him home for poppers and a pop (if you know what I mean). So where is my shower with the assorted kitchen gadgets and a place setting too expensive for anyone to buy so they settle for the creamer set? (Which let's be honest, no one wants without the place settings)
To be honest I don't want the shoes or the rice (or the bird seed as is politically correct these days). I want all the rights that come with marriage but I don't want to wear matching white tuxedos and link arms to sip champagne. At the same time I want gays of any age to be able to have it all if they want it. Does that make me less gay? Less of a fighter for the cause? I honestly don't know. I guess if someone told me I could only get domestic partner benefits or be able to get into my guy's hospital room (God forbid this scenario should ever happen) I would get married in a heartbeat but why should I have to just to make the gays feel better and piss off the right wing Christians? And yet do I deserve these rights without entering into marriage? I don't know, honestly, I don't know.
What I know is that if I was a woman and tried to get into my guy's hospital room, no one would ask why or roll their eyes or even deny me the right to get into that hospital room. Those are the facts, I'm sorry to say. It doesn't matter to the people who would deny us, the years we've spent or the commitment we've made to one another, it just matters that we're both men to them and that's unacceptable to me. (And should be to everyone) I don't want to piss people off, I just want a little respect for being man enough to be with the same man for so many years and still be in love. Is that so wrong? How many heterosexual couples can say the same? I don't think other gays should thumb their nose at me and the way I've chosen to live my life anymore than I should at the gays who are choosing to stay single and play the field. For me it's about basic rights and respect. And if twenty-somethings want to get married, God bless (yes, that means THE God...yours too) and we forty-something gays should be glad that somewhere, somehow we helped in some way to pave the way for the twenty-something gays to get married (and not be bitches)! Are gays threatened by gay marriage? - Don't Get Me Started!
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