My House My Home

No matter how dreary and gray our homes are, we people of flesh and blood would rather live there than in any other country, be it ever so beautiful. There is no place like home.

L. Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard Of Oz

I love the above quote, because my house is my home. It is not about possessing something material, it is about the place where you cover from rain, listen to your own music, walk around dressed the way you feel. It is the place you have created a habitat; the smell, the decoration, every single thing that talks of your inside is right there.

What happens when moving is not a decision but a "must"?

Divorces are a big fat pain when it comes to issues of children and the transition of not being together again; but distribution of property is what really makes it difficult because one has to move. Moving implies trouble, stress, seeking...seeking implies investing time and money.

I will share my experience hoping it could benefit somebody out there.

I have a very good friend who tries to remind me that freedom is not being totally free; to this I add that life is about yours, mine and ours. When you have a family this is more obvious. If you do not know your family and you are a human living in this world you probably have a neighbor. That is why we need to have present that rights end where the others rights begin. For that we need to have wisdom if a separation comes by any means.

When a house is being searched to become a home, every opinion counts.

Changes are not totally bad; "We seek not rest but transformation. We are dancing through each other as doorways" (Marge Piercy). Moving to a new house gives the opportunity to a new beginning.

I was not rich so the houses I had to seek were low cost with some personal family specifications. None met our needs; that took me to seek a piece of land and contracted to build a house.

Everybody thought it was a bad idea. I went for it anyways...and today after so many years, I look back and breath in my home looking out from the porch. I love my home! I am not stuck to it either; if for any reason I need to go...I will change that page once again.

These are some of the steps I made seeking where to live:

1. Deciding that owning a house is a lot more expensive than renting because I would be paying for all the repairs; money invested was for my family also.
2. Finding a piece of land with schools for my three kids with different ages and that could be near my work.
3. Visiting the place different hours and different days.
4. Getting a mortgage approved to build the house.
5. Finding a descent, trustworthy constructor.
6. Getting a place while the construction was done.
7. Stretching money for rent, constructions needs and... my oh my... things that just came up because we live a life.
8. Running from office to office getting every paper that is needed in constructing and than to live in the house.

Maintenance is required every day once you live it.

Philippians 4:13 says:"I can do everything through Him who gives me strength". The course of our life is a sum of personal choices...life is short...try to be happy and make your house your home. Live the length and the width of your life, we only have one.

Blessings to all!

@ Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill