open adoption has really opened myy eyes to how many people are good and deserving. but we fought with our selves for months because as parents you rnatural instinct is to keep ypur child. what you have to consider is every aspect. "where are we gonna live, work, will it be enough,where will we be in 3,5,10 years". during the whole thing you must think of your child and what it will be like on them. its hard to say which decession is the best either way you need to look at all the options in both areas. meet with many families in the begging in diffrent adoption agencies, and if your heart is really in keepin it make sure you have a plan and support because there the two things you need for your child.