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Mistress Confessions Part III: The Blind Celebrity and the Sighted Fool!

Updated on April 1, 2008
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Got Caught? - Keep Your Cool Ladies!

The first rule of thumb is to be cool...and stay cool. If there is one thing that a man does not want to have to deal with in this type of a situation - nor will he ever handle very well - it is a woman who is seemingly incapable of keeping her head when things start to get a little "complicated".

And believe you me - things are bound to become complicated sooner or later. In some cases, they will remain complicated indefinitely. What your lover needs from you is the unyielding assurance of your being able to maintain a cool, calm and collected state of mind, if and when one or more of the following events occur:

  • The "wife" calls your house for the third time

(I say the third time because whether you are aware of it or not, she has undoubtedly already called your number at least twice by the time you actually speak with her.)

  • You and your partner get caught together in public

Never mind the crazy stuff that you see on television where couples are caught on tape in the house or in a hotel room.

It's one thing to get caught by a spouse or partner after you've already been set up by some television network for the sake of good ratings.

It's a whole other thing to get caught by a third party (or rather - a fourth party) like a close family member or God forbid - his brother or sister-in-law.

Juicy Bit:

My friend "Kendra" happened to be dating an extremely well known visually impaired celebrity and was left in a very bad way after being caught at a restaurant with him by his sister-in-law.

Well, here's the catch - he is visually impaired and so therefore never saw his sister-in-law enter the establishment! But she saw him! In the end (and in public no less) the woman did what we used to call a "bum rush" on Kendra and began beating her around about the head and face with the heel of her shoe! Kendra happened to be a fairly small woman and from what I saw of her afterward, I am inclined to believe that this man's sister-in-law might have possibly been a professional wrestler. But it didn't stop there! Kendra came home one day to find the windows of her car broken out and her house completely ransacked. As it turned out, Kendra decided that it would be best for her to relocate and discontinue her relationship with "her man".

My advice to Kendra? Make sure you ask to see photos of a blind man's (or any man's) family the next time around.

A little note to the wise - this type of a situation - the fourth party one - is always liable to be a little bit more volatile. This is because whenever a woman catches her husband in a questionable situation, she will usually give him the benefit of the doubt and a second chance.

In doing so, she is delaying, denying or perhaps even avoiding the painful process of having to make a new set of choices for herself and possibly her family. She is saving face and refraining from having her sense of inadequacy revealed. (Which, by the way is a serious misconception on her part. A man taking a Mistress rarely has anything to do with inadequacies regarding his wife.) - more on that later.

If he already has a reputation for being a "player" and she has caught him on one or more occasions, in which case she may just go all out and act a complete fool. This, in my opinion, would mean that you are dealing with a man who has undoubtedly "done this before" and perhaps enjoys the attention (positive or negative) that he gets from aggravating his wife.

"Stepping out", as it used to be called, may just be his way of making sure that she is still interested in him. But in most cases you will find that although "the wife" may get loud, she won't usually go too far physically, because I promise you that once she gets him alone - she will more than likely give him a second chance.

Now, let me be absolutely clear about one thing - I am by NO MEANS trying to suggest that this kind of an incident couldn't or wouldn't prove to be an extremely volatile and violent situation - regardless as to who catches you.

There are plenty of people out there who have absolutely no regard whatsoever for life and limb and who will not hesitate to clown themselves - him - and you - for the sake of preserving their "honor", "dignity" or - and perhaps this is the most dangerous of them all - their "spiritual beliefs".

And I don't give a damn how much "in love" you think you are with anyone -

DO NOT MESS WITH A PERSON'S SPIRITUAL BELIEFS!

Allow me to provide an example for those of you who are claiming not to "get" what I am trying to say: If you are involved with a man whose wife is a devout Catholic - watch your back!

There are more than a few "Godly" folk who believe that getting divorced, is a much bigger sin in the eyes of God than murdering or maiming the person who they believe to be the reason for the possibility of a divorce in the first place.

Many people, both male and female have met with unexpected, painful and quite often, deadly repercussions in the name of religion.

Remember: Lorena Bobbit?...enough said.

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      sunny82 

      4 years ago

      I love this blog. I am having difficulties trying to figure out how to find the rest of them. There are not any more link to follow. Are there more to blog entries?

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      J D Murrah 

      10 years ago from Refugee from Shoreacres, Texas

      ELFNTRU,

      Once again, your hub is fascinating. The part about not messing with their spirituality was insightful. You insights add a very human and real voice to what can be emotionally toxic situations.

      J D Murrah

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      unfaithfull 

      10 years ago

      I am at the other side... I am the one married who keeps a younger single lover -for almost a year now.

      I have had to hide myself several times in public, gone under tables or hide behind a large menu or newspaper. It is not easy to be always 'on your toes' but it is part of the excitment!

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      ELFNTRU 

      10 years ago from United States

      Hello! Please feel free to comment "anonymously" if you like on any of my Hubs. You can even create yourself an account and become a "secret" fan. Don't worry no one will know who you are - but again feel free to express yourself! In the meantime - Thanks for stopping by! :)

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      Michel Ditlove 

      10 years ago

      How great and refreshing to finally recognize mistresses and hopefully "misters" as NOT being evil creatures hell bent on destroying marriages and families and being as much victims of their own emotions and feelings as their protagonists.

      Thank you and I'll be watching for future articles,

      Michel Ditlove

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