Setting Up a Day of Relaxation
Give Yourself a "Me-Day"
Every now and again each of us needs a day-off. Not only a respite from work, but a day exclusively and all your own - one that doesn't include loved ones, obligations, or daily nuances whatsoever.
In today's super fast-paced world, where we often don't know whether we're coming or going, stress is a normal fact of life. We all suffer from some form of stress and fatigue trying to juggle a career, family, and friends as well as setting aside time for groups/organizations we take part in and the occasional hobby or sideline work. Too often - in all the chaos and "doing and going" - the one person we become the most neglectful of is the Self. We may be stretching ourselves thin to please and help out the boss, our co-workers, our children, our best friend, the dog, and our spouse (not necessarily in that order), never realizing we haven't spend even half a second on tending to our own needs and desires.
That's when it's time to stop and give yourself what I call a "Me-Day"; a completely, utterly seflish day filled with nothing but you, you, you and tending to your every desire and guilty pleasure.
No Time for "Me"
You might feel guilty or selfish about setting aside day to tend to only your own needs and wants, or you may be thinking, "I don't have time to laze about with myself for an entire day!" If either of these thoughts are going through your mind, you - more than the rest of us - need to schedule a "Me-Day".
The truth is, when you run yourself ragged and into the ground and are running on fumes, others suffer as well as yourself. When you are so burnt out that you just aren't capable of giving your all - at home or at work - you should realize that giving yourself a day to relax and recoupe is beneficial for everyone and in no way "selfish". In fact, you owe it to all those that depend on you to be your best - so why not treat yourself? You deserve it, afterall, and when the more relaxed and happier you gets back to the rat race, you'll be better equipped to handle anything that's thrown in your way.
So, What Do I Do?
It's quite likely that you've spent so much of your adult life taking care of others' needs, you don't know how to stop and tend to just your own. What would you do with an entire day all to yourself, you wonder?
The possibilities are endless and will vary according to each person and what relaxes them. For my "Me-Day", I take a day off work, turn off the phone, and spend the entire day doing whatever it is I want - my favorite things that I don't often get to do during the normal course of my hectic life and some little things that need doing.
I may clean up a little around the house; while "work" doesn't seem a relaxing idea, just giving myself the time to accomplish something I've been having to put off can be very theraputic. I might putter around in my garden, or lay in bed half the day going between drowsing and reading a good book. Sometimes I take a candlelit bubble bath and sip white wine in the afternoon.
The sky is the limit! It's your day - do whatever you like or don't do anything at all. The point is to not make plans, to just let the day take you where it may - do what you like, when you like and don't rush or feel there is anything you have to do. It's like giving yourself a day free of worry, appointments, obligations, and work.
The important part is to cut off outside distractions (work, phone, send the family/roommates packing) and not let your mind clutter with "what needs to be done". For one day, just allow yourself to feel free and unfettered - with not a care in the world. Taking one day is not going throw your life into a tailspin; all of the problems and worries will be there when you return the following day, trust me. But for this one day, your "Me-Day", you can find peace and relaxation - try out that yoga DVD you've been wanting to try, go to the library and borrow a few books to go and read in a local park, make a list of things you've always wanted to do and daydream about how you'll accomplish them, keep a journal, write some poetry, plant a tree - do whatever comes to mind, whatever relaxes you. If you want a day to just veg on the couch eating double-dip chocolate ice cream and watching talk shows, do that.
Never feel guilty about giving yourself a little R&R - and remember that tending to your Self makes you more refreshed and better able to take care of others during the normal grind of life.