I personally think that the way we live is developed on nurture and not nature. The first thing is that the one that has nurtured you are wonderful for even sharing that bit of information because they really love you enough to tell you of the heart ache that caused the adoption in the first place. I believe that the child, should know of the adoption and also if they choose to contact. The biological parent they should inform the real parent (adopted parents) of their wishes and discuss it with them. Becasue some may know the biological parents already. I feel they should not get their hopes up, that it is going to be a happy meeting and also not to feel that they did anything wrong if the biological parents choose not to meet with the adopted child.