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That's So Gay - Don't Get Me Started!

Updated on September 26, 2007

"That's So Gay" UGH!

So I'm listening to the radio this morning on my way into work and the "morning zoo" DJs are talking about whether or not "guys are down with wearing themed matching costumes with their girlfriends for Halloween." The examples they were giving were like prison matron and prisoner, etc. They asked guys to call in and let them know whether or not they would wear a themed matching costume or not. And so this guy calls in and says that he could be "down" with matching costumes if it was something cool but not if it were something like M&Ms because, "that's so gay" - Don't Get Me Started!

Now I get it, that people are way too sensitive about words on the whole anymore but since we're all going there with the "N" word and the "F" word (another thing I hate, you can read that blog here... ) I was wondering why I was flinching every time this guy (and he repeated it many times talking about different costumes) would say, "that's so gay" and I decided that it was just yet another way that mainstream society shows us gays by their actions that we're something bad, something to be ridiculed or something that is just well, unacceptable. And you know what? I've had it with this kind of crap. The DJs didn't say anything to the guy as they were throwing costumes ideas out to him and he continually voiced his opinion saying certain costumes were "so gay" while others were "acceptable" but when the DJ repeated what the guy had to say about the M&M costumes, he was smart enough not to repeat what the caller said but to say, "that would be bad" instead of "gay." So if the DJ knew enough to not repeat the word "gay" where were his balls to tell the caller not to use the word? Or better yet, where was the producer that screened the call? I guess the message here is that it's okay if the radio personality doesn't say the word but those of us who have any sense know that by NOT saying anything he's condoning the use of the word in this way and the negativity toward homosexuals.

Now I can all ready hear some people reading this, begging me to get the hell off my soap box but honestly, when will enough be enough? It's not like there aren't words out there to describe something you don't like so why do you have to go to the whole gay thing? I'll tell you why, because no one stands up and says it's not right. Well, I'm saying it and I just wish that the radio gang had some conviction of conscious. They seemed to know not to repeat it to keep their jobs. (Thank you Mr. Imus) Yet they did nothing. Now being a Jew as well as a homosexual, I could go into the whole thing about all of the people who did nothing as the holocaust was going on but having just written that last line I don't have to go into a whole thing because by the magical powers of Jewish guilt I made you think about it without having to actually "go there" as they say.

Here's my idea, anyone who is reading this just have the conviction to say something when someone calls someone the "F" word or says, "that's so gay" in a negative connotation. Say something like, "You know what? I don't understand how that makes whatever you're talking about gay? Are you saying gay like it's a bad thing? Because I read this gay guy's blog and it's pretty freakin' great. So grow up and try picking a word that actually says what you mean, can I get you a dictionary or can you come up with one on your own?"

I'm the last person to think I'm the gay Oprah but I do believe (yes, from my recent experience at the dry that Vblog here... ) that we all really can do a lot when we each do a little. So go out there and take care of your fellow humans and let them know gay is a good thing, a compliment in fact. It's fabulous. "Fabulous...that's so gay" (in a good way) - Don't Get Me Started!

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      wsp2469 8 years ago from Alta Loma, Ca

      I enjoy some of your stuff, Scott, but I have to say that we are way too PC these days. Plus, you can't tell someone to get a dictionary since no one had one when the homosexual community took the word "gay" and changed it in the first place.

      I like you, man, but I'm kinda pissed off you guys get a parade of your own just because you admit you "suck". What's with stealing the rainbow,too? Don't get me started!

      Keep writing!

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      Wesley Barras 8 years ago from Anchorage, AK

      Oh boy We live in such as "PC" world now. Let me ask you a question.... What other words or phrases can't I use and who gets to write the book on whats acceptable and whats not. I will continue to say that phrase.

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      somelikeitscott 10 years ago from Las Vegas

      I've a feeling I was a bit sensitive that they say, "Sticks and Stones..." but at the same time, it would be great not to have to listen to this negative crap...especially on the radio. I guess I was just more suprised than anything else.

      Paulie, Sounds like the radio station you're listening to is trying to be part of the "shock jock" generation. I don't know, I've never even gotten the whole Howard Stern phenomenon so I'll be the first one to say, "I don't get it."

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      Isabella Snow 10 years ago

      It's really common in the UK, every English person I know uses this and it always shocks me, as I was told not to use it back in the 80s and they still haven't learned this. Then again, they say "Jap" for Japanese.. which makes me cringe too..

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      Paulie 10 years ago

      I know what you mean. I have A wicked sense of humor and if something is funny..well its just damned funny even if it is at my expense. I listen to an afternoon show (at work I can only get two channels and unless I want to listen to the same 5 songs all day long...) and every day its the same thing over and over and over...and I don't feel angry or insulted - just weary...its boring.

      I know if I called in just to say, I'm not even just make me feel..... tired..I will be disparaged for being too sensitive or too politically correct. And that's not it at all...its just plain B-O-R-I-N-G.

      Its always racial or gay this or that (yesterday's was how funny it is that if a black person drives or walks through one of the host's neigborhood they are constantly stopped and harassed) Today it was black people, Asian people, some Hispanic people, some sort of Middle Eastener, and gay people.

      Today there were a hilarious rendition of Chinese accents and one hilarious question: "What would prefer? Your son to smoke or be gay." Well smoke 5 packs a day and get lung cancer, of course. But god forbid be gay and alive and healthy - better dead than gay I guess.

      Also, another brilliant question: "Did you ever say anything offensive, (but you are so innocent and clueless in the year 2007 where you truly have to be dead to not know anything about race, or color, or religion, or sexual orientation with all the media information out there in every conceivable format or two years old) that you just didn't know it was offensive and some overly sensitve, politically correct boob had the audacity to finally just say ENOUGH or worse, be insulted!

      In this day and age? I am sorry, no one has the excuse of saying well I grew up in a small hamlet where there were no (take your pick) or my parents, uncle Bob, mom, dear old grandmother was a (racist, bigot, idiot take your pick) that I didn't know any better to say (take your pick) or do (take your pick). You did know better and you just wanted to say it out loud to see how far you were going to get away with it. Its all ha, ha...we're just joking and you are an idiot not to get the joke. *wink *wink If you take the bait and call in, you are shouted down and ridiculed for the moron *you* are.

      There is no hole or hamlet on this planet earth that is not accessible and available to see and learn about other people and cultures in this world (and OMG public libraries are still around and free I hear) not to know that when you say and do certain things, its just plain stoopid and offensive and makes you look like an uneducated, uniformed idiot.

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      somelikeitscott 10 years ago from Las Vegas

      I know, I hear it almost every single day myself but today it just seemed more about the fact that the DJs could have said something but chose not to say anything. Just got to me.

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      Jason Menayan 10 years ago from San Francisco

      I'm used to hearing it from kids....and 30+ year old geeks (who often suffer from arrested mental development!). It's popular on South Park, too, whose creators are a couple of mid-30s guys with the mentality of 8 year olds.

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      somelikeitscott 10 years ago from Las Vegas

      I know it's very popular among high school kids (and adults that still act like them). From your comment, you're obviously a great Mom - oh that all parents really took on teaching their kids right from wrong like you. Thanks for reading AND more importantly, for doing your part!

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      Lisa Barger 10 years ago

      Oh, this is THE catchphrase at my son's high school. I keep waiting for the day when my son pops some moron in the nose for using it in front of him.