Men and women approach problems and issues in a very different way and this often leads to confusion, misunderstanding and hurt feelings or frustrations.
When a problem or issue arises, men tend to see it as a challenge and they react by either trying to solve the problem or overwhelm the problem with force or forcefulness. Most, certainly not all, men tend to have little patience with discussing a problem or issue for the sake of discussion. They prefer action, sometimes the quicker the better. Hesitation and pondering seem like weakness. This no doubt is hard-wired from days when the wooly mammoth had to be slain immediately before harm could be done to the hunter or supper escaped. Discussion at this point could have been fatal or at least inconvenient. It no doubt served him well in those days because he survived and flourished, as did the people who depended on him.
Women, on the other hand, tend to look at things more carefully. They consider consequences of their actions and how others might perceive their actions. It is important for women to discuss things at length, often to the complete irritation and disgust of the men in their lives. But what many men don’t understand, or only understand after many years, is that talking is how women work through things and arrive at carefully considered decisions. They process by hearing their thoughts spoken aloud and calibrating the reaction of others. No doubt, this is hard-wired as well through a long history as family mediator, guardian of social systems and the one charged with preserving group harmony.
Each brings value to the consideration of an issue. Women wonder about alternatives, consider contingencies and look for unforeseen consequences of actions. But at some point issues do have to be confronted, decisions have to be made and action taken. Men provide the impetus to action and bring about a solution.
It is a wise couple or society that recognizes the value of each.