What’s With The Whole “Normal” Argument When It Comes To Gays Anyway?
I recently posted a video blog asking how much of a big deal we gays should be making over the gays who are being included in the inauguration and new President’s cabinet, etc. (http://hubpages.com/hub/Episode-49--President-Obama--Dont-Ask-Dont-Tell-And-How-Big-A-Deal-Should-We-Gays-Make) My point was that I was thinking that it would be nice if at some point soon we got to the point where we gays didn’t need to bang our drum every time a gay got included in something. I know that we’re not there yet but isn’t it something we would should be looking for in the near future? Well a gentleman posted a comment on that blog that stated “nothing about homosexuality is normal” and it got me to thinking, what’s with the whole “normal” argument when it comes to gays anyway? – Don’t Get Me Started!
It’s easy to pity people like this man at his narrow view of life but what strikes me more and more as I live my life as an openly gay man with a partner of over twenty years is that “normal” doesn’t exist for anyone. What exactly is normal? Oh I know that some are going to say whatever is in the bible is normal but let’s not lose sight of the fact that they had some burning bushes and a host of other things that seem anything but normal. I guess it’s suddenly normal if Jesus did it? Is that the rule? So water into wine is okay if it’s Jesus?
Let’s face it, even the most seemingly normal of people have proven themselves to be anything but normal time and time again. It’s not just when they’re mired in scandal and it’s not always negative. (Even though that’s what we tend to focus on the most.) And I think that’s where the problem comes in (maybe) people feel comforted in some way by seeing people who look like themselves, sound like themselves and can reason in their head that they actually are the same and “normal” because there are enough people who look and think like them. Let’s face it, that’s why we arrogant Americans can go to other countries and get all kinds of pissed off that no one speaks English, even though we’re in France where English isn’t the language, right?
Truth be told, when someone tells me that I’m not normal it doesn’t really bother me that much. It’s when they use their definition of “normal” to cut me out of my rights as an American or human being that it makes me absolutely crazy. And the whole “normal” argument just simply doesn’t hold up, anyway. There is no such thing as normal really but if some straight people make the argument that only heterosexuality is normal then I’m afraid they’ll have to take their straightness genital warts, teenage pregnancy and all. And just why is the heterosexual definition of normal more normal than a homosexual’s definition of normal?
Ever since I was a small child I knew I was gay, it felt completely normal to me. I grew up with the same neurosis as any other kid and thanks to Facebook, I have now had my feelings of inadequacy and desperately trying to be liked actually confirmed by many more whom I went to high school with in the 1980’s. That’s right, my teenage angst actually was quite normal in comparison to both my straight and gay counterparts from what I’m finding out years later. So okay, if I was “normal” as a kid and “normal” as a teenager, when did the “un-normal” begin? Quite simply it didn’t.
What I’ve discovered is that I reject the “normal” label as much as the people who don’t want me to have it feel I don’t deserve to have it. Do you know why? Because I’m anything but normal, I’m extraordinary. That’s right. I don’t want to be normal, I want to be the same loving, caring individual my straight parents raised me to be all the while loving the same man I’ve been with for the past twenty years and always allowing myself to be open to people and cultures different than my own. To not judge those different from me lest they judge me (ouch, is that bible talk out of the non-normal gay)? So go ahead and wear that “normal” label like a Boy Scout badge (that won’t let the gays in) but what those of you who fail and are afraid to understand is that like the Boy Scouts (who still have plenty of gays in their ranks – I mean come on, look at any of the Eagle Scout notices in the paper and as I’ve said before you can play, “Nerd, Nerd, Gay” just like you would “Duck, Duck, Goose”) it’s like my grandmother said, “The gays, they’re everywhere.” And indeed we are everywhere and thanks to legislation (in some cases) the more we gain our rights the more normal we’re going to become but make no mistake about it someday soon we’re going to talk about this all in the past and ask what’s with the whole “normal” argument when it came to gays anyway? – Don’t Get Me Started!
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