That's So Gay - Don't Get Me Started!
"That's So Gay" UGH!
So I'm listening to the radio this morning on my way into work and the "morning zoo" DJs are talking about whether or not "guys are down with wearing themed matching costumes with their girlfriends for Halloween." The examples they were giving were like prison matron and prisoner, etc. They asked guys to call in and let them know whether or not they would wear a themed matching costume or not. And so this guy calls in and says that he could be "down" with matching costumes if it was something cool but not if it were something like M&Ms because, "that's so gay" - Don't Get Me Started!
Now I get it, that people are way too sensitive about words on the whole anymore but since we're all going there with the "N" word and the "F" word (another thing I hate, you can read that blog here... http://hubpages.com/hub/Are_Hate_Words_Really_Better_As_A_Single_Letter_in_Quotes ) I was wondering why I was flinching every time this guy (and he repeated it many times talking about different costumes) would say, "that's so gay" and I decided that it was just yet another way that mainstream society shows us gays by their actions that we're something bad, something to be ridiculed or something that is just well, unacceptable. And you know what? I've had it with this kind of crap. The DJs didn't say anything to the guy as they were throwing costumes ideas out to him and he continually voiced his opinion saying certain costumes were "so gay" while others were "acceptable" but when the DJ repeated what the guy had to say about the M&M costumes, he was smart enough not to repeat what the caller said but to say, "that would be bad" instead of "gay." So if the DJ knew enough to not repeat the word "gay" where were his balls to tell the caller not to use the word? Or better yet, where was the producer that screened the call? I guess the message here is that it's okay if the radio personality doesn't say the word but those of us who have any sense know that by NOT saying anything he's condoning the use of the word in this way and the negativity toward homosexuals.
Now I can all ready hear some people reading this, begging me to get the hell off my soap box but honestly, when will enough be enough? It's not like there aren't words out there to describe something you don't like so why do you have to go to the whole gay thing? I'll tell you why, because no one stands up and says it's not right. Well, I'm saying it and I just wish that the radio gang had some conviction of conscious. They seemed to know not to repeat it to keep their jobs. (Thank you Mr. Imus) Yet they did nothing. Now being a Jew as well as a homosexual, I could go into the whole thing about all of the people who did nothing as the holocaust was going on but having just written that last line I don't have to go into a whole thing because by the magical powers of Jewish guilt I made you think about it without having to actually "go there" as they say.
Here's my idea, anyone who is reading this just have the conviction to say something when someone calls someone the "F" word or says, "that's so gay" in a negative connotation. Say something like, "You know what? I don't understand how that makes whatever you're talking about gay? Are you saying gay like it's a bad thing? Because I read this gay guy's blog and it's pretty freakin' great. So grow up and try picking a word that actually says what you mean, can I get you a dictionary or can you come up with one on your own?"
I'm the last person to think I'm the gay Oprah but I do believe (yes, from my recent experience at the dry cleaner...watch that Vblog here... http://hubpages.com/hub/Why_I_Broke_Up_With_My_Dry_Cleaner ) that we all really can do a lot when we each do a little. So go out there and take care of your fellow humans and let them know gay is a good thing, a compliment in fact. It's fabulous. "Fabulous...that's so gay" (in a good way) - Don't Get Me Started!
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