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If You Have A Cold, Why Are You Hugging Me?

Updated on January 10, 2008

I have become a victim (as I'm sure many have) of the dreaded cold that won't seem to leave my body no matter what I do. It's been going on for a couple of weeks and every time I think it's over, I have yet another snotful day! Please don't email me "cures" as I've done them all and yes, I'm off dairy (which we all know creates more phlegm in your system than Britney has brain cells - not hard at this point on that score). So while I suffer (in mostly silence) I try to be respectful of my fellow human beings by disinfecting everything I touch, covering my mouth when I cough and turning away from someone when I have to sneeze into my Puffs lotioned tissue. These are the basics and everyone should know them, right? Well, they don't. I ran into someone the other day that just had the worst cold imaginable and yet that didn't stop them from coming in for a big old hug. If you have a cold, why are you hugging me? - Don't Get Me Started!

Some scientists say that the cold is passed through hand to hand contact (I've washed my hands until they look like a ranch hand's and no not in a sexy Brokeback Mountain kind of way, just a dry and chafing sort of way). And if you're living with someone with a cold, I will tell you that while you clean everything to try to keep them healthy and you getting better where most people slip up is with the phone. Disinfect the phone - there's your tip of the day. (It's a little like not drinking the water in Mexico and most people screw up by not thinking and using the water to brush their teeth.) However, try as you might you most likely will end up with a cold at some point and all I'm trying to get across here is that you need to have a little common sense and respect for your fellow man (especially if he's all ready sick like me or dare I dream it - healthy!).

The worst part about the recent hug infraction (and believe me when I say that I'm a hugger from way back - love the hugging) is that there is no possible way to avoid it when someone is coming at you. It's a bit like when I wrote the blog, "I'm Gay, You're Gay But I'm Not Okay With You Kissing Me On The Lips!" ) You see, once someone starts in for the hug there's no graceful way for you to avoid it without seeming rude. And for those of us who strive to be a sheer delight to all we meet, being rude just isn't an option. So as the cold ridden person was hugging me and I was desperately trying to at least give a little hug back and not seem like those awful people you hug who don't hug back and it's a bit like hugging a door, I was hugging on the outside but cringing on the inside thinking my cold had just received more fuel for another week!

Lest anyone think I'm a germophobe, I assure you that I am not but isn't it common sense not to go around touching people when you have a cold yourself? And don't start with me that they aren't contagious after the first 48 hours crap because as long as there is still coughing, sneezing and illness in their body, I think they can spread it easier than Velveeta!

So for those people who are healthy out there and for those of us who are desperately trying to get back to that former state, please for the love of God, country and fellow man resist the urge to hug, I'm begging you. If you have a cold, why are you hugging me? - Don't Get Me Started!

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      Angela Harris 9 years ago from Around the USA

      I've got the same dreaded neverending cold. I completely agree with your viewpoint. I used to get so angry when my kids were younger and parents would let their kids attend school or come over to my house with fevers, snotty noses, the whole kit and kaboodle. My kids actually got chickenpox after a neighbor let her kids come over when they had fevers. The pox appeared the very next day.

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      somelikeitscott 9 years ago from Las Vegas


      I'm right with you but careful with that this blog of mine...and be afraid, very afraid!!!

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      Lauren Romano 9 years ago

      I don't understand why people do that- when they have a cold and they insist on hugging you, shaking hands, kiss on the cheek- anything. Unless they plan on compensating me in cold medicine and pain and suffering when I'm stuck with a month long cold. Some people get over a cold in a day, some it takes a month. If I use anymore Purell, I should probably just buy my own company.

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      Jason Menayan 9 years ago from San Francisco

      A good friend of mine has been struggling with that "months-long cold". Of course, the fact that he gets plastered at the bars every night probably isn't helping his immune system!

      I don't mind the hug too much personally but I don't want to shake hands - you know, the sneezing into the hands that happens all too often when you're sick. The sad thing is that most people aren't like Stacie (or they simply forget).

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      Stacie Naczelnik 9 years ago from Seattle

      I can't agree more. I won't even shake hands with people if I even feel like I'm coming down with a cold. I will politely tell them I don't want to shake hands because I have a cold. Most people smile, put their extended hand down, and seem to understand. If they think I'm being rude, oh well--because I try to be as polite about it as possible. Plus, I think I'm being more polite by NOT infecting them with my germs.