Who Are These People Who Makes "Scenes" In Restaurants?
Does Anyone Really Need To Make A Scene In Public? - Don't Get Me Started!
I can't help it, I keep thinking about the woman I saw in the restaurant the other night that caused a huge scene. The recap is that she was middle aged and having dinner with two men. One seemed to be her husband and the other related somehow. Apparently when they asked for chicken marsala, the waiter had told them that they didn't have it but that perhaps they would like another chicken selection on the menu that was similar to marsala. Long story short, they didn't like anything about it and although it was one of the men at the table that ordered the dish, it was this woman at the table that went off. And so I wonder, does anyone really need to make a scene in public? - Don't Get Me Started!
I'm not going to lie and say that I'm the most patient person in the world, I'm far from it in fact but I can honestly say that I have never caused a scene in public. I just don't get what there is to get out of the whole endeavor. I mean, maybe yelling at a waiter makes some people feel better but not me. The thing here is that when they called the waiter over and she started her rant, the staff at the restaurant did exactly what they should, they listened to her rant, then asked her what they could do to correct it and then quickly brought them another entrée. I never saw a bill presented to the table and while I'm not thinking the entire meal was comped, I'm sure that at least one of the meals had to have been and yet as if the scene she caused at the table (in an otherwise quiet restaurant wasn't enough as they left, the two men exited the restaurant and she stayed behind to continue to yell at what must have been a manager. She went off all over again, even after completely emptying their plates and no doubt having been compensated with a free meal or meals.
So I have to ask myself what could she possibly have gotten out of all of this ridiculous display for all to see? Okay, maybe she was angry when it first happened (albeit an irrational reaction in my opinion for such a minor offense) but she calmed down long enough to eat everything on her plate. Was it just that she had depleted all her energy screaming the first time and only after stuffing her gullet with pasta did she gain enough energy to go back for round two of the screaming and yelling? And what of the two men that were with her? They sat there not saying a word at the table and when she went after the manager they were outside the restaurant down several hundred feet away from the restaurant waiting for her. I don't know about you but only a few times have I been with people who went kind of "off" and in those couple of cases, I always tried to talk the person I was with down from the edge that they had climbed out on. I would be embarrassed to sit there and just listen to my mate or friend going seemingly insane, screaming in a restaurant or someplace without trying to calm them down or saying something. But maybe these men had been through this many times with her and were used to it. I don't think I could ever get used to it and I think if this was the case (that she did this all the time), I think that I would not go out in public with her anymore.
There is a type of person who relishes sending their food back, causing scenes in public and trying to tear other people down. And doesn't it always seem the people that try to diminish other people are the ones who have such low self-esteem themselves? No doubt that was the case with this woman, in her gold lame jeans (she was stuffed into), the floral top (that made her look like a slip cover for lawn furniture) and her crowing glory, her stereotypical mall chick hair circa 1981 poofed and sprayed to what I'm sure felt was perfection. Then again, maybe she needed this scene to feel important, to feel smarter than. I just think you always make a mistake when the only way to feel better about yourself is by tearing someone else down.
Don't get me wrong, anyone who has ever read my blogs knows just how much I adore making fun of other people (and myself). But I'm not trying to be vicious (okay, well not always) and as I think it was Kathy Griffin that said, "I was brought up right; I was raised to talk about people behind their backs, not to their faces." Honestly I just don't get what's to be gained by the whole thing for anyone involved. Sure there have been times I've wanted to scream at the top of my lungs but does screaming ever make a difference? And can you get away with it while still maintaining your self-respect? In situations when I get really angry I tend to lower my voice (sounding almost like a someone reading a clinical medical manual for the blind or something). I make strong eye contact, I lower my voice and my words come out very deliberately so that there is never a chance that the person I'm talking to won't get just how pissed off I truly am. It's never failed me and never caused a scene. So again I ask, does anyone really need to make a scene in public? - Don't Get Me Started!
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