You can help her by telling her it is not his choice whether she learns how to drive. She lives in America, not Iran. What would she do if tomorrow he decided she could not wear her clothes but had to wear a long robe and cover her face in public? What if he decides she needs to walk 10 feet behind him?.... oh wait I see he makes her do that already - psychologically speaking.
Are you serious? You have to ask what to do here?
All ya'all need some serious counseling in my opinion.
I hope you get it.
- Best Wishes