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Ask A Gay Needs To Go Away

Updated on June 24, 2007

Ask A Gay (Stereotype that is) Needs To Go Away! - Don't Get Me Started!

For those of you who don't know, William Sled is a twenty-three year old manager of The Gap in Kentucky who with his best friend Stephanie, have created videos on YouTube, called "Ask A Gay." Well, recently has "picked them up" to do videos for their website. Outzonetv is owned by Bravo so I'm traipsing on dangerous ground considering Bravo gave me the opportunity to be the Ultimate Fan Blogger for season 3 of Project Runway (and would like to be for season 4) and they have listed my site on the blogroll. But I'm sorry; this recent move has just made me crazy. Ask A Gay (Stereotype that is) needs to go away! - Don't Get Me Started!

You see, as with most of these video blogs out now, the people look into their Apple iBook and let the camera roll. Most of these people (Yes, I'm talking to Rosie now too) seem to spend most of their time looking at themselves talking into the camera. I don't have an iBook so I wouldn't know but from looking at some video blogs, it appears as if they can see themselves. It's a little like watching a five year old on Leno who is more enamored by the monitor that they can see themselves in on the stage than in the show that is happening, that they are supposed to be a part of at the same moment. Tell me again about the guy who drowned looking at his own reflection?

The reason this latest move by makes me crazy is that the whole idea of "Ask A Gay" needs to be handled by someone who actually knows something. The videos should really be named, "Ask a Gay Stereotype" as in the video I watched William goes on and on about his devotion for the color pink (okay, didn't get past the first minute) and he and Stephanie were going to bake wedding cakes. There they sat in their veils while William continually played with his hair and looked at his image sucking in his cheeks and pouting doing bad Zoolander looks, while asking if anyone would really want a pink wedding cake. Thank you for once again confirming to the world that gays only come in one variety - pink loving, wedding cake making, veiled, primping, prisses who have about as much depth as the shallow end of a kid's blow up pool.

As I told my twenty-something cousin when he was telling me about how he was helping another cousin of ours come out (Read the blog here...Relatively Speaking My Family Is Full Up With The Gays) "I'm the Gaytriarch in this family and all gayness must go through me!" The point is that I hate to say it but if you're going to be a gay the first thing you should learn is to be yourself, not a stereotype that will garner you attention but in most cases, the wrong kind of attention. No one can make me believe that the image that this kid William is putting out there is his real self and not some made up persona that he thinks is what being gay is all about. He's wrong, dead wrong.

So who is at fault here? While I would love to blame the religious right or the government, I'm afraid that the real enemy is us gays. "The fault, Dear Bravo, is not in our stars, but in ourselves that we are underlings." (From Shakespeare's Julius Caesar, kind of) Bravo and its sister site are full up with the gay executives so you would think that they would have the common decency to want to portray the gays with some sense in their head. Such is not the case. Kudos Bravo for Queer Eye - the show that showed us gays know how to cook, do hair, throw throw pillows and dress people (we're still not sure what Jai did - other than bring in an ethnic into the mix). Or the one to three gays they put on each of their competition shows. (Notice that most are like the twitching and clutching pearls Dave from Top Chef.) Wow, there's something to feel Prideful about, isn't it? Sure there are the Tim Gunn's of Bravo but they are too few and far between.

To those who would label me a "Bitchy Queen" and reserve me a table under the name, "Bitter" table for one, let me say that you are wrong. I'm glad the kid is getting his fifteen minutes, honestly I am but at what cost to the rest of us? Lighthearted entertainment is great (have you read most of my blog entries) but at some point, can't there be some substance represented amongst the fluff? And in some part, if all that is seen is the stereotypical image of gays doesn't it keep us relegated as the court jester of straight society? I don't know about the rest of you but I'm tired of being the monkey with the tin cup dancing every time the straight organ grinder turns on "I Will Survive" - perhaps at some point soon we need to make it our "Last Dance" and I say, let's start with "Ask A Gay." Ask A Gay (Stereotype that is) needs to go away! - Don't Get Me Started!

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      Bill Samuels 8 years ago

      You're not alone in your feelings. This whole idea of gay men being good for nothing but advising women on how to dress and wear their hair is dated and tiresome. Sadly, every community, including ours, has its dumb, superificial people and we are stuck with "dizzy queens" who just don't get it and seem to do everything they can to deny the increddible diversity of the gay male community. If we complain, we're said to be anti-femme or prejudiced against our gay brothers who happen to conform (or help perpetuate?) gay stereotypes. Everybody already knows that their are gay hairdresses and dress makers -- let's see some more diversity in the media!