Living in a Hotel Room, Starting Over, Past the Shame
July 19, 2010 Updated September 10, 2014
Getting Past the Shame, Climbing Up and Out
In Living in a hotel part I - Lilly started out with practical ideas to gather needed resources and networks for a basic launch pad, and getting in out of the weather and off the streets.
Living in a hotel Part I are ideas and practical things that can be done, to readjust to a compacted life. The certainty is that when a person has their nose to the proverbial wall, there is only one way out, and this is One step at a time.
Of the many hurdles faced by the homeless, is overcoming Shame. The homeless do not have a Political Action Committee. Those earning less than $1,000,000 per year, don't have runners in the Hall of Congress.
The only force or power that the homeless or poverty housed, have to count on Charity (love in action).
Most of the time, in order to get resources, the displaced are dependent upon getting the right social worker, timing, or resources available. This Hub: Part II is addressing the mental and emotional turmoil, that can make a person feel like the good part of their life is over. It is one thing to feel low; it is another to feel the repulsion from almost everyone you meet - it is an added weight to the heart, that drives some to give up Hope.
There is an old saying, "No one loves you when you are down." This is true in some ways, but Lilly thinks the truest thing is we don't love ourselves, for our situation.
These are times when we are tested, and hopefully will come out better for the experience.
A survivor; Lilly has been through homelessness, first as a young girl, and then as an adult.
Lilly cannot help but notice when people are going through hell, trials and tribulations, it isn't just one thing that falls apart. It seems like an avalanche of "stuff happens".
- Is it because, the 'falling' is a spiral effect, drawing in every unsettled issue of a persons life?,
- Is personal chaos a sort of safety mechanism to keep us from dwelling on One sorrow too much?
Well meaning and curious people ask, "Well, how did this happen?" "How did that happen?" In a couple of years, you will be able to look back at those questions and come up with some Snappy answers. While it is happening to you, it is not easy to discern that they are not really asking for the steps to a homeless family's fall. It is not true concern as to what could possibly have happened in a displaced person's life, that this could transpire.
They are really asking:
- "What magic formula did you use to get caught in this mess?"
- "How do I keep this from happening to me?"
No one wants homelessness to happen to them .
Where Do You Live When You Lose Your Home?Click thumbnail to view full-size
Stuff Happens, it has happened to you, remember you are valuable and needed
If you have lost your home, your job and/or loved ones and pets. It is not your failing, even if you made stupid mistakes. Stuff Happens. It has happened to you, but you are valuable and needed .
This will turn around...
We are all on a path of learning and awareness. When we climb the paths that are less traveled, steps walked by fewer individuals, it is a wild trek surrounded by new and seemingly impossible challenges.
Each "one step" carries you forward, up, and out.
Do not give up hope . If you can be thankful for any 'one thing' , focus on that one thing . Make it a mantra, but don't give up .
As true as it is that many people are one "bad week away from homelessness", it is also true that one more day of trying can change it all around . By personal experience, changes happen in a matter of nano-seconds. It can be one minute , a simple tap from your Wild Angel on the Shoulder of that compassionate person who can bring you change. One conversation, one small errand done for another that can shift the whole rotten situation.
You are Loved. Things will get better. Peace and Blessings to you.
Government links to resources in North America
No woman no cry by Bob Marley YouTube
While writing this, finding a good quote on Empathy, led me to this work where Mother Teresa is quoted:
"Today I learned a good lesson. The poverty of the poor must be so hard for them. While looking for a home I walked and walked till my arms and legs ached. I thought how much they must ache in body and soul, looking for a home, food and health".
 Spink, Kathryn (1997). Mother Teresa: A Complete Authorized Biography. New York. HarperCollins, pp.37. ISBN 0-06-250825-3
Wikipedia - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother_Teresa
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