Well tips for managing a marriage and kids is that there has to be lots of love and patients. If you dont have patients you will go crazy trust me I know. Know one can do it on there own. Hsving kids is a partnership it takes a a mother and a father to give kids all the attention and support they need. There is certain things that a mother can give a child that a dad can not, and there is certain things that a father can give that a mother cant. You also need to set aside time that you and your husband should spend alone together, wreather it is when the kids are in bed or if you can get a baby sitter for atleast an hour so you'll can get a few minutes alone. Parents need to have that alone time so its not jsut all about the kids. If it becomes all bout the kids and not any support for the marriage then sooner or later it will become to where the parents cant stand to be around each other any more and the romance will start fading, then so will the marriage. You should also spend one on one time with each kid atleast once a month if not more, mother with each and the father do the same so that none of the kids feel neglected and ignored especially if there is a new addition to the family. When there is a new addition to the family that's when the jealous and the acting out starts cause the older kids espicailly the child that was the youngest feels that they are no longer the baby of the family still needs to help out and feel like they are a big part of the babies life. So managing a marriage and children would have to be support from your spouse on decisions that you make about the kids or about the life you are leading. A marriage is suppose to be 50 50 is cant be all one sided that is not a happy marriage or life and it wont last.