What can you do if you fall secretly in love with your boss ?
Secretly would imply that your boss doesn't know about your feelings for him. Well, that being the case, you could do one of two things. You could either choose to keep it a secret or you could choose to let him know. Which one you choose depends upon a number of factors. For example, if your boss is a married man, you'd want to think hard about whether you'd really want to share your true feelings with him. Things could get messy!!!! You could potentially destroy a marriage. Would you be comfortable with that? Would that not matter to you much? These are important questions to consider.
If on the other hand, your boss is not a married man, it could get far easier. The consequences would still exist but would be far less than if your boss were a married man. Of course, some people consider dating your boss to be taboo. However, I think it would be taboo only if you let it be taboo. Come to think of it, one could make the argument that its perfectly normal to fall in love with your boss and possibly have a relationship with him. You are, after all, working in the same place and there is bound to be chemistry between the two of you, especially if you are interacting with him on a day-to-day basis and working closely with him.
Of course, the consequences (that I mentioned earlier) do exist and there are certainly some dont's, which I'd list below.
1. Don't ever have sex at work :) I know its the stuff of fantasies, but the consequences are far greater than the rewards. It isn't worth the risk and it could jeopardize your work atmosphere if co-workers find out.
2. Don't act as a couple in the office and more importantly don't discuss personal issues (between the two of you) in the office. You wouldn't want your co-workers to find out about the two of you - it could create real or imagined fears among them of favoritism, partiality, etc.
3. As mentioned in the point above, don't let your co-workers know (just as yet), so don't give in to the urge to gossip to your "close" friends. You never know about those "close" friends. They might also slip up and reveal the "secret" and then it'd be the talk of the office - you wouldn't want that to happen!! So - seal your lips and don't gossip about your relationship with your boss to anyone. If your relationship is going strong, you could always reveal it to them at a later stage.
Dating your boss can be tricky business but I certainly don't believe that it's a complete no-no. Its completely natural for two people to fall in love and if that person happens to be your boss, so what? Dating a boss who is married though is a complete no-no in my opinion. It certainly doesn't seem to be a no-no for many women out there, but it just ain't proper or right - is it?