Things to do After You Retire -- part two
Leave the house! Find the Fountain of Youth!
Way too many retirees get in a rut with staying in the comfort of their homes, watching TV, taking a nap, reading, spending hours on the computer playing computer games, texting with friends and basically doing nothing productive at all! And, in most cases, they cannot vary their routines . . . they must do this on Monday, this on Tuesday, that on Wednesday, ad nauseam! I love the words "Shake it up" -- make the necessary changes to spice up your life and your relationships. In searching for some suggestions, I came across the Stilettos Magazine site. Check out their recommendations to shake things up and improve your life: http://stilettosmagazine.com/2011/12/how-to-shake-things-up-and-improve-your-life/
The above site is geared toward women, but some of their suggestions apply to both men and women! Just remember what you used to do to shake things up, to improve your life and give you back the excitement or as a friend said "sexcitement". Then, you will get the desires back that you thought you had lost forever.
Some very smart, anonymous to me, person wrote the following, which I hope to follow:
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave
with the intention of arriving safely
in an attractive and well preserved body,
But rather to skid in sideways,
chocolate in one hand,
wine in the other,
body thoroughly used up,
totally worn out and screaming
"WOO HOO what a ride!"
If anyone can provide the author's name I will give them credit for this wonderful poem!
We should all set aside time for family and friends; however, we should get out of the house! Why not spend a few minutes each day working in the yard? Plant a tree, shrubs or plants and give them TLC every day! As you watch them flourish from your loving care, you, too, will be flourishing.
Go to a local park and, if you have a dog, walk him/her around the park. It's good exercise for both of you. If you do not own a dog, go ahead and walk anyway!
Check out your county or city's senior citizens programs. Membership at the local Y is another worthy membership to consider. The dues are on a sliding scale, based on income and number of people in your family wanting to join. Just Google the city, state and YMCA to find the nearest Y to you. Under their My Y you can calculate your monthly dues. They begin at $36 per month in my area, for an individual rate at the lowest income level; however, there may be specials and other pricing structures for couples and families.
Learn to swim, if you do not already know how to swim! Join water aerobics classes. I was on a cruise recently and my partner showed me the correct way to swim and he taught me how to float!!! That was something I had never learned how to do. I was so excited and can't wait to keep swimming and floating every time I get in the pool. Why hadn't I taken swim lessons before?!? So, do not think you are too old to learn, if I can do it, so can you! By the way, that's the first cruise I have ever been on that I lost weight, instead of gaining 2 to 10 pounds! We were active the entire time -- we used the gym, the pool, the whirlpool, the spa for massages and the dance floor! If you do not know how to dance, then take lessons! I plan to do that as well. I've always loved dancing, but it's been way too long since my Arthur Murray lessons at 18! So, that's on my Bucket List, too!
Years ago a sixty-five year old woman learned how to swim and with daily practice, she accomplished so many things, but the most important one was that she was able to eliminate her arthritis pain! You should check out this website and read what exercise does for you: http://nwhn.org/fountain-youth
On a final note, during my search for that fountain of youth site, I came across another one that was pretty upsetting. It said that women over fifty-five lose interest in having sex with their husbands! What?!? First, let me clarify for you, it was written, and I quote, by Dalrock "Thoughts from a happily married father on a post feminist world.
My first reaction was his wife must be over fifty-five and told him she nor her friends are interested in sex any longer. Blame it on hormones or whatever! Okay, I must confess, IF you no longer have the animal charismatic attraction for each other you need to first look in the mirror and realize that you MUST do something to get that "IT" look back! You can look sexy and attractive again! Maybe you are like me and need to lose the extra pounds that you've gained over the years to make yourself feel attractive again. In addition, you must start working on your appearance each day -- even when you are home alone! If you do not like what you see in the mirror, then work on that image! I gained extra weight after I turned fifty, whether I can accurately blame that on hormonal, stress or other imbalances in my body and life, I won't. Because I could still have done something about that imbalance instead of letting it continue to affect my body and mind. Yes, body, heart and soul all go into your brain and affect you accordingly. And, extra weight does affect all of our body parts, including your mind! YOU must love yourself first, then others will love you, too!
To prove this point, look back to the day you fell in love, or the first day you met the man that you wanted to date. What did you do every time you knew you were going to see this guy? You made every effort to look sexy, attractive and appealing to him, right? Although our bodies and outward appearance has changed with the aging process, that's okay, you still have that animal magnet inside of you! You just need to do whatever it takes to make you like your image in the mirror to get the magnet working again. When I decided to start living again and overcoming all health obstacles and mind obstacles, I became alive again inside. Losing weight is first and foremost for your own health, then you will start experiencing feelings that you did not know you still had! For those who have diabetes, as I do, you will find that by losing weight, counting your carbs and controlling not just what you eat, but the amount of what you eat will help you maintain your blood glucose and your weight. What a win-win situation that is!
I used to love going to Zig Ziglar's positive thinking seminars. All day long, motivational speakers would stand up before the large crowd and get us all pumped up, thinking positive about everything. Then, we'd leave and attempt to pass this enthusiasm on to our family and friends and get shut down. That's when I learned to stay motivated you have to work on it every day! Eventually you will find that if you give someone a smile you will get one in return. So, smile at everyone and eventually it will become a habit and not something you have to keep reminding yourself to do. Try it and let me know how it works for you!
These are some of my favorite Zig Ziglar quotes:
“People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing--that's why we recommend it daily.” ― Zig Ziglar
“The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want right now” ― Zig Ziglar
“If you go out looking for friends, you're going to find they are very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere.” ― Zig Ziglar
“Duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully.” ― Zig Ziglar
And, finally, one we must truly learn from:
“Make failure your teacher, not your undertaker.” ― Zig Ziglar
Do an Internet search for Zig Ziglar and you will find his website. I highly recommend reading his motivational books; however, he is much better to listen to! So, if you can't catch him in person, get a DVD or CD to hear him speak. I promise you that you will walk away with a smile on your face and a goal to do whatever it is that you've been struggling to do for years. Good luck!