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Relying on others for success

Updated on January 11, 2012

Network marketing

A dream and a need to believe in it

I have been asked to get involved with opportunities that seem to be worthy of consideration and a chance to have a dream and a goal to strive for. Whenever I am approached to consider such an opportunity I may at first feel a little unsure and need time to think about it. I have been asked several times to consider different opportunities based on social networking. The basis of achieving success with these recommended opportunities is something that takes time, heart, patience, persistence, dedication and the cooperation of others. I usually find that with such opportunities that draw upon your skills to pitch the idea to others, that it is easy to get discouraged and walk away before you even get started. I have been excited on several occasions in making it work and I prepared a list of names of people who were immediate family, relatives and friends. When it seems they are not interested after I have asked to discuss the opportunity I kind of lose my enthusiasm and feel frustrated because it seems others I have met are able to find connections and successfully attract people to the opportunity but I am spinning my wheels most of the time.

When I decide to get involved with an opportunity it is with sincerity and with my son's special needs in mind. I would love to find a way to generate a stream of reliable income that builds upon itself after I have successfully architected it. That seems to be the most difficult part because you need to put a great deal of time into explaining the opportunity to others, showing it to them and proving to them that it is real and will lead to financial reward once the step by step process is followed in building it. I have come upon a great deal of skepticism from others and a brutally honest reply usually of "not interested". It seems the majority of people don't want to hurt your feelings but they just don't have the desire to get involved or believe it is a scam of some sort and not worthy of their time. I must admit when I come upon these reactions from others I consider family and friends, it is hard to stay enthusiastic about the opportunity and it kind of falls to the wayside and I get a bit discouraged because my intentions are always good and I really want to make it work.

I understand when you try to pitch an opportunity that requires both a financial and personal commitment that it is not so easy to find interested people and though I am willing to make such a commitment myself not many others are. In those cases it is so easy to lose interest and wind up walking away from it. I am not advocating this but the reality is that if you are going to make the sacrifice of time especially when you have a special needs child you want to make sure it is worth it. If you are devoting your time to something and not getting anywhere with it and you realize that your time can be well spent elsewhere then showing an opportunity to others who don't believe in it then you kind of lose the drive to continue with it and you give up on it.

I have been blogging now for a couple of years and I have inserted links into my writings and my website and I have asked many people to consider using the links but it seems to fall upon deaf ears and I make very little on these links. I write for personal reasons and to help encourage my son and try to offer advice to others. I am trying to incorporate some financial incentives in my writings but the rewards are purely personal. I am not expecting to make reliable streams of income from my writings because I don't attract enough readership and no one really seems interested in using the links. I even ask family at Christmastime to consider using the links and it seems only a handful of orders have been made through them. I will continue to write and add links but I realize that my main reason for writing is to express myself and try my best to help my son who means everything to me.

Upromise is a wonderful way to help save for college by doing everyday things such as shopping and dining out. Many of the groceries or clothing you buy are eligible for contributions to a fund you set up with them. The sponsors contribute a percentage of the purchase price of the items you buy anywhere from 2% to 6% and it goes into the fund usually within a month of the purchase date. You can also link it from the Upromise fund to a 529 College savings plan. I have set this up for my son and have provided links to family and friends who don't have to sign up. All they have to do is use the link and shop. I am still hoping someone will use it. It seems I am the only one taking advantage of it so I know I can rely on myself but it is hard to expect others to participate even if it is for a good cause. These are the frustrations you come upon when you have to rely on others to achieve some level of success.

Even as a CPA I need to rely on having a base of clients to achieve a level of success. I certainly can prepare the returns and meet their needs but without clients you can't survive. Even as an employee we have to rely on our employer to make a living so we can perform to our capabilities, provide our employer with our skill set and knowledge to fulfill their needs, continue to work to pay our bills and take care of our family and maintain a level of professionalism.

I often wonder how it is possible to really achieve true financial success with opportunities you portray as worthwhile where you have to rely on bringing others in. It seems most people are reluctant or I am just not asking the right people. I will never give up on my dreams but I have come to realize that my enthusiasm has become tempered a bit because of past experiences in trying to show others something they seem to feel is a waste of time.

I will continue to evaluate opportunities and hopefully integrate the right one into my life so I can find a way to take care of my son and not have to worry. I am still looking and will try to find that special one that hopefully will be the right one.

I also wish to find the right opportunity so I can help others which is something I always wanted to do. If I won the Mega lottery I know I would share the wealth with my family, friends and charities. If I were able to build a successful business I would do the same.

Edward D. Iannielli III

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    • ediann profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Thank you Taleb for your kindness and your encouraging words. Ed

    • Taleb80 profile image

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      Thank you for the reply.

      I am happy to find a great father like you.

      I am sure you & your son will have a great future by shaking hands together.

      Difficulties will not stay forever.

      When I was typing these words, one person has told me that his brothers told him (even he did not asked them) that we will support you financially to get married as you did before, he was so happy as he is facing financial issues nowadays, while he hope to get married as he is getting older fast.

      My best wishes.

      Have a happy life.

    • ediann profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Dear Taleb, Thank you for those encouraging words and for your insight. I truly appreciate it and am grateful for meeting nice people like you here at hubpages. I am very blessed to have wonderful people in my life. I will do all I can for my son and realize his special needs. This is why I am trying to find a way to help him. My main incentive is to encourage and motivate him. He inspires me everyday and I have started my journey in writing because of him and a family tragedy. I appreciate your kindness and your good wishes. Thank you very much.

    • Taleb80 profile image

      Taleb AlDris 

      7 years ago


      It is said "maybe the last key will open the door"

      Even the richest people in the world depend on others for growing.

      Don't give up.

      Do your best to bring the smile to others, I am sure you will laugh .

      I hope all the best for you & your son.

      I voted UP & beautiful.

      By the way I am a chief accountant.

      Thanks for sharing


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